Woolmohair
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Personally, and maybe it's an ego thing, I take great pleasure in making my partner cum. I find that to be a major part of the arousal for me.
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This is how I see it. Of course I want her to cum. But if I'm too preoccupied with it, sex won't be as good for either of us and it's less likely to happen. The more carefree I am, the better the chance that she cums. It sounds counter-intuitive but that's been my personal experience with countless women. My current gf tells me she loves it when I let loose and that me cumming makes her cum.
Sex is simultaneously selfless and selfish, it's an interesting dichotomy. I think men have been programmed through pop culture to believe making her cum is our sole responsibility at the expense of all else. This bridles men, and my personal experience is that women want me unbridled. Which consequently does the same to her.
I have long felt that making my partner come is the best part of sex. My own orgasm is a very close second, naturally, but it is rather unsatisfying for me not to have both.
It's not just ego, either, though that is admittedly a factor. Having my partner orgasm says to me that, first, she wanted it, and second, she wanted it with me. I think that whatever skills I brought to the task, it would be much less likely to happen if those things weren't true. So we are engaged in mutual erotic activity with desire on both sides. That's the stuff great sex is made of! And not to minimize that the sights and sounds of her coming are very exciting to me. I often try to make eye contact with her during her orgasm. That can be amazingly intense.
In short, I think that men who "don't care" are really just missing out.
Agree with all, but I vocalise what I want and have sex enough to ride the averages.
But a flip side presented itself at dinner last night with a couple of ladies. After a few wines, they were lamenting their lack of orgasms. As the conversation opened up, it turned out they randomly "agreed" to sex with their husbands once a month or every other month, then wondered why their guys would go straight at it, cum and then roll over.
I was sitting there thinking but you hold all the cards, you choose the time, you keep the guy waiting for his random chance. Just projecting myself into their husbands head, I probably would make sure I got my own first after waiting that long and then see what I could do for her on the second if it was possible. If you are going to take charge of the bedroom scheduling then sure surely you have a game plan that involves dragging his wait out just a little longer and getting him to go down and give you one first.
There are drivers and navigators, but don't just be a passenger on the love bus.
Personally, and maybe it's an ego thing, I take great pleasure in making my partner cum. I find that to be a major part of the arousal for me.
Depends on the Partner. With Willingtobeused after I cum on her face I just bitch slap her. Kick her out of my bed. With others I care