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I have to say, even if this seems very against the tide, I don't care about that. I'm much more interested in him cumming. It lets me know I've succeeded, like my payment for letting him use me. I often orgasm during sex, and I enjoy it, but I am really focused on him.
Well, I meant something a little different. I don't have to love a man I'm having sex with. I don't even have to like him. And very often haven't. I just need to inspire his lust to satisfy my emotional needs. That's what his cum is to me.
I do care and enjoy the sex much more when I know she is enjoying it as well.
yes.
her orgasms turn me on
I have had in the past, two relationships with women that as far as I could figure out never had orgasms. One of them did a fairly good job of faking it, but eventually I figured it out and she admitted it. That led to our breaking up. To be fair, she was eager for sex and certainly loved it. She just didn't orgasm. That includes oral, etc.
The other woman was an older woman, and she really didn't do vaginal sex. She did blow jobs and anal. Pretty obviously she wasn't going to get off. I am convinced she loved sex, but she simply didn't get off.
So somewhat fulfilling sex is possible without both partners cumming. That's not a requirement for a good relationship. It's certainly not a requirement each time sex happens.
A third woman comes to mind. Sometimes she just wanted to cum and I think she'd admit that at those times, she didn't care about me. In that state of mind she was just using me. But it went both ways. Absolute great blow jobs.
Because a lot of the best sex is impulsive it will never be subject to hard and fast rules. One person acts on their impulse, and the other allows it, accepts it, and goes with the flow.
The reality is that some women do have a very difficult time reaching orgasm - I have known some for whom it is very rare or even never. And I would wager that almost all women do not orgasm every time.
I am in the latter category. I love sex and am very well acquainted with my orgasm. But sometimes it just isn't going to happen - usually (in my case) for reasons unrelated to my sexual partner. The last thing I really want is to have to worry about faking it or stroking a guy's ego so I can get on with my day (although I do both on occasion).
I really respect the commitment and effort of any man to his partner's pleasure. But to any man who claims to "always" make sure she cums first I call bullshit. There is a 95% chance that you are fooling yourself or she is faking it some portion of the time.
I'm not saying you aren't a great lover or that you aren't rocking her world or that maybe your girl is your perfect match and you really have it all dialled in....but every woman every time. Nonsense.
I always try for mutual pleasure and do my best to give my partner as much as I get for myself.You're always such a sweet, sexy and familiar 'face' Ghost_Man.
I love bringing my wife to orgasm. Many years ago when we went through a rough patch she told me that one of the biggest challenges she was having was my need to "achieve". It was a barrier to intimacy and communication.
She needed to be able to say "no I didn't cum and no I don't want you to do more or try harder". Absent that acceptance she preferred to refrain. Remember if you insist on all or nothing, you might get nothing.
I think thus is about being tuned into your partner. the more my partner gets turned on the more I get turned on. If my partner starts to breath hard ans mumble. .oh fuck yes. ..that's gets my clock ticking. If your going communicators and know each others sexual rythm you should be able to cum together or damn close to it.
I'd be fascinated to know whether men honestly care if the woman they're having sex with cums or not. My experience, and perhaps I'm a little jaded by several partners in the last couple of weeks, is that as long as the man with whom I'm fucking climaxes it's of little concern to him whether I am satisfied or not.
I should clarify that I certainly don't expect my lover to take responsibility for my orgasm, ultimately that's up to me but I do expect him to know at least in general terms what women enjoy. A rudimentary understanding of foreplay and clitoral stimulation is not too much to expect surely?