SimonBrooke
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I think this is really my main question, because everyone is talking about "brats" in one of these three ways. Some people seem to think its a mood, others a personality, and others a willful act. Whichever one a person thinks, seems to shape their attitude towards brats. So yeah, I think this is the main thing.
I think the definition of brattiness is that it's to some degree wilful. OK, some brats are more wilful than others, and some people are only wilful at times.
But, you know, I think this 'brattiness is good/brattiness is bad' thing is a matter of degree (ZRT has already pretty much said this). A sub who regularly did something she knew actively annoyed me in order to get a reaction would get very irritating very quickly, and wouldn't remain a sub of mine long. But equally someone who was a total doormat would not interest me very much.
I don't believe that being an occasional brat means one is less than submissive...
Exactly. It's often good to have a rule which exists simply to be broken, and the breaking of which leads to some particular punishment which I enjoy giving and she enjoys receiving. What that 'play' rule is depends on the relationship, of course. But BDSM is all about play, essentially, so you ought to be able to find one.
Oh, and - brattiness is essentially attention seeking. So if your sub is being brattier than usual, it's a good signal that she isn't getting enough attention.