Why would a girl who only likes you as a friend be receptive of you showing interest and even indulge you with pics, but then call you a "creep"?

[Stopokochac]

I had a friend like this. She claimed she only liked me as a friend, yet she enjoyed when I complimented her and was receptive of me expressing interest in her, making flirty comments and occasionally even sharing my dirty dreams and fantasies about her. She loved when I told her I shaved my body hair because I know she likes hairless men. And she loved when I half-jokingly would tease her about dating me.

She also agreed and even offered to send me pics on several occasions, but would always put it off. But then finally, she sent some of her wearing certain shoes. And she loved that I complimented her feet in detail, and said she put off sending me pics because she knows I have a foot fetish and was worried about whether I would like HER'S and was extremely flattered that I did.

That same night we had a falling out, and she told our mutual friend that I'd been sending her creepy and delusional messages about how I don't believe that she has no romantic attraction towards me and accused me of coercing her into sending me pics, when she assured me she never felt pressured by me, and even offered her own suggestions for pics.

Why would she do this? We were genuinely close.

WOULD YOU ALSO ARRIVE AT THE ASSUMPTION THAT THIS GIRL IS INTERESTED IN YOU?

 

[Stopokochac]

So I don't bombard the category:

WOULD YOU ALSO ARRIVE AT THE ASSUMPTION THAT THIS GIRL IS INTERESTED IN YOU?

 

[Saint_Ann]

So I don't bombard the category:

WOULD YOU ALSO ARRIVE AT THE ASSUMPTION THAT THIS GIRL IS INTERESTED IN YOU?

Just fucking ask her.

 

[Stopokochac]

Just fucking ask her.

I might if she hadn't blocked me

 

[Saint_Ann]

I might if she hadn't blocked me

Then the hell with her.

 

[Escierto]

So I don't bombard the category:

WOULD YOU ALSO ARRIVE AT THE ASSUMPTION THAT THIS GIRL IS INTERESTED IN YOU?

Probably if I was as clueless as you appear to be. Do the words, she's not that into you have any meaning for you? Where are you? Are you communicating with native English speakers because I have a sense that English is not your native language and you are not picking up on everything that is being said to you.

 

[Stopokochac]

Probably if I was as clueless as you appear to be. Do the words, she's not that into you have any meaning for you? Where are you? Are you communicating with native English speakers because I have a sense that English is not your native language and you are not picking up on everything that is being said to you.

Close. English isn't HER's
But I showed another girl some of the messages she was sending me and she said the same thing. That there's no physical attraction but there is an emotional one.

 

[AllAmericanMale]

When people show you who they are, believe them.

 

[Escierto]

Close. English isn't HER's
But I showed another girl some of the messages she was sending me and she said the same thing. That there's no physical attraction but there is an emotional one.

That could explain it. You seem to be someone who wastes a lot of time on women who are not interested in you.

 

[Stopokochac]

That could explain it. You seem to be someone who wastes a lot of time on women who are not interested in you.

I DO! I won't even try to deny that.

 

[Stopokochac]

"Using" is probably extreme, but I would say we needed each other and gave each other purpose and self satisfaction. But I was definitely more attached to her and prioritized her more than she did me. If she could find out how losing her effected me, I will know if she truly cared.
We still enjoyed talking to each other regardless.

"She'll only make your life worse"
I did sometimes feel maybe it would be better if I wasn't so focused on her. Even though it wasn't always pretty, this made me realize that my life was better with her in it.

Maybe she doesn't owe me, but I do feel I owe her. I wanted to be the true trustworthy and loyal friend she never had.

"work on finding people who do want to be with you."
She told me that too, through our mutual friend.

Those last bits, you're not the first person to tell me that. I tried a couple times before, but ended up going back to her. Move on to who? I've never had this sort of connection and common traits with anyone. It's difficult to move on from someone you had something with that you've never had with anyone else.

 

[Noor]

She sees you as a friend, girl friends sent each other photos all the time.

 

[Chilllax]

"Using" is probably extreme, but I would say we needed each other and gave each other purpose and self satisfaction. But I was definitely more attached to her and prioritized her more than she did me. If she could find out how losing her effected me, I will know if she truly cared.
We still enjoyed talking to each other regardless.

"She'll only make your life worse"
I did sometimes feel maybe it would be better if I wasn't so focused on her. Even though it wasn't always pretty, this made me realize that my life was better with her in it.

Maybe she doesn't owe me, but I do feel I owe her. I wanted to be the true trustworthy and loyal friend she never had.

"work on finding people who do want to be with you."
She told me that too, through our mutual friend.

Those last bits, you're not the first person to tell me that. I tried a couple times before, but ended up going back to her. Move on to who? I've never had this sort of connection and common traits with anyone. It's difficult to move on from someone you had something with that you've never had with anyone else.

Dude, you just got to let it go. You can't control how someone reacts and the more you try the worse it could become. Let things cool down and if you still want to give it another go around then go right ahead.
Over enough time has elapsed and your brain fog clears, you might even realize that you may have been on the wrong path. Certainly has happened to me before. So chillax a bit for now is what I would say.

 

[TwinkleStars]

She sees you as a friend, girl friends sent each other photos all the time.

You send your friends boobie and vagina pictures?? I want to be your friend now

 

[Noor]

You send your friends boobie and vagina pictures?? I want to be your friend now

Is that what he sent?
When I burned my breast with my cell phone, I sent a couple girlfriends a picture as a precautionary take against using bras phone pockets.
Only ever took one close to a vagina shot, and that was back when I was young and foolish.
But you’re already my friend Twinkle

 

[SPARTAN047]

She used you, fella. I've seen women who can do this a lot. This is the equivalent of men who think all women are interested in them.

Plenty of women have big and fragile egos too. They also think everyone's interested in them. They can and will use you for an ego boost.

They'll make the conversation a bit sexual. This is what happens in speed date events. Women may or may not be interested in the men there. They can send false and misleading signals just to get attention and make the men think they're interested. They train each other in getting maximum validation for minimum effort, or minimum giving up of pussy, tits and ass to be blunt. These aren't my words - plenty of women admit it themselves, on all of their social media, OnlyFans, and even here.

The moment she thought you weren't useful, perhaps because you weren't feeding her ego the same way, or because she thought you were on to her, she selfishly and egotistically discarded you and turned her friends and maybe yours against you by the universal word which women use to shame men, whether it's true or just to ruin his reputation: 'creep'. This creepiness was her idea from what you said, but she is blaming you.

You've noticed that she was very quick to spread what you say was a false story about you. This is a pre emptive move by her so that you couldn't get a word in. It's because if she tells the story, preferably first, she controls the version.


She's shown you what a c^n7 she is, if this is really what happened.

 

[MaturemanAJ]

I have a friend that sends T&A pictures at times but no spread legs or anything.
She also wigs out at times on me.
Bottom line she is a female and they expect you to do as they say not as they do. Set her straight and if they requires walking away so be it.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I have a friend that sends T&A pictures at times but no spread legs or anything.
She also wigs out at times on me.
Bottom line she is a female and they expect you to do as they say not as they do. Set her straight and if they requires walking away so be it.

Excellent. Very well said. Don't ever entertain her nonsense or frequent changes of mind.

 

[staciliv]

I had a friend like this. She claimed she only liked me as a friend, yet she enjoyed when I complimented her and was receptive of me expressing interest in her, making flirty comments and occasionally even sharing my dirty dreams and fantasies about her. She loved when I told her I shaved my body hair because I know she likes hairless men. And she loved when I half-jokingly would tease her about dating me.

She also agreed and even offered to send me pics on several occasions, but would always put it off. But then finally, she sent some of her wearing certain shoes. And she loved that I complimented her feet in detail, and said she put off sending me pics because she knows I have a foot fetish and was worried about whether I would like HER'S and was extremely flattered that I did.

That same night we had a falling out, and she told our mutual friend that I'd been sending her creepy and delusional messages about how I don't believe that she has no romantic attraction towards me and accused me of coercing her into sending me pics, when she assured me she never felt pressured by me, and even offered her own suggestions for pics.

Why would she do this? We were genuinely close.

WOULD YOU ALSO ARRIVE AT THE ASSUMPTION THAT THIS GIRL IS INTERESTED IN YOU?

Sounds like a game player to me. Stop trying to reconnect with her, that's what she wants. She's telling her friends, anyone who will listen, "Look at this desperate creep, I told him to get lost but he's so hung up on me that he just can't let go" followed by laughter. Is that really what you want? To be a source of ridicule?

 

[staciliv]

... Women ... can send false and misleading signals just to get attention and make the men think they're interested. They train each other in getting maximum validation for minimum effort, or minimum giving up of pussy, tits and ass to be blunt.

Chapter one page one of the girl playbook.

 

[Qky75]

This happens for a number of reasons that could be as diverse as the people doing the behavior. Regret? Power play? Your reactions didn't match their expectations? Their behavior is not your problem. But neither is your behavior their problem. Just move on.