cocktaildress21
Really Experienced
- Joined
- Sep 4, 2019
- Posts
- 185
Have you ever had a dominant state - as if it were their god given right: Well, you're the submissive, all you really need to do is what you're told.
My reply is, generally, if you're not going to pay attention to my wants and needs, you're going to have an incredibly hard time getting anywhere with me, at all. At best, you'll get a polite 'no thank you'. At worst, I'll laugh in your face. I'm in a relationship now - and maybe my great fortune is that I more or less taught her to be dominant - but it came up recently, at a ... thing. I don't do 'sex parties', but this was a similar sort of thing. No actual sex going on, but all the invited were ... god, I hate the term 'part of the scene' or even worse, part of the 'dark universe'. Sounds so unbelievably Vin Diesel (and you're excused if you don't get the reference).
So anyways, this guy told me how very experienced he was as a dom, and how he controlled everything, and girls would just love every moment of him doing whatever he wanted to them - and I told him in fairly clear terms that I considered extraordinarily doubtful, and that in all my (wait for it ......) four years of experience in this game I've never met even a single sub, male or female, who enjoyed their dom paying zero attention to what they wanted.
Eh, rant off. I just wanted that off my chest. He was an absolute dick about everything.
Am I wrong? The sub defines the playing field. Then - but only then - does the dom get to play. Freely, though. But within defined borders. Admittedly, at times the borders are defined as 'anything you like, until I say 'safeword'. But I've frankly never heard such poorly defined borders used among anything but well established ... partners or playmates or whatever.
Right?
My reply is, generally, if you're not going to pay attention to my wants and needs, you're going to have an incredibly hard time getting anywhere with me, at all. At best, you'll get a polite 'no thank you'. At worst, I'll laugh in your face. I'm in a relationship now - and maybe my great fortune is that I more or less taught her to be dominant - but it came up recently, at a ... thing. I don't do 'sex parties', but this was a similar sort of thing. No actual sex going on, but all the invited were ... god, I hate the term 'part of the scene' or even worse, part of the 'dark universe'. Sounds so unbelievably Vin Diesel (and you're excused if you don't get the reference).
So anyways, this guy told me how very experienced he was as a dom, and how he controlled everything, and girls would just love every moment of him doing whatever he wanted to them - and I told him in fairly clear terms that I considered extraordinarily doubtful, and that in all my (wait for it ......) four years of experience in this game I've never met even a single sub, male or female, who enjoyed their dom paying zero attention to what they wanted.
Eh, rant off. I just wanted that off my chest. He was an absolute dick about everything.
Am I wrong? The sub defines the playing field. Then - but only then - does the dom get to play. Freely, though. But within defined borders. Admittedly, at times the borders are defined as 'anything you like, until I say 'safeword'. But I've frankly never heard such poorly defined borders used among anything but well established ... partners or playmates or whatever.
Right?