Do men really care if their partner cums?

[JA068]

I'd be fascinated to know whether men honestly care if the woman they're having sex with cums or not. My experience, and perhaps I'm a little jaded by several partners in the last couple of weeks, is that as long as the man with whom I'm fucking climaxes it's of little concern to him whether I am satisfied or not.

I should clarify that I certainly don't expect my lover to take responsibility for my orgasm, ultimately that's up to me but I do expect him to know at least in general terms what women enjoy. A rudimentary understanding of foreplay and clitoral stimulation is not too much to expect surely?

 

[Spenser41]

I'd be fascinated to know whether men honestly care if the woman they're having sex with cums or not. My experience, and perhaps I'm a little jaded by several partners in the last couple of weeks, is that as long as the man with whom I'm fucking climaxes it's of little concern to him whether I am satisfied or not.

I should clarify that I certainly don't expect my lover to take responsibility for my orgasm, ultimately that's up to me but I do expect him to know at least in general terms what women enjoy. A rudimentary understanding of foreplay and clitoral stimulation is not too much to expect surely?

Very much so. I can not cum until I know she has cum as well. Normally I love to take care of her first before I cum. To me there is nothing more exciting them hearing her and feeling her climax. I love oral so that is one of my ways that I love to give her pleasure.

 

[bibethhotwet]

I can honestly say my husband makes sure he takes care of my needs before his own. His ingrained nature of being a "southern gentleman", even extends to the bedroom.

 

[JA068]

Very much so. I can not cum until I know she has cum as well. Normally I love to take care of her first before I cum. To me there is nothing more exciting them hearing her and feeling her climax. I love oral so that is one of my ways that I love to give her pleasure.

Kisses to you Spenser!

 

[Spenser41]

I can honestly say my husband makes sure he takes care of my needs before his own. His ingrained nature of being a "southern gentleman", even extends to the bedroom.

Funny you should say that.. I was born in Savannah GA and am considered a southern gentleman altho because of radio I lost the accent. So maybe that is why I do that.

 

[Spenser41]

Kisses to you Spenser!

Thank you sweet lady. I have always been someone who loved to give pleasure to my partner. Finding out what she enjoys the most.

 

[lovecraft68]

I was taught very young and by an older and wise woman, you get what you give in bed. So for me I've always done everything I can to make my partner happy and th returns are well worth it.

Or as my sister once said, "If you want your girl to be your porn star, than be theirs"

 

[bbilopl]

Yes, absolutely. It is a major turn on for me to know that I made a woman reach orgasm. So it is a goal for me to make her cum first and hopefully more than once, since women seem to need less time in between orgasms than I do lol.

 

[danno99]

I'd be fascinated to know whether men honestly care if the woman they're having sex with cums or not. My experience, and perhaps I'm a little jaded by several partners in the last couple of weeks, is that as long as the man with whom I'm fucking climaxes it's of little concern to him whether I am satisfied or not.

I should clarify that I certainly don't expect my lover to take responsibility for my orgasm, ultimately that's up to me but I do expect him to know at least in general terms what women enjoy. A rudimentary understanding of foreplay and clitoral stimulation is not too much to expect surely?

It's very important to me, and I do feel responsible for her orgasm....multiple orgasms in fact!
I love when the waves keep crashing over and over

 

[JA068]

I was taught very young and by an older and wise woman, you get what you give in bed. So for me I've always done everything I can to make my partner happy and th returns are well worth it.

Or as my sister once said, "If you want your girl to be your porn star, than be theirs"

Your sister gave you wonderful advice.

 

[JA068]

It's very important to me, and I do feel responsible for her orgasm....multiple orgasms in fact!
I love when the waves keep crashing over and over

Multiples are wonderful but so is one, I'm not a greedy girl.

 

[JA068]

Yes, absolutely. It is a major turn on for me to know that I made a woman reach orgasm. So it is a goal for me to make her cum first and hopefully more than once, since women seem to need less time in between orgasms than I do lol.

Kisses to you too bbilopl.

 

[kingkoll]

if a woman ever gave me a blow job or had sex with me i would always make sure she had a good cum

 

[JA068]

if a woman ever gave me a blow job or had sex with me i would always make sure she had a good cum

 

[kingkoll]

its just proper to give the woman pleasure

 

[HoldYouDown]

This is how I see it. Of course I want her to cum. But if I'm too preoccupied with it, sex won't be as good for either of us and it's less likely to happen. The more carefree I am, the better the chance that she cums. It sounds counter-intuitive but that's been my personal experience with countless women. My current gf tells me she loves it when I let loose and that me cumming makes her cum.

Sex is simultaneously selfless and selfish, it's an interesting dichotomy. I think men have been programmed through pop culture to believe making her cum is our sole responsibility at the expense of all else. This bridles men, and my personal experience is that women want me unbridled. Which consequently does the same to her.

 

[Hipshot1554]

I'd be fascinated to know whether men honestly care if the woman they're having sex with cums or not. My experience, and perhaps I'm a little jaded by several partners in the last couple of weeks, is that as long as the man with whom I'm fucking climaxes it's of little concern to him whether I am satisfied or not.

I should clarify that I certainly don't expect my lover to take responsibility for my orgasm, ultimately that's up to me but I do expect him to know at least in general terms what women enjoy. A rudimentary understanding of foreplay and clitoral stimulation is not too much to expect surely?

Yes, I care. The golden rule of sex. It pays dividends too.

 

[Klinkster]

I get off by getting my wife off!
There have been many times, while giving her oral, that I have blown my load when she orgasms. No physical stimulation on me, it's all mental, and enough to make me lose it!

 

[JA068]

This is how I see it. Of course I want her to cum. But if I'm too preoccupied with it, sex won't be as good for either of us and it's less likely to happen. The more carefree I am, the better the chance that she cums. It sounds counter-intuitive but that's been my personal experience with countless women. My current gf tells me she loves it when I let loose and that me cumming makes her cum.

Sex is simultaneously selfless and selfish, it's an interesting dichotomy. I think men have been programmed through pop culture to believe making her cum is our sole responsibility at the expense of all else. This bridles men, and my personal experience is that women want me unbridled. Which consequently does the same to her.

I broadly agree with your considered response and particularly relate to your statement "Sex is simultaneously selfless and selfish" it is indeed an interesting dichotomy. Ultimately and perhaps most importantly it's about attitude and intention.

 

[JRPerrone]

I'd be fascinated to know whether men honestly care if the woman they're having sex with cums or not. My experience, and perhaps I'm a little jaded by several partners in the last couple of weeks, is that as long as the man with whom I'm fucking climaxes it's of little concern to him whether I am satisfied or not.

I should clarify that I certainly don't expect my lover to take responsibility for my orgasm, ultimately that's up to me but I do expect him to know at least in general terms what women enjoy. A rudimentary understanding of foreplay and clitoral stimulation is not too much to expect surely?

It is more important to me that she cums than that I do. I mean that. To be fair, while it may sound like I am being selfless in saying so, I think it has as much to do with my own ego, feeling like I am good enough in bed to bring her that pleasure.

Quite frankly, I would feel like a failure if she didn't climax.

 

[The_Ghost_Man]

I'd be fascinated to know whether men honestly care if the woman they're having sex with cums or not. My experience, and perhaps I'm a little jaded by several partners in the last couple of weeks, is that as long as the man with whom I'm fucking climaxes it's of little concern to him whether I am satisfied or not.

I should clarify that I certainly don't expect my lover to take responsibility for my orgasm, ultimately that's up to me but I do expect him to know at least in general terms what women enjoy. A rudimentary understanding of foreplay and clitoral stimulation is not too much to expect surely?

Okay, I have to admit that I have never been able to understand this. How can a guy enjoy having sex if he doesn't enjoy having his partner enjoy herself? It just doesn't make sense.

Apart from anything else, make a woman cum is one of the biggest turn ons ever.

Now, if I can make her cum twice with my fingers and tongue, and then finally enter her when she's on her third, I know I'm in for a good night.

 

[The_Ghost_Man]

And welcome back, btw. I've missed your sweet arse.

 

[albertaboy]

I think foreplay is important and my wife having an orgasm equally so.

Generally we have been fooling around for quite a while before we actually have intercourse, often involving her Magic Wand resulting in her having several.

Generally there is another from intercourse, prior to the discovery of the wand etc that wasn't always the case. But not from lack of effort

 

[Bottomlover]

When I was a teenager, one of the guys who was a few years older told me to always make sure to do whatever it takes to get a woman off. Even if it's a one-nighter, you have the possibility of a repeat night, or at least a good review when women talk to each other. Yes, this is self centered male piggery.

I'm much older now and love to make my partner have an orgasm or two before I have mine. I love to see her totally get lost in one. Every now and then she will come up with some little surprise to make me cum too quickly, which amuses her to no end, but she knows her needs will be taken care of one way or another.

 

[JA068]

And welcome back, btw. I've missed your sweet arse.

You're always such a sweet, sexy and familiar 'face' Ghost_Man.