Those in open relationships, what are your rules?

[Kolejdayz]

Yes

 

[Swuchrow]

My wife and are in an open relationship. She doesn’t ask questions and I don’t ask questions. I know she fucks her bf and she knows a fuck women and submit to men.

 

[JackStayII]

My wife and are in an open relationship. She doesn’t ask questions and I don’t ask questions. I know she fucks her bf and she knows a fuck women and submit to men.

Sounds like the two of you found what works best for you.

 

[Swuchrow]

Sounds like the two of you found what works best for you.

The cherry on top would be having her invite me to watch her with other men. So far this has been a no go. I think the only way this will happen is if we meet a man at a bar. She has a few drinks and I convince her to bring him to the bedroom or hotel room.

 

[gtnlynn]

Our rules were no sex with friends (one exception); condoms required (two exceptions); one "date" only per man; full disclosure of who/where/when/what. She chose to have sex with others in our 30's, but stopped when she turned 40. She still has permission, but chooses not to do anything.

 

[VioletClit]

We tried to create "rules", but we found them too limiting and we both often broke them ... often in the heat of the moment. The one rule we have never broken and that we retain is complete honesty. We do not hid anything from each other. And that honesty actually develops an added intimacy to our relationship. So, we now have a "no rules" relationship when it comes to sex and relationships with other people. My husband is my #1, and I am his ... and a rule cannot make that happen or change that.
But, the funniest rule I come across in the LS is the "no kissing" rule. Kissing is fun and really adds to the play. But I have never understood the idea that you are allowed to put your inside someone else's body (in various ways), but God forbid that you should allow your lips to touch or have your tongue in someone's mouth! Just always SMH in wonder at that one!

 

[Naughtylo]

Our rules are we can have sex with anybody we want to but we have to clear it with eachother before hand.

 

[easyoff]

Our rules are we can have sex with anybody we want to but we have to clear it with eachother before hand.

Sort of kills the spur of the moment sex.

 

[Naughtylo]

Not at all hun.

 

[VioletClit]

You can't get "pre-clearance" @Naughtylo ? That way y'all can go to a party and split up and enjoy as things develop?

 

[Naughtylo]

A quick phone call is all it takes.
If we are at the same party we dont need to call as we both know why we're there.

 

[Naughtylo]

It works for us and that's all that matters.

 

[Robbo694u]

You can't get "pre-clearance" @Naughtylo ? That way y'all can go to a party and split up and enjoy as things develop?

A hall pass for those spontaneous or unexpected salacious events that get the mind racing and the juices flowing.... sounds good!

 

[VioletClit]

It works for us and that's all that matters.

Very true! No judgement here. I was just asking to clarify, and you did. It makes sense to be a bit more free and spontaneous - as you say - when you're at a LS party together! Enjoy yourselves!

 

[Unapologetic_Bull]

My primary couple have been hotwifing 18 years. The marriage is open on her side only. Their rules have evold over time naturally but here's their core rules.

1. Her adult dating profile is fully run and managed by her. She chooses who to message and interact with. He's hands-off. He can read all messages if he wishes.

2. There are at least two vanilla dates first. On the second or third date she'll have dinner or coffee with the potential bull on her own.

3. Her husband has no veto. If she decides she wants sex with a bull he has to accept it.

4. He is always present for the first sexual encounter. Partly safety and partly he loves watching.

5. After trust is established she can play with her bull on her own. His ability to watch becomes up to her and her bull.

6. If she develops feelings for her bull (which has happened) she is open and honest with both men. The three of them work through it together.

 

[Travler99921]

My wife and I are in an open relationship of sorts. She has not had a lover for several years. I am interested only in sex with other men. Here are the rules that apply to me
1. No sex with anyone she knows
2. Don't have gay sex in our house except when when she is out of town
3. Give her advanced notice so she can do something fun while I am with a man
4. No bareback anal sex
5. I must satisfy her sexual needs

While it is not a rule, she usually wants to know what a guy and I did.

 

[midwestmomlvr]

We don’t have an “open” marriage, but I allow (and encourage) her to have sex with other men.
1 No overnights.
2. Guys must get tested for std’s prior to sex (because she refuses to use condoms).
3. We originally said no anal sex (her rear was reserved for me only), but that one quickly got discarded with her long term friend, Mark. I was in the room (watching) and she clearly wanted to do it with him and asked if I was okay with it. Who was I to refuse her? Besides it was very erotic watching her take all of his 8.5 inches.

 

[StaciRay79]

Hubby and I were active in the lifestyle for many years. Some of you have heard me say this before. We got into it for US - it was always something we wanted to enjoy TOGETHER. So our #1 rule was always that we only play when both of us are there.

We had other rules as well (some developed over time and experience). A few of our bigger ones...
- neither of us "takes one for the team." If either of us was uncomfortable with anyone, we stopped and walked away
- either of us could call a stop at any time. This only had to happen twice - both times because of disrespect by the other guy
- condoms are 100% mandatory!

We left the lifestyle a few years ago but made some amazing friends during that time. Two couples are still our best friends today and we see them multiple times a year. These 4 were the only ones we relaxed the rules for and that didn't happen for a long time. They are like family to us now.

The most important rule was always COMMUNICATE! It was always important to both of us that we talked before, during, and after any encounter. Being open and honest with each other made that time in our lives special for both of us. And it's experiences and memories we got to share together!

 

[Sir_Timo_Volodok]

The code is more what you'd call 'guidelines' than actual rules...

1. We don't seek it out, either apart from each other or together, it has to happen organically.
2. Unless we both agree (three/foursome) it has to happen "on the road," not in our home/bed.
3. No shitting where we eat (i.e., friends/co-workers)
4. No relation/situationships, one-night stands/flings only.
5. Condoms or testing are required.

 

[phil1955]

We are older and got into the lifestyle after we retired. We did not make any rules before starting and still have not made any rules but we automatically adhere to certain conventions. She always lets me know if she is going on a date and with who and where. Also when I should expect her back. She picks her men and decides what she will do with them. I will point out that I had prostate surgery and am not fully functional yet but I do have a male friend and the same conventions would apply to me. I guess the rule might be to communicate and treat each other with respect but do not interfere with their pleasure.

 

[Bayzapper10]

Hubby and I were active in the lifestyle for many years. Some of you have heard me say this before. We got into it for US - it was always something we wanted to enjoy TOGETHER. So our #1 rule was always that we only play when both of us are there.

We had other rules as well (some developed over time and experience). A few of our bigger ones...
- neither of us "takes one for the team." If either of us was uncomfortable with anyone, we stopped and walked away
- either of us could call a stop at any time. This only had to happen twice - both times because of disrespect by the other guy
- condoms are 100% mandatory!

We left the lifestyle a few years ago but made some amazing friends during that time. Two couples are still our best friends today and we see them multiple times a year. These 4 were the only ones we relaxed the rules for and that didn't happen for a long time. They are like family to us now.

The most important rule was always COMMUNICATE! It was always important to both of us that we talked before, during, and after any encounter. Being open and honest with each other made that time in our lives special for both of us. And it's experiences and memories we got to share together!

Couldn’t love every word of this more ….

 

[EmmAgain]

I get to act out on my own, but he has total veto over it. He never gets to act out on his own, only if I’m present. We have a list of couples we play with on a regular basis - but, again, the first two rules are strictly applied.

 

[OralAllOver]

Dap to Hoozier

Am guessing you guys embrace (individually) self-esteem and confidence

 

[Freed1955]

Do you have established rules for who you and your partner can see, times, etc.?

Our primary rule is simple: don't spend the night somewhere else. Always come home after you're finished. Other than that, we do reserve the right of refusal, but have never told each other no when they express an interest in pursuing someone.

We have been doing this since before we got married in the 1990s and it has worked for us. I'm interested to know what other couples have established in their open relationships.

Things sometimes to momentary. Wife was bisexual a few of her hook up were while both interested. A few months later her husband wanted hook up. Wife asked me. My response was negative, when I found that they wanted her to fuck a friend and I answered the question with sure, plan for me to be gone and no chance of coming back together. She starts crying, saying she just asked your permission. I said, the last time you were with them cost over 300 dollars that you spent. Rules can help between friends. Wife started by getting me help a divorced girlfriend. Eventually she moved in with us. We found a guy for her, we've been sexual friends it's better to just a few regular. Two years ago I findly suck in reflex because I was apart of a 3way, his gf, was riding his face her verbally was reaction he wanted to suck his balls,he started getting closer and he yelled I'm going to cum, his first shot hit me on the cheek. I whiched from nuts to taking his cock to the back of my throat while I was pumping and licking his cock, he frozen. He was so sensitive that pushed me off and his gf said to me, get over here and suck me like dirt to him. Strangely I was so hot I felt like it needed to cum, but she grabbed my hair, she pulled hard lining up with my face, she said "now make love to my clit, bitch. This was a first time I experienced squirting. She called me few days later . The two us seeing each, I rarely meet up with guys because my job keeps to busy. I fantasize reliving that cock sucking, but so does that connection with (Debbie )