Why do older men become bi-curious?

[Sgts19]

Why because I've pretty much knocked everything on my bucket list off. Big cocks big loads excite me, not the man just the cock and cum

 

[CuriousinPennsylvania]

Why because....Big cocks big loads excite me, not the man just the cock and cum

You nailed it.

 

[Phatfeet]

Myself I see five aspects of life diverging, regarding why so many men are bi-curious.

With age you have more sexual experiences and know what you like (1). Typically this is experienced through hetrosexual marriage over many years, but as the wife loses interest in sex, and the man maintains the same libido, there is a supply and demand differential (2). Couple that with older people who tend to have less regard for what people think (3), along with a general curiosity for new types of sex (4), and from all those four things combined, long held beliefs are broken down.

For years men have been with women, yet the co-interest in sex is lost, and there is an outright rejection in the latter years. But other men understand the need for sex and rejection.

But men don’t talk about male-male attraction until the anonymity of the internet allowed the secret to be widespread (5).

 

[Phatfeet]

To put it another way: men have been lied too.

We were told, fall in love, provide, be a great husband, father and in the end you will have a very happy life. Yet, after having done all that, we get to be past the midway point where our hard work should start to pay off and our devotion is betrayed by a wife that no longer wants sex.

It begs the question: what else have we been lied to about?

Sex with another man would be just as pleasurable, maybe more so, but without the rejection?

How could that not lead to curiosity by many older men?

 

[SPARTAN047]

To put it another way: men have been lied too.

We were told, fall in love, provide, be a great husband, father and in the end you will have a very happy life. Yet, after having done all that, we get to be past the midway point where our hard work should start to pay off and our devotion is betrayed by a wife that no longer wants sex.

It begs the question: what else have we been lied to about?

Sex with another man would be just as pleasurable, maybe more so, but without the rejection?

How could that not lead to curiosity by many older men?

At least someone said it.

The only difference is no pregnancy, which is a huge plus, and no chance that you're taking care of a baby that's not yours.

I have cheating fantasies myself, both having it done to me and doing it to others, which is what a lot of monogamous people dream of. It doesn't mean I'll do it, but I can't prove that. I'd never do it in a proper relationship, just a role play with others I'm only fucking and not wasting my time on.

 

[Swuchrow]

Myself I see five aspects of life diverging, regarding why so many men are bi-curious.

With age you have more sexual experiences and know what you like (1). Typically this is experienced through hetrosexual marriage over many years, but as the wife loses interest in sex, and the man maintains the same libido, there is a supply and demand differential (2). Couple that with older people who tend to have less regard for what people think (3), along with a general curiosity for new types of sex (4), and from all those four things combined, long held beliefs are broken down.

For years men have been with women, yet the co-interest in sex is lost, and there is an outright rejection in the latter years. But other men understand the need for sex and rejection.

But men don’t talk about male-male attraction until the anonymity of the internet allowed the secret to be widespread (5).

I discovered in my 20s being a fem bottom was a way of balancing my alpha daily life. Submitting to a dominate male for his pleasure serves as an outlet for frustrations of always taking charge.

Now days almost all tops I meet are married and older. Their wives are not there for them sexually. I am there for them to use to satisfy their sexual needs and frustrations. There is very little that I won’t do to get the results they are looking for. My meetings are usually intense and passionate. They leave satisfied and a smile on their face. Most come back when they need a sexual outlet.

 

[Greytruck]

To put it another way: men have been lied too.

We were told, fall in love, provide, be a great husband, father and in the end you will have a very happy life. Yet, after having done all that, we get to be past the midway point where our hard work should start to pay off and our devotion is betrayed by a wife that no longer wants sex.

It begs the question: what else have we been lied to about?

Sex with another man would be just as pleasurable, maybe more so, but without the rejection?

How could that not lead to curiosity by many older men?

Well put. Very valid points
Our wives shut the door on sex slowly. We are still in need
A girlfriend? That’s just dangerous. Women get attached
Feeling emerge.. another married guy? It’s a win win
He wants just what you want. It’s quick and easy.. and very satisfying.
A deep dark secret but there you have it

 

[Swuchrow]

Well put. Very valid points
Our wives shut the door on sex slowly. We are still in need
A girlfriend? That’s just dangerous. Women get attached
Feeling emerge.. another married guy? It’s a win win
He wants just what you want. It’s quick and easy.. and very satisfying.
A deep dark secret but there you have it

That is one point I didn’t make. My tops know there is full discretion and no drama. He gets what he needs and can go on his way. When he needs sex he knows all he has to do is send me a note. I will be there for him to be his slut.

 

[van_delay]

Fear of missing out on fun things as we get older.

 

[Cardinal]

Last night was my first time having a cock in my mouth in 45 years and it’s just as I remembered, fucking awesome.
I also learned that I’m a total bottom, he used me all over the hotel room and I still asked for more.
Unbelievable, so glad the stars aligned and gave me that chance.
The posts are right, no drama, just two guys getting what they want.

 

[Cardinal]

My wife is still very interested in sex, but, alas, the medications she takes ruin her ability to orgasm. So no sex for us. I love her, and don't want to have an affair with a woman. Two dudes helping each other out works fine for me. I know it's rationalizing, but, since there's no emotional attachment, I'm okay with the occasional man on man action.

Exactly

 

[CuriousinPennsylvania]

Well put. Very valid points
Our wives shut the door on sex slowly. We are still in need
A girlfriend? That’s just dangerous. Women get attached
Feeling emerge.. another married guy? It’s a win win
He wants just what you want. It’s quick and easy.. and very satisfying.
A deep dark secret but there you have itVery well said.

Very well said.
I don't want an emotional attachment with a guy. I just want sex with discretion.
And for married guys who want to stay married, the experiences are, as you said, "Win-Win"

 

[CuriousinPennsylvania]

Fear of missing out on fun things as we get older.

"FOMO"

 

[Jeph77]

Very well said.
I don't want an emotional attachment with a guy. I just want sex with discretion.
And for married guys who want to stay married, the experiences are, as you said, "Win-Win"

The secrecy is a turn-on, for me, a little sensual exploration, though it isn't anything that's going to threaten my spousal relationship, health concerns, aside.

 

[Funguy63]

I think a lot of Boomers were ether brought up that gay sex was bad and not a lot went to college giving them access to experiment. So as we get older the testosterone levels drop, the sex with wifes stop. Sex with men is exciting and easy to find. even in the time before computers, a stop at a park, a bookstore or a truck stop was certain pleasure. The curiosity grows, and we realize if not now we will be too old to try.

 

[smooth-boy]

I think exploring and learning about bdsm unlocked something for me. I wasn't really getting what I wanted from women, and I discovered men were appealing to me more and more. My body was sure responding; getting harder easier, stronger orgasms. I'm still very trans attracted, but I would be eager to submit to a man irl.

 

[KarinSoftly]

I don’t know but I’m glad older men have those desires and seem to be very affectionate to fems.

 

[wouldloveto]

I think a lot of Boomers were ether brought up that gay sex was bad and not a lot went to college giving them access to experiment. So as we get older the testosterone levels drop, the sex with wifes stop. Sex with men is exciting and easy to find. even in the time before computers, a stop at a park, a bookstore or a truck stop was certain pleasure. The curiosity grows, and we realize if not now we will be too old to try.

I believe that what you said is true for many older men. Well said.

 

[klippert]

I think a lot of Boomers were ether brought up that gay sex was bad and not a lot went to college giving them access to experiment. So as we get older the testosterone levels drop, the sex with wifes stop. Sex with men is exciting and easy to find. even in the time before computers, a stop at a park, a bookstore or a truck stop was certain pleasure. The curiosity grows, and we realize if not now we will be too old to try.

I have read this pages comments...Funguy63 has it and the common denominator... "Sex".

 

[bobb_sledd]

I had homosexual relations when I was young. Once I started dating girls it stopped. It reemerged in my late forties. The remergence was stimiluated by my wife. She told me she had a fantasy of watching me having gay sex. We role played this gay sex scenario ever since. I bought her a strapon which she has become proficient using. My desire to suck or be fuck by a real cock has only grown. I crave it now more than ever but have never taken the plunge (except for with my wife and her strapon dildo).

Have you ever told her of your desires?

 

[eroticbum]

My curiosity started when I hit 50. My wife seems to have lost interest in sex but it's also painful for her.
I get the occasional blow job or hand job, and she's amazing. When I wear panties and other lingerie items my
mind goes to cock and how I want to suck one. Not interested in the guy - just a nice hard cock.
Want to know what wifes feels when she sucks mine, Now 60 I still want to experience one.

 

[mike6622]

I am early 70s. I came out as bi to my wife a few years ago. She loves hearing about my exploits and gets really horny when I tell her about how I have played around with other men. I had a few encounters over the years in saunas etc but one of our best male friends came on to me and my wife. We had great threesomes but she would not let him make love to her, only non penetrative sexual activity.
He and I got together by ourselves and went much further on many occasions. She liked me telling her the details.
She is very supportive and happy for me to explore.

 

[Greytruck]

I am early 70s. I came out as bi to my wife a few years ago. She loves hearing about my exploits and gets really horny when I tell her about how I have played around with other men. I had a few encounters over the years in saunas etc but one of our best male friends came on to me and my wife. We had great threesomes but she would not let him make love to her, only non penetrative sexual activity.
He and I got together by ourselves and went much further on many occasions. She liked me telling her the details.
She is very supportive and happy for me to explore.

Very lucky she’s understanding of all that…

 

[ILikeIt]

Have you ever told her of your desires?

She knows my desires. I suck her cock then she fucks me in the ass, and the whole time she is saying "you want a real one don't you?". That is all part of playing out our fantasy. Which, as it includes my wife, is erotic as it is. Fantasy versus reality, I have not figured that one out yet. Sucking a real cock, maybe the reality is a step too much for me. However all the stories I write have me taking as much cock as my wife.

 

[CuriousinPennsylvania]

I think a lot of Boomers were ether brought up that gay sex was bad and not a lot went to college giving them access to experiment. So as we get older the testosterone levels drop, the sex with wifes stop. Sex with men is exciting and easy to find. even in the time before computers, a stop at a park, a bookstore or a truck stop was certain pleasure. The curiosity grows, and we realize if not now we will be too old to try.

I have read this pages comments...Funguy63 has it and the common denominator... "Sex".

All of the above, but, yes, sex with men has always been easy to find, even before men were openly gay. And the old Boomer mentality of it being taboo, (which is still always in the back of my mind), and the nervousness that I'll get caught with my pants down, increases the level of excitement.

Oh and in my adventures, I've had a couple of experiences in truck stops. Before that, I had never expected that so many of those macho truckers were so cock and cum hungry. As klippert stated the common denominator is "SEX".