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All good points. I still don't get the "SMYT" guys, there are hundreds of sites with those things out there and even an AM PIC forum here. I know it is a sex site but to just assume everyone here is an uninhabited exhibitionist is just plain silly.
 
Just a simple hello, how are you can make someone's day, where as a dick pic or lude comment can ruin it
 
Froya said:
I've told men, right up front, that I'm not into swapping pictures. They say okay, but then they continue to nudge continually. Sometimes they'll link a picture of themselves, as incentive. You know, I can see how that kind of pressure might work on some women, particularly the "I've shown you me, it's only fair" tactic.

Not everyone has the same barrier system, and some will feel pressured and want someone to like them enough that they'll give in to it.
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It is the feeling of being pressured that I think makes so many run away from this site.
 
I don't deal with pictures. I'm here in part to indulge in fantasy. I'm not here to flaunt my reality overly much so am not sending my photos and honestly I care more about how you use words than your picture as well since if I just wanted photos I could look up porn, couldn't I?
 
The_gladiator said:
I don't deal with pictures. I'm here in part to indulge in fantasy. I'm not here to flaunt my reality overly much so am not sending my photos and honestly I care more about how you use words than your picture as well since if I just wanted photos I could look up porn, couldn't I?
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I have found if you don't ask for a photo, at some point either the person you are talking to will ask if you want to see one or just send you one. Once a connection and trust is established.
 
I think time and patience are also factors. You have to put in some time on the forum in general chat areas, make connections, banter, etc.... unsolicited messages are unlikely to get any response i'd imagine, vs , for example, sending a private message to someone that you've sparked with on the site in one of the many other areas of the forum.
 
twiddlw said:
I think time and patience are also factors. You have to put in some time on the forum in general chat areas, make connections, banter, etc.... unsolicited messages are unlikely to get any response i'd imagine, vs , for example, sending a private message to someone that you've sparked with on the site in one of the many other areas of the forum.
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And with that comes the ability of the person you are messaging to take a look at some of the things you have posted so they can gage you a bit as well.

I tend to look at the posts a person has done before I message them, even if we have had a decent connection on a particular forum. It gives me a better idea and more things to think about in making a stronger connection in PMs
 
rlaflamme said:
And with that comes the ability of the person you are messaging to take a look at some of the things you have posted so they can gage you a bit as well.

I tend to look at the posts a person has done before I message them, even if we have had a decent connection on a particular forum. It gives me a better idea and more things to think about in making a stronger connection in PMs
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This thread has been an interesting read. Do you have a link to your stories, I think I would enjoy taking a peek at them.
 
rlaflamme said:
Thank you both, it is nice to know my little tales are being read again. I have not written anything in some time. It was actually my writing that brought me here and I discovered the forums much later.
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Your very welcome sweetheart. 😘
 
Good morning Literotica! I was sitting and drinking my coffee and yes, another thought popped in my head. Is grammar and proper grammar usage or lack of proper grammar usage a thing that will make or break you from having a conversation?

Like, does "text talk" make you want to stop a conversation with someone? Beyond the sex part of this site it is a site that is based on words and language after all.
 
rlaflamme said:
Good morning Literotica! I was sitting and drinking my coffee and yes, another thought popped in my head. Is grammar and proper grammar usage or lack of proper grammar usage a thing that will make or break you from having a conversation?

Like, does "text talk" make you want to stop a conversation with someone? Beyond the sex part of this site it is a site that is based on words and language after all.
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For me, definitely. While i'm not adverse to txt speak on an actual phone, where it can be handy to convey a message quickly. I think if your going to go in depth on a conversation with someone, and especially if your using a keyboard, then you should attempt to converse properly, in a much as you can, as i get there may be a language barrier, and/or geographical quirks to your english ;)
 
rlaflamme said:
Good morning Literotica! I was sitting and drinking my coffee and yes, another thought popped in my head. Is grammar and proper grammar usage or lack of proper grammar usage a thing that will make or break you from having a conversation?

Like, does "text talk" make you want to stop a conversation with someone? Beyond the sex part of this site it is a site that is based on words and language after all.
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Text talk can annoy me, I'll admit. I'll even own that it likely has to do with my age. It very well could determine how much I want to continue the conversation.

Poor grammar, however, isn't a deal breaker, as long as it's not so bad I can't follow what's being said. I've talked to some very interesting, intelligent people who just didn't have a great grasp of grammar for a number of reasons. Still, they were able to write well enough to engage me, to make their thoughts clear, and to express something of their personality.

I've had wonderful conversations with people who were funny, charming, smart, and didn't know a comma splice from a semi-colon.
 
Froya said:
Text talk can annoy me, I'll admit. I'll even own that it likely has to do with my age. It very well could determine how much I want to continue the conversation.

Poor grammar, however, isn't a deal breaker, as long as it's not so bad I can't follow what's being said. I've talked to some very interesting, intelligent people who just didn't have a great grasp of grammar for a number of reasons. Still, they were able to write well enough to engage me, to make their thoughts clear, and to express something of their personality.

I've had wonderful conversations with people who were funny, charming, smart, and didn't know a comma splice from a semi-colon.
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I agree with most of this. I grew up with the netspeak generation, prior to before it was even txt speak, but I found myself growing out of it. Is it really that difficult to type out you rather than just saying u.

I will admit in my mind if someone writes how are you, I tend to think they present themself as more intelligent as someone that writes how r u? I understand that they might not be connected at all, but that's just me.
However what really drives me bonkers is those that DeCiDe tO rAnDoMLy CaPiTolIze rANdOm letters in a sentence. Like that actually made my brain hurt to type that, and reading it is just a nightmare to me. But I haven't seen that in a few years so go me.

My grammar isn't perfect. I care less about that, it's more about the words and the idea they're striving to give me. If there's emotion involved even misspelling can still be hot. I knew someone I used to cyber with who made typing errors all the time, however the ideas she was trying to get across that it still aroused me.
 
I am very irritated by text talk or poor spelling, grammar, etc. I don't even like abbreviations much. I would say any of those are definite turn-offs for me. And I don't think it is an age thing -- I am a millennial.

But I love great conversation -- in writing or in person. Finding people with whom one can have a wonderful conversation is a real gift.
 
Sweet_Cupcake said:
I am very irritated by text talk or poor spelling, grammar, etc. I don't even like abbreviations much. I would say any of those are definite turn-offs for me. And I don't think it is an age thing -- I am a millennial.

But I love great conversation -- in writing or in person. Finding people with whom one can have a wonderful conversation is a real gift.
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I agree with you. Old habits die hard for me, and I find myself writing brb or ttyl on occasion still or the old stand by lol. However more and more I value typing it all out, giving the person complete sentences.
 
The_gladiator said:
I agree with you. Old habits die hard for me, and I find myself writing brb or ttyl on occasion still or the old stand by lol. However more and more I value typing it all out, giving the person complete sentences.
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I do the lol things a lot and brb, but I think those are the only ones I really use. I think I have to pay more attention to the way I type.
 
rlaflamme said:
I do the lol things a lot and brb, but I think those are the only ones I really use. I think I have to pay more attention to the way I type.
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Years ago they populated my conversations often but now I don't as much it still depends on the forum you're using. Sometimes on your phone that's all you can get out. I think lol has a life of it's own and is rarely used for what it really means in my opinion.
 
Some of those words are now official dictionary words

OMG, LOL and FYI are in there as far i know.
 
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