Why would a girl who has no romantic interest in you, care what you think of her appearance?

[Stopokochac]

There's a girl I've been talking to online for many years. She only likes me as a friend, but she knew I had a crush on her, despite not knowing what she looks like.

She finally felt comfortable enough to send a pic, and she said she never sent one before because she was afraid I wouldn't find her attractive. Even though she doesn't find me attractive and only likes me as a friend. So why would she care what I think of her appearance?

Could it be because even though she has no romantic interest in ME, she still finds it flattering that I do in HER?

 

[AlwaysDancing]

A lot of people send pics because they want validation and to be liked.

Be careful with these people and encourage them Not to send pics unless it’s meant genuinely as a gift.

With your friend, you know her better than we do. Be grateful. Be compassionate.

 

[Escierto]

Yes, of course. She is vain and wants everyone to think she is hot.

 

[satanicbubblegum]

ding ding ding

 

[Stopokochac]

Yeah, I see now maybe it was a mistake to feed her ego, but I had my reasons for doing it

 

[SPARTAN047]

Exactly. She's using you for validation. A lot of hot or average girls can be very insecure but know that men will validate their feelings about what they want to hear for free as long as they think they'll get something out of it.

Never, ever, ever feed their fragile egos unless you can see they're feeding yours or at least are nice to you.

 

[Stopokochac]

Exactly. She's using you for validation. A lot of hot or average girls can be very insecure but know that men will validate their feelings about what they want to hear for free as long as they think they'll get something out of it.

Never, ever, ever feed their fragile egos unless you can see they're feeding yours or at least are nice to you.

She WAS nice to me.
I was trying to be a good friend and make her feel good about herself, but I realize now it was a mistake to feed her ego.

From what I saw, creepy men made her uncomfortable, but at the same time, I think she liked attention in general because it reinforced the high opinion she has of herself. I feel bad for saying that, but that's what I gathered from my observations

 

[SPARTAN047]

She WAS nice to me.
I was trying to be a good friend and make her feel good about herself, but I realize now it was a mistake to feed her ego.

She was nice to you as long as you told her what she wanted to hear.

From what I saw, creepy men made her uncomfortable, but at the same time, I think she liked attention in general because it reinforced the high opinion she has of herself. I feel bad for saying that, but that's what I gathered from my observations

Maybe there were creepy jerks who upset her. I hope she's telling the truth about that or that you actually saw this happen. It's happened to me so IKWYM. She's not uncommon, plenty of people can be greedy for attention and they feel they're out of everyone's league when they get a few compliments. People like her seem to have huge egos and opinions for themselves, and only make friends who flatter her.

 

[Noor]

There's a girl I've been talking to online for many years. She only likes me as a friend, but she knew I had a crush on her, despite not knowing what she looks like.

She finally felt comfortable enough to send a pic, and she said she never sent one before because she was afraid I wouldn't find her attractive. Even though she doesn't find me attractive and only likes me as a friend. So why would she care what I think of her appearance?

Could it be because even though she has no romantic interest in ME, she still finds it flattering that I do in HER?

Because she’s asking you as a friend, women friends answer such questions all the time. She a bit insecure about her looks, she sent one when she was comfortable.

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

You don’t know this being at all. Move back into real life!