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See, apparently I'm a bitch, but at least it's unintentional.BUT…. let’s also reframe using our oft discussed LW conundrum. Suppose you were instead writing a story about a wife having an affair then getting caught then ultimately the couple works through it. Just suppose.
And suppose your proofreader had said, “some readers might be so offended that the husband reconciled, they will act like idiots, will write hate filled comments, and may even sabotage the scores of other stories of yours,” would you be here criticizing, punishing, and publicly shaming them?
What happened here is, your proofreader pointed out that some readers will be ignoramuses.
Acknowledging that a flawed belief system exists is not the same thing as holding that flawed belief system. Your proofreader’s percentages were certainly incorrect, but I’ll be kind and point out the possibility that he may have also been dramatizing the numbers, for effect. But even if the proofreader is in fact squeamish about period sex, their assessment that *some* readers will be less enlightened and thereby squeamish is not incorrect.
The screenshots by the way, made it more of a public shaming, not less.
So yes, you do owe your proofreader an apology. I would suggest you owe your other proofreaders full disclosure at what you did too, so they can decide whether they want to keep working with you. Someday, a different topic probably, their opinion will differ to yours. Someday they too may have a thread written about them. I know I would be running the other way.
Final double-down disclaimer repeated: I personally have no problem with period sex. My point in this thread, again, is “acknowledging that flawed belief systems exist is not the same as agreeing with those flawed belief systems.” And, my point is, public shaming isn’t a good look.
It's not - remotely - innately disgusting, FWIW. I first did so many years ago and haven't since decided I loathed the idea. Same for period sex. To each their own, of course.I'm not a lesbian, but even if I was, I'l don't think I could bring myself to eat out a bloody pussy.
Some people enjoy or tolerate urine or feces in their mouths or on their bodies; is being indifferent to or accepting of menstruation so much more challenging?
No - I'd even argue it's less challenging - but if you include urine or faeces in your story, you'd likely tag it accordingly, and maybe even include a serious warning at the opening sentences of your foreword. And having written a number of stories that include watersports and the consumption of urine, I know that it's something that gets a lot of readers to click on the story then instantly 'Nope' out of there - which I think is completely fair, of course. Thus, it will alienate a number of readers. If your goal is to avoid that, I would advice staying far away from these topics.
If it's included purely as an important plot point - like in MediocreAuthor's story - then I agree with the previous posters that it probably shouldn't be described in graphic detail. You won't appeal to fetishists by only briefly glossing over it, but you will alienate some squeamish readers, essentially getting the worst of both worlds. Either go all in or leave as much unsaid as possible, I think.
(dude saw the light, too late)No way!
Em
What happened here is, your proofreader pointed out that some readers will be ignoramuses.
Acknowledging that a flawed belief system exists is not the same thing as holding that flawed belief system. Your proofreader’s percentages were certainly incorrect, but I’ll be kind and point out the possibility that he may have also been dramatizing the numbers, for effect. But even if the proofreader is in fact squeamish about period sex, their assessment that *some* readers will be less enlightened and thereby squeamish is not incorrect.
5) Honestly, I don't think (even if he was repulsed by period blood) that it's something to be incredibly ashamed of. Some people have hemophobia, and faint at the sight of blood. Is that shameful? Not in my opinion
Just read one. O-M-F-G!!!!(dude saw the light, too late)
Plenty more where those came from :-/
Hmm... I might be expecting a decline with my incest story, because pms, and pregnancy is happnin' eventually. Hey... it's their own fault if they don't like it.It doesn't bother me in the slightest - but if ratings matter to you, then yeah, some men are squeamish about anything which does not represent the female body as purely existing for the sole purpose of giving male sexual pleasure, e.g. periods, lactation, pregnancy, stretch marks, perineal tears, haemorrhoids. I enjoy writing about the female body in all its multi-faceted glory - but I am not too worried about my ratings...
Violet_Vixen writes about period blood, and may have some wisdom on the matter.
Some people just don't like the ugly natural things-- I have an aversion to farts. IDGAF how natural it is. No need to be a mysoginst for not liking a chick on their period. It's not a turn-on for a number of men. It doesn't stop me... hell... I've got a small collection of red wing badges on my sash.Menstruation is part of female human life through much of the life-cycle. It's honestly stupid and weird to object to it. I mean, how do you possibly think it's a bad thing to refer to this, without being just over-the-top misogynist?
And, ok, I accept that a lot of our culture is over-the-top misogynist, but still.
Mention it as you feel appropriate. Make it a plot point as you feel appropriate. I honestly think that doing otherwise is avoiding basic biology and living in a weird fantasy world, and not the fun kind where we get to fly or shoot fireballs from our hands.
I'm a hetero man, but to me that means "I think women are fucking awesome and I love them and think they're appealing and attractive". That doesn't mean being drawn to a bizarre sanitized version of them that doesn't correspond to how they actually are.
I don't think you need to or ought to pander to the sketchy misogynists.
Partly, and a lack of education in schools so parents tell their kids roughly what they were told plus a little extra info.Is this an age thing, I wonder?
Em
What is this? I wonder if Google is localizing my search results somehow (to the US), because all I get are medical waste disposal companies with "sanpro" in their names. Even "sanpro UK" gets me names of companies.sanpro
I think the 99.9999% thing was intended as humorous hyperbole.At the point where they've added that many nines after the decimal point, it seems reasonable to suppose that they're counting themselves in that supposed majority, when they've said nothing to indicate otherwise.
It is a monthly (close to it) bodily function, a woman flushing out an unfertilized egg, meaning she is safe for the next week or so. Like everything, it can and will be fetishized, and will gross out some men who have never lived with a woman (and some who have).In the third chapter of my story "The Price of Embezzlement" I bring up the FMC's period as an important plot point.
In the previous chapters, Ruth is forced to walk around the office without panties. But when her period hits, Brent tells her that she can wear panties with her pad, but she must remove her bra instead. She's in the office bathroom when she realizes that she is no longer spotting, and she hasn't been since her shower that morning. She wipes with a sanitary wipe to be sure, and again there is no blood. So she removes her panties again.
One of my four proof-readers (a man) figured that this might be enough to scare off some male readers.
For the record, there is no blood featured, and this is not going into fetish.
Who here agrees or disagrees?
Could be. But also I think the guys that are like that are the same ones afraid to hold their girls purse. It's some kinda gender issue I can't right currently put a name to. The Hank Hills of the world.Partly, and a lack of education in schools so parents tell their kids roughly what they were told plus a little extra info.
I recall in college my mate was going shopping (about a 20 minute walk) and asked if I wanted anything. I asked for 2 pints of milk and a pack of tampons. He sensibly asked what tampons, so I gave him part of the empty box.
A female student overheard and was shocked that I'd asked for so much. I agreed that the milk would be heavy and told him one pint would be fine. No, she was referring to expecting a 20-year-old lad to buy tampons in a supermarket...
This was early 90s so at least boys had been taught in school what periods were and key details to pass GCSE Biology, but lots of my male friends didn't realise the bleeding lasts several days, they can be irregular, bleeding can be a sudden gush, etc. It was still expected that one didn't mention periods in front of men, even family.
Actually, even ten years or so ago my young brother-in-law saw a bunch of sanpro openly out in the bathroom and mentioned I should put it away (because he assumed it must be there by accident). We schooled him.
I think it might be Sanipro. Could be wrong.What is this? I wonder if Google is localizing my search results somehow (to the US), because all I get are medical waste disposal companies with "sanpro" in their names. Even "sanpro UK" gets me names of companies.