Will you share your deepest and darkest fantasies with your partner?

[MessyComplicated]

Will you ever open up and share about your darkest fanatsies with your partner? Or will you even try to act out RP them?

It's take every inch of guts to share your darkest fanatsies as the fear of judgement and reaction haunt us.

If anyone has shared their fanatasies, what was the reaction of the partner?

 

[SissySalina]

Yes She and sissy shares, they are usually discussed on the sofa during quiet times and She is always thankful for sissy's truthfulness.

 

[davion2308]

I have shared some of my fantasies and we've done quite a few of them. Those are the ones that a bit more vanilla. My wife is a wonderful woman, sexually engaged and she likes fucking. But she's still conservative enough that I don't think she'd like what I really, really want deep down. I also think she's threatened and insecure and knowing what I want would intimidate her and cause undue anxiety.

 

[MessyComplicated]

We share fantasies quite a bit. Many of my wife's fantasies are scenarios I experienced in a former life. My fantasies are seeing my wife having to endure some of hers !

It's bit confusing and hazy. More details will be good

 

[MessyComplicated]

I have shared some of my fantasies and we've done quite a few of them. Those are the ones that a bit more vanilla. My wife is a wonderful woman, sexually engaged and she likes fucking. But she's still conservative enough that I don't think she'd like what I really, really want deep down. I also think she's threatened and insecure and knowing what I want would intimidate her and cause undue anxiety.

It's tough and risky to open up about darkest fanatsies.

 

[SavannaT]

Oh fuck no, lol they involve other men, some old enough to be his granddad and using me in a way I’d know would break his heart

 

[Goldenfinger]

That kind of sharing is hard. Thinking it and saying it are two totally different things. Another Thing is people fantasize about stuff that they would never do. The thought of what someone else thinks also plays a factor.

Not all fantasies are sexual. I was in the military for a long time, saw a lot of crazy shit. It took me years to share the darker things that ran through my head with my wife.

 

[MessyComplicated]

That kind of sharing is hard. Thinking it and saying it are two totally different things. Another Thing is people fantasize about stuff that they would never do. The thought of what someone else thinks also plays a factor.

Not all fantasies are sexual. I was in the military for a long time, saw a lot of crazy shit. It took me years to share the darker things that ran through my head with my wife.

What affects did those have on your relationship?

 

[BoredIzzie]

My wife and I have shared several and have worked on the ones that we'd like to become reality.

 

[dreamysub]

I've tryed, but been told "The less I know the happier I am."

So no, I wouldn't. Not anymore.

 

[TravisAW]

Any fantasies that involve her, then yes, in fact I have. Usually I preface them with "of course, it's just a fantasy, I wouldn't really want it to happen", which relaxes her.

 

[vrswingers66]

Yes, we share all our dark, not so dark, and very dark, secrets. Now, this did not happen on day one, I have been married for 26 years, and if memory serves me right, we shared our first dark secret after 10 years of being married. Some we have made a reality, some we leave for fantasy only, and some we will one day make a reality.

 

[gtnlynn]

Yes. I think I have shared everything with her, and she has shared most things with me. She has refused to answer a few questions, but I think I know the answers.

 

[SmokingFap]

Will you ever open up and share about your darkest fanatsies with your partner? Or will you even try to act out RP them?

It's take every inch of guts to share your darkest fanatsies as the fear of judgement and reaction haunt us.

If anyone has shared their fanatasies, what was the reaction of the partner?

I have always been very open with all of my girlfriends and wife, as I've been fortunate to be with some very open-minded, adventurous women. But there is one fantasy that I've never shared with anyone until I met some like-minded folks here on Lit. I think there are some things that you almost have to discuss anonymously first, then just hope you get a chance to meet the person who shares your fantasy.

 

[Buttercreme93]

Will you ever open up and share about your darkest fanatsies with your partner? Or will you even try to act out RP them?

It's take every inch of guts to share your darkest fanatsies as the fear of judgement and reaction haunt us.

If anyone has shared their fanatasies, what was the reaction of the partner?

Yes and I have. You are right though in saying it takes a lot of gut to sit down and have that conversation and to be open and honest about it especially if it goes outside of that normal box that we associate with most married couples. You have to be open to sharing and then also be open to hearing theirs and not judging as well.

 

[allthetimeitsthere]

I have always been very open with all of my girlfriends and wife, as I've been fortunate to be with some very open-minded, adventurous women. But there is one fantasy that I've never shared with anyone until I met some like-minded folks here on Lit. I think there are some things that you almost have to discuss anonymously first, then just hope you get a chance to meet the person who shares your fantasy.

Ditto to that, when you have the right person to act/speak with it's very easy

 

[Wonderer67]

Yes, my wife and I are very open with each other. It doesn’t mean she wants to indulge each one of them, but I feel very fortunate that she does not think I’m “weird” or “crazy”.

I’m just super sexual.

And I’m glad I can share it with her.

 

[live4thebj]

No. She wouldn’t understand.

 

[MessyComplicated]

Yes, we share all our dark, not so dark, and very dark, secrets. Now, this did not happen on day one, I have been married for 26 years, and if memory serves me right, we shared our first dark secret after 10 years of being married. Some we have made a reality, some we leave for fantasy only, and some we will one day make a reality.

Who opened up first about fanatsies?

 

[MessyComplicated]

I have always been very open with all of my girlfriends and wife, as I've been fortunate to be with some very open-minded, adventurous women. But there is one fantasy that I've never shared with anyone until I met some like-minded folks here on Lit. I think there are some things that you almost have to discuss anonymously first, then just hope you get a chance to meet the person who shares your fantasy.

 

[MessyComplicated]

But

Ditto to that, when you have the right person to act/speak with it's very easy

But how do you know that your partner is the right person?

 

[MessyComplicated]

No. She wouldn’t understand.

Why? Will she judge you?

 

[live4thebj]

Why? Will she judge you?

Yea. Not everyone we are with is like minded. I could have had my slew of choices of sexual woman that would fucked me like we were in a porn movie and indulge me in my fantasies. But instead I fell in love with someone totally the opposite. Sex isn’t everything.

 

[Lady2020]

I don't have any. Cock worshipping is so passé.

 

[nostuff]

Not a chance. I once observed that two women with whom I worked were hot, and the response was not something I care to repeat.

In my defense, my coworkers were really hot.