Do men really care if their partner cums?

[ssremember129]

If she doesn't then it takes considerably away from my own

 

[grannykat]

When I was in my teens I had orgasms just by riding my bike. It was a girl's bike, so I guess it was a lesbian affair! Later on it didn't take much to get my motor running and that has been true until today, when all it takes is a touch to kindle my fire. Before a man has had a chance to prematurely ejaculate, I've already had the first of a rolling tide of orgasms and if he loses interest, I just take care of things myself until I'm sated. A man with integrity will just lie there and let me sit on his face till I'm happy.

 

[teddie_grl]

When I was in my teens I had orgasms just by riding my bike. It was a girl's bike, so I guess it was a lesbian affair! Later on it didn't take much to get my motor running and that has been true until today, when all it takes is a touch to kindle my fire. Before a man has had a chance to prematurely ejaculate, I've already had the first of a rolling tide of orgasms and if he loses interest, I just take care of things myself until I'm sated. A man with integrity will just lie there and let me sit on his face till I'm happy.

My kinda lady

 

[Nidan]

In short: yes

 

[Cumference]

Since she is multi orgasmic, it would be a real shame not to use it!

 

[Nezhul]

Yes, very much. Actually it's more important for me to make her cum than to get off myself. And the more she cums the better I feel.

 

[scott6251]

Yes, very much. Actually it's more important for me to make her cum than to get off myself. And the more she cums the better I feel.

I completely agree and understand. There are times when I finger her or go down on her and make her orgasm, then just go to sleep. A few mornings ago, I woke her up by eating her pussy. She orgasmed, I got up and jumped in the shower. She was very happy all day

 

[falcon2177]

I for one do make it a relative requirement that my partner has been taken care of before myself. Sometimes, admittedly to the point where I've lost my ability to climax, but I'm ok with that. I'd rather be selfless and enjoy her pleasure at the expense of my own.

 

[naughtynjmale]

any guy that doesnt care if their partner cums doesnt deserve to get laid,


its my number one priority .

 

[Feelfreetotouch]

It's the only reason I show up for the party. She has to cum or it's not as fun. I don't enjoy my climax as much as the build up and the sexual goings on.

 

[John Blackhawk]

any guy that doesnt care if their partner cums doesnt deserve to get laid,


its my number one priority .

Well said, you sure you aren't a long lost brother of mine from another mother?

 

[Nezhul]

I actually find my own climax to be not a very big deal. It feels good, sure, but nothing really special, I don't think. In fact, many times I feel that pleasure of the climax is much less a reward to me than the relief from sexual need it brings along.

It really makes me wonder how female orgasms feel, that they make them moan in pleasure, shake, tremble, and do all sorts of other stuff. I just can't picture pleasure this intense, really, as to make me moan out loud throughout the entire intercourse - in fact, while it feels nice to fuck, I would say that only the last 20% before orgasm can be considered really pleasureable.

All in all, it makes me marvel at woman's climax, and it makes me want to watch it as often as I can.

 

[Rollinbones]

Sometimes I cant come and it gets annoying for her. It's hard to fake a male orgasm. I generally just admit defeat when that happens.

Sometimes it's over before I've started.

Usually I wait until she's come once or twice and then set about my own pleasure. Refractory periods are not so kind to the over forties so I like to make sure she's done before I finish.

 

[Nezhul]

I have had difficulties a few times cumming in a certain position / action. What it usually takes for me is change up the pace, stop doing what I'm doing and try something else. For example if I find I can't cum if I fuck her doggie-style, then it will be easier if I lie back and relax and let her ride me. Or even break the intercourse and go for oral sex for a bit.

When watching porn that happened too - I find if I switch the genre it works fine for me.

So in short - try changing things up. Maybe that day something just doesn't work for you.

Never had a situation where I couldn't cum at all.

 

[MrEd63]

any guy that doesnt care if their partner cums doesnt deserve to get laid,


its my number one priority .

Damn right.
The more you give, the more you get

 

[Mqoi]

I pretty much know that I'm going to cum when having sex, and will do whatever it takes for my partner to as well. Female or male.

 

[eroticspank]

I'd be fascinated to know whether men honestly care if the woman they're having sex with cums or not. My experience, and perhaps I'm a little jaded by several partners in the last couple of weeks, is that as long as the man with whom I'm fucking climaxes it's of little concern to him whether I am satisfied or not.

I should clarify that I certainly don't expect my lover to take responsibility for my orgasm, ultimately that's up to me but I do expect him to know at least in general terms what women enjoy. A rudimentary understanding of foreplay and clitoral stimulation is not too much to expect surely?

Yes I care about my gf's satisfaction as mentioned before and I agree it is important for a man to have a rudimentary understanding of foreplay and the female body. Just as it is important for the woman to have a rudimentary understanding of the male body and erogenous zones, it is not just about the dick.
If both people care, you are going to have a great time in bed.

ES

 

[eroticspank]

Sometimes I cant come and it gets annoying for her. It's hard to fake a male orgasm. I generally just admit defeat when that happens.

Sometimes it's over before I've started.

Usually I wait until she's come once or twice and then set about my own pleasure. Refractory periods are not so kind to the over forties so I like to make sure she's done before I finish.

I dated a girl years ago that while we were having intercourse when she was getting close, she would shift position so she could cum. It was not a big shift, just changing the angle of her hips and or maybe the speed of the thrusts. Unfortunately when she did that then I could not cum. I would shift back and then she could not cum. So I learned to keep fucking her after she shifted so she could cum and then after she came I would shift back so I could cum.

ES

 

[NickCarraway12]

I do care. Wife doesn't orgasm vaginally. She loves my fingers or a vibrator, though. Oh, man....the bed shakes and she squeezes me tight.

Sometimes, I'll let her do it herself while I talk dirty in her ear. She comes fast and hard, then.

 

[stargazer214]

Sure I care. Actually I try to make my partner cum first but then again I tend to be a please do I guess that just seems natural for me

 

[Jake1945]

I really enjoy helping someone cum. Man or woman. If she is not interested in an orgasm, then I am still happy to just do a quickie. But the best is when she cums and then I cum.

 

[CharityLynn]

I'd be fascinated to know whether men honestly care if the woman they're having sex with cums or not. My experience, and perhaps I'm a little jaded by several partners in the last couple of weeks, is that as long as the man with whom I'm fucking climaxes it's of little concern to him whether I am satisfied or not.

I should clarify that I certainly don't expect my lover to take responsibility for my orgasm, ultimately that's up to me but I do expect him to know at least in general terms what women enjoy. A rudimentary understanding of foreplay and clitoral stimulation is not too much to expect surely?

I have to say, even if this seems very against the tide, I don't care about that. I'm much more interested in him cumming. It lets me know I've succeeded, like my payment for letting him use me. I often orgasm during sex, and I enjoy it, but I am really focused on him.

 

[eroticspank]

I have to say, even if this seems very against the tide, I don't care about that. I'm much more interested in him cumming. It lets me know I've succeeded, like my payment for letting him use me. I often orgasm during sex, and I enjoy it, but I am really focused on him.

I am not sure why, but I find this very arousing. I like for a woman to cum first and her orgasm is important to me. BUT, there are times when this is really a big turn on for me as well. I have even thought about writing a story about it. I am not a woman so I don't know how it would feel, but this kind of sacrifice and focus on partner I think is very intriguing and would be fun to write.

For me, my mind goes back to a time years ago in the 1800s on the frontier and the woman is trying to get pregnant to start a family. She is focused on her man, and getting him to explode deeply inside her. When she does, there is a certain deep satisfaction on her part, relief, joy, and warmth. Perhaps I am romanticizing it a bit too much, a woman very much in love with her man and wanting to have his baby. The man in love with her and concerned for her safety and well being. They share a strong bond.

ES

 

[sterculius]

Although as a man, while lusting after women has always been my primary sexual focus, my initial introduction to sex with another person was as my best friend Larry's personal cocksucker. I would blow him usually at least once a day and sometimes 2 or even 3 times the same day. My own arousal was directly proportional to his escalating excitement, culminating in him ejaculating into my mouth. I learned to focus my attention on bringing him to orgasm and doing whatever I could to make him cum. This prepared me for having sex with women where I would also derive my satisfaction from their arousal and in pleasing them. My own orgasm was dependent on, and secondary to theirs. In a real sense, I feel that having started out as a cocksucker has made me a better lover with women.

 

[eroticspank]

Although as a man, while lusting after women has always been my primary sexual focus, my initial introduction to sex with another person was as my best friend Larry's personal cocksucker. I would blow him usually at least once a day and sometimes 2 or even 3 times the same day. My own arousal was directly proportional to his escalating excitement, culminating in him ejaculating into my mouth. I learned to focus my attention on bringing him to orgasm and doing whatever I could to make him cum. This prepared me for having sex with women where I would also derive my satisfaction from their arousal and in pleasing them. My own orgasm was dependent on, and secondary to theirs. In a real sense, I feel that having started out as a cocksucker has made me a better lover with women.

My initial introduction to sex with women that had the most impact was when I was with an older woman. She was 20 years older than me and all I did was what she said. She directed me on what to do and when and made sure that her pleasure was my primary focus. I remember her encouraging words during sex telling me to keep going, etc and when she did cum, it was wonderful to watch and she made sure to take care of me next. If I did not make her cum during intercourse or I came too soon she made sure I pleased her orally. It was a great learning experience.

ES