First time apprahensions?

[bicurious19]

bi guys, what where your biggest apprehension(s) when you took the plunge, or what’s keeping you from doing it?
I’m only attracted to t girls, and am only interested in being a bottom.
I had a lot of experience and was well practised with dildo’s and vibrators. That’s what I was looking forward to most. A big hard cock up my ass. The problem I faced was, even though I found watching guys suck shemale cocks in porno’s I was most concerned and apprehensive with that act.
Before going into it I knew, that I wanted to do it all at once. Not in steps or anything. I also knew that to experience being a bottom properly I had to take a cock in my mouth.
A small part was a lot more okay with the idea of my partner was already hard, I just wasn’t excited with a soft flaccid cock.
Well my partner being large, she was large even flaccid. Well, we’re semi naked, lingerie etc. laying next to each making out, and trying to get her hard by jerking her. All the while a voice protesting, you got a cock in your hand… any way. Kept going, and we eventually got past the point of inevitability. I was directed down to her still semi soft cock. As she pushed my head down, I reassured myself again with the line, ‘still, even if don’t like it, no one will know’… now I’ve got a dick in my mouth. It wasn’t terrible in and of its self, except for the voice screaming there’s a cock in your mouth. Regardless of the protesting voice, I kept it in my mouth, compensating for not know what I was doing by just keeping all of it in my mouth. Very soon it began to grow. I could taste a bit of pre cum which was strangely exciting. Soon, she was hard and I found myself hard too. It started to get fun and exiting.
Strange thing is, even now… after many many experiences…. I’m still not a fan of my partners flaccid dicks…

 

[nostuff]

bi guys, what where your biggest apprehension(s) when you took the plunge, or what’s keeping you from doing it?

My biggest apprehensions? Name something.

I was worried somebody would recognize me, tell my wife, tell my family, tell my friends. And though I was 1,000 miles from home when I sucked my first cock, I still worried that I would be discovered.

I worried that I might do it wrong.

I worried that I might not like it.

I worried that things might get out of control, physically speaking.

I worried that nobody would want me, even though I went to a bathhouse full of naked men.

Oh, the list goes on, almost all of it irrational. But I finally buried those fears long enough to experience my first man, and oh my gawd, it was wonderful. I'm so glad I did it, and I keep on doing it, though not often enough. I'm thrilled that another man wants me, and I get so excited when I see his hardening cock, when I feel it in my hand, when I lean down to take the head between my lips, when I feel him pushing toward my throat. I love it all.

As far as my lover being flaccid, that's nothing more than the preliminaries or a satisfying end. If he's soft before we get started, I love the chance to make him hard, either with my hand or with my mouth. It shows how much he wants me.

When he goes soft at the end, that's just a pleasant transition. Nor do I mind gently noshing a bit on a soft cock. You never know, you might find he's ready to go again.

 

[Travler99921]

Even though she said it was OK, I was apprehensive that once I did it, my wife would not accept me being a cocksucker. I was apprehensive I would not do it very well.

 

[HeatherMaureen8065]

We all get nervous and scared and overthink it! It's natural. I was shaking like a leaf the first time I feminised my body and dressed for a man! I was sure he'd reject me and leave me stranded in the middle of a busy parking lot dressed like a girl with no where to go! Then I was sure I'd do something else wrong and be kicked out of the car for it! Groundless fears as it turned out.

 

[klippert]

Mine and still is: STDz.
If you're single and someone finds out you're crossing the line, cross-dress or caught sucking cock. you can, embarrassingly explain it away or Cry Victim. STD... no victim or Splaining that away and you brought it home. For kicks I'll check out that site sniffies. 7 of 10 all have recent 'test' scores, thankfully they are honest. That tells me they have multiple partners and know they are in a high risk pool. So I stay a long way away from the quick; get in and get out apps and sites... me personally. Yes, STDz are still previlant they're just not discussed because "sex" especially alt-sex is political

fortunately my buddy and I work for companies that require physical and DOT's. The semi annual physical does all the work-ups. You have to request any special workup. We are both Married Bi and He's much less M/M experienced than me. I was playing Russian Rolette back in the 90s and for his piece of mind and have had dozens of physicals and I know there have been blood supply contaminations, history of prostate cancer in my family (made a good excuse) I checked the box for extensive workup.. all Neg.

 

[Beachguy28117]

I have experienced different iterations of it. I wound up as a cum tray in an adult book store on a trip. I started out with one guy and soon there were several. I got lost in the pure happiness so I don’t remember all the details - just that I loved being the cum tray and all the Dick’s I serviced.

I met with a married gay couple and had unbelievable sex with them. I was spit roasted. The alpha loved how tight my ass was and became very passionate. His partner came in my mouth and it tasted amazing! I tried to swallow it all. His partner really got into using me and held me tight in his arms as he just pumps me. It was pure rapture for me.

Another video store where a CD was sucking me and as I leaned back onto the wall someone heard what we were doing and through the glory hole took advantage of my ass. two used me from behind while I was being sucked. I was in pure bliss.

Being the submissive one is what I enjoy most. I want to have a dom use me and share me at a party.

 

[smoothwiener]

STDs #1, #2 being recognized by someone.

 

[cubbyfire04]

In the beginning, it was getting outed and/blackmailed (murdered too lol).

After my first few experiences, I realized I was inevitably moving towards riskier practices and STDs quickly became the priority.

Now that I'm out, blackmail... (which has happened, and why I never film anymore since my boss has now seen FAR too much of me)... Oh, and murder are now just close second behind cooties.

 

[PinFour]

As with some of the other posters, STDs and being recognized were barriers for me. I suspect those will be at the top of a lot of people’s lists.

 

[kimjohnsoncd]

Back in the day, my first lover was older, and testing and essentially having your papers was a thing so to speak. But initially, we used condoms for a time until I was both confident he was safe and we had moved to this place where we were pretty much living together for about a year. There are too many scary things today. All the things mentioned here. In hindsight, there were times in the late 90's and a bit after that I wasn't as safe as I should have been. I was fortunate. Today, I think it would be nice but the odds of finding anything close to the first experience are low. And it's probably the same for any experience for this old gal.

 

[drobert44]

Back in the day, my first lover was older, and testing and essentially having your papers was a thing so to speak. But initially, we used condoms for a time until I was both confident he was safe and we had moved to this place where we were pretty much living together for about a year. There are too many scary things today. All the things mentioned here. In hindsight, there were times in the late 90's and a bit after that I wasn't as safe as I should have been. I was fortunate. Today, I think it would be nice but the odds of finding anything close to the first experience are low. And it's probably the same for any experience for this old gal.

You look young enough for me to date, Hon!

 

[EasyGuy1025]

bi guys, what where your biggest apprehension(s) when you took the plunge, or what’s keeping you from doing it?
I’m only attracted to t girls, and am only interested in being a bottom.
I had a lot of experience and was well practised with dildo’s and vibrators. That’s what I was looking forward to most. A big hard cock up my ass. The problem I faced was, even though I found watching guys suck shemale cocks in porno’s I was most concerned and apprehensive with that act.
Before going into it I knew, that I wanted to do it all at once. Not in steps or anything. I also knew that to experience being a bottom properly I had to take a cock in my mouth.
A small part was a lot more okay with the idea of my partner was already hard, I just wasn’t excited with a soft flaccid cock.
Well my partner being large, she was large even flaccid. Well, we’re semi naked, lingerie etc. laying next to each making out, and trying to get her hard by jerking her. All the while a voice protesting, you got a cock in your hand… any way. Kept going, and we eventually got past the point of inevitability. I was directed down to her still semi soft cock. As she pushed my head down, I reassured myself again with the line, ‘still, even if don’t like it, no one will know’… now I’ve got a dick in my mouth. It wasn’t terrible in and of its self, except for the voice screaming there’s a cock in your mouth. Regardless of the protesting voice, I kept it in my mouth, compensating for not know what I was doing by just keeping all of it in my mouth. Very soon it began to grow. I could taste a bit of pre cum which was strangely exciting. Soon, she was hard and I found myself hard too. It started to get fun and exiting.
Strange thing is, even now… after many many experiences…. I’m still not a fan of my partners flaccid dicks…

I’ve only started to want to suck a cock in recent years. I haven’t had an opportunity yet, but I really want to try it. Anyone in Vero beach Florida give me a holler if you want your dick sucked.

 

[Sunnyade]

My main stressor was being outed. Meeting a likeminded friend was a blessing in so many ways.

 

[littlesquirt]

Like a lot of guys I'm always worried about meeting someone I know and STDs.

But also the first time was the fact I was crossing a barrier. From a totally straight man into a bi-curious cock sucker.