Wife with another lover and you've agreed to it: Would she want you there? Next room? Away?

[desire30]

is there anything I can do to easy your frustration?

 

[switchersm]

Numbers 3 and 4. I'm always included. Watch naked and caged and clean up when my wife and her lover have finished.

 

[MichelleSwan]

I prefer to date alone and so does Hubs, but on vacation there can be some awkwardness.

 

[cowboyup6977]

Ours is a little different
I love watching him dominate another woman before joining in
Then it’s all about me

 

[NightBirdNYC]

Good question! I'm not to sure (as the wife in this scenario) what I would want. I've often masturbated while fantasizing about being gang-banged by 15 or 20 men (and in that fantasy mostly all black men with BBC's), and my hubby doesn't appear in that fantasy.

Yes, we've seen each other with other men and women in a few swing clubs over the years, and a few private parties as well, and it's always been a hot experience watching each other enjoy ourselves with no jealousy or judgments. If anyone wishes to read my 3 "stories" here on Lit (experiences and memories I sometimes still drift back to while masturbating) which are listed in my profile, I've had a couple of experiences that I chose to keep to myself,

In my fantasy, however, I think I would wish to be alone. I''d want to be free to become a wanton, cum starved animal, to abandon myself to my darkest fantasies to be manhandled and tossed around like a Raggedy Ann doll, to be filled with several big thick thrusting cocks at once while others are in my hands waiting for their turns, and to be covered in all the delicious spurts of delicious cum I haven't been able to guzzle down or to have my pussy and ass filled by, while covering them all on my squirts of pleasure! The control I would have to dictate all this is something I would probably wish to experience on my own... Just my thoughts, which I'll freely admit can change depending on my horniness and the often voracious appetite of my pussy, ass and mouth for cock and cum!...

 

[saintcero]

My wife does her lover alone. That’s what she wants and it’s what I want too. While alone, my imagination about what they are doing to each other would be much rougher on me than any reality would be IF I was there to listen or watch. His cock can be any color or size. Her reactions can be as wild and slutty as my imagination can make them. So yes, they can be alone to fuck and I can be alone to suffer

 

[flameinsidesoul]

My wife knows she could, and reserves the right, but has never had serious interest in it.

I'm going to ask her this question but I'm also curious what other women would want or what guys think their wives would want.

Here is the question:

She's going to have sex with another guy. She doesn't want the guys playing with each other, it's all about her. Does she want:

1. To be alone with the guy

2. Have you in another room, listening

3. Have you in the same room, watching

4. Have you in the same room and on the bed, helping them, in either a supportive role or full participation


I'm going to guess my wife's answer. I think it will be a "it depends". #1 wouldn't happen unless she knew the guy extremely well. I doubt she'd want #2 or #3 because she'd find that distracting and a little cruel to me. I think she'll say #4.

It’s Not Just Where You Are — It’s Who You Are to Her in That Moment.

This question isn’t really about geography — room or bed — it’s about emotional architecture. What space does she want you to hold while she’s being taken by another man?

Some women want to be witnessed — not because it turns them on, but because it anchors them in safety.
Some want you to vanish, so they can lose themselves without negotiating your feelings and,
some want you close, because you are still her center, even when her body’s under someone else.

It’s not just about the guy touching her. It’s about what version of you she gets to have while it happens:

• The supportive orchestrator?
• The aroused, silent audience?
• The participant, protector, or provocateur?

And what version of herself does she want to become in that scene?

This isn’t a binary menu — it’s a dynamic pulse between trust, arousal, ego, surrender, and power. Ask her what space turns her on most — not just physically, but psychologically. That’s where her real answer lives.

Caution, though...
These experiences can magnify everything, the good, the insecure, the hidden. Fantasy doesn’t always map neatly onto real-life emotional terrain. Resentment can sneak in through doors left slightly open. Jealousy isn’t always announced; it simmers quietly until the burn shows later.

Talk openly. Debrief after. Build emotional safety before any physical step. Because sometimes, it’s not the sex that changes a relationship, it’s what wasn’t said around it.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

My mother told my bride at the reception she had right to other men. I meekly said yes. Yes me in the same room and also waiting outside until she or he calls

 

[mrdiscreetshh]

I would think she would want me in the room but part of me knows she would be more comfortable experiencing it alone but with me listening then join in.

 

[Waiter519123]

I prefer to date alone and so does Hubs, but on vacation there can be some awkwardness.

Yes I know what you’re saying dating alone. But on vacations sometimes meeting a couple is worth the awkwardness.

 

[screwher]

My wife has now rekindled her sexual relationship with her first lover when we started in the lifestyle. Once again they’re having their sex privately at his place. I’m good with that. When I’m home alone and she’s at his place naked in his bed, the cuckold angst is exhilarating. And the important thing is that he’s screwing my wife!

 

[ExpRider]

My wife knows she could, and reserves the right, but has never had serious interest in it.

I'm going to ask her this question but I'm also curious what other women would want or what guys think their wives would want.

Here is the question:

She's going to have sex with another guy. She doesn't want the guys playing with each other, it's all about her. Does she want:

1. To be alone with the guy

2. Have you in another room, listening

3. Have you in the same room, watching

4. Have you in the same room and on the bed, helping them, in either a supportive role or full participation


I'm going to guess my wife's answer. I think it will be a "it depends". #1 wouldn't happen unless she knew the guy extremely well. I doubt she'd want #2 or #3 because she'd find that distracting and a little cruel to me. I think she'll say #4.

We are a hotwife couple. She wants me watching. We often make love between his turns with her.

 

[NikiVien]

I prefer either 1 or 4

Completely alone with my lover and then as soon as he's gone, alone with my husband, or both fully involved in an MFM.

 

[wildchild24143]

I prefer either 1 or 4

Completely alone with my lover and then as soon as he's gone, alone with my husband, or both fully involved in an MFM.

I dream of being at home waiting in agony for her return.

 

[CEOescape]

My wife knows she could, and reserves the right, but has never had serious interest in it.

I'm going to ask her this question but I'm also curious what other women would want or what guys think their wives would want.

Here is the question:

She's going to have sex with another guy. She doesn't want the guys playing with each other, it's all about her. Does she want:

1. To be alone with the guy

2. Have you in another room, listening

3. Have you in the same room, watching

4. Have you in the same room and on the bed, helping them, in either a supportive role or full participation


I'm going to guess my wife's answer. I think it will be a "it depends". #1 wouldn't happen unless she knew the guy extremely well. I doubt she'd want #2 or #3 because she'd find that distracting and a little cruel to me. I think she'll say #4.

Mine would said ,, be alone with the guy

 

[CEOescape]

I prefer either 1 or 4

Completely alone with my lover and then as soon as he's gone, alone with my husband, or both fully involved in an MFM.

Lynn would be the same way.. I know because that is what she wanted

 

[Ramone45]

Once we agreed that she was going to have another lover, I stipulated that I wanted to be there at least once in awhile. I am strictly a voyeur and I had no desire to participate. It has actually worked out well. I will drive her to their meeting spot. I buy them drinks. My wife likes cannabis, so I provide that. Depending, we go to a hotel or to our place. I sit in a corner of the room. She mostly concentrates on her lover, but she will interact with me somewhat. Lots of eye contact. She wants to make sure I get a good look at her sucking his cock. After he cums, she definitely wants me to see that, whether it's semen dripping out of her pussy, or if he cums on her. They often will shower after. Depending on the circumstances, we may go for breakfast or maybe I would just drive them home.

 

[CliimaxForYou]

I’d want to be there. LOVE seeing my partner get pleasured, and always curious to see her “mannerisms” with others. Hot hot hot

I would make love to her afterwards to reassure her as part of after care.

 

[cowboyup6977]

When we play we always play together one of us watches her with one of us before the other joins in

 

[Sam5557]

Limited experience but I wasn’t there as she enjoyed him. She did call me once during. Quite the experience.

 

[Sgts19]

I'm sure I'll get shit for this little stunt I did maybe a dozen times. This was when we tried the swinging thing. The 1st couple we ever did anything with I found out he was very very big, his wife told me when we heard my wife moaning loudly down the hall. She also told me they didn't fuck much because he was too big for her, I seemed to have slid in with no problems. We agreed no pictures no videos like we'd done a 100 times with another couple. I knew she reacted much differently when I wasn't in the same room as her. I went back and forth for a couple weeks, should I do it and somehow video or record what she was doing. Well, the bad me decided I could voice record easier than try and video. I bought a spy voice recorder that looks like a memory stick. I used it with two couples and was totally hooked when I heard what she was doing in the other room. Right or wrong, most defiantly wrong but I get off so hard when I listen to those it's some of my favorite material.

We'd done same room different room different houses with another couple many many times. We all had this thing about videoing and swapping the tapes later or if using different house listen on the phone.

 

[zoso682001]

I'm sure I'll get shit for this little stunt I did maybe a dozen times. This was when we tried the swinging thing. The 1st couple we ever did anything with I found out he was very very big, his wife told me when we heard my wife moaning loudly down the hall. She also told me they didn't fuck much because he was too big for her, I seemed to have slid in with no problems. We agreed no pictures no videos like we'd done a 100 times with another couple. I knew she reacted much differently when I wasn't in the same room as her. I went back and forth for a couple weeks, should I do it and somehow video or record what she was doing. Well, the bad me decided I could voice record easier than try and video. I bought a spy voice recorder that looks like a memory stick. I used it with two couples and was totally hooked when I heard what she was doing in the other room. Right or wrong, most defiantly wrong but I get off so hard when I listen to those it's some of my favorite material.

We'd done same room different room different houses with another couple many many times. We all had this thing about videoing and swapping the tapes later or if using different house listen on the phone.

It might make you a bit uncomfortable but you didn't really break the rule ...... no pictures no videos .

 

[desire30]

Once he convinced me and I was attracted to the man, I want him there to see him take what my husband wanted so bad to see occur. In our case, the first man was at a social gathering at our country club. We had know him and his now ex-wife for a couple years. Drinks, and dancing off and on, some probing talk about sex life and him saying he and his ex would talk about us in bed but figured my husband was too conservative to thing of swapping...I asked him if he wanted to go to our house and hot tub for a while. I want to my husband and told him I was leaving with Bob. See you at home LATER tell the others I have a head ache.
By the time my husband got home we had fucked in the hot tub and was on our bed with me riding Bob cock.