Those in open relationships, what are your rules?

[MichelleSwan]

Do you have established rules for who you and your partner can see, times, etc.?

Our primary rule is simple: don't spend the night somewhere else. Always come home after you're finished. Other than that, we do reserve the right of refusal, but have never told each other no when they express an interest in pursuing someone.

We have been doing this since before we got married in the 1990s and it has worked for us. I'm interested to know what other couples have established in their open relationships.

We only have a couple, we always know where we are, and a phone call if we are spending the night

 

[JR284]

We only have a couple, we always know where we are, and a phone call if we are spending the night

Pretty much the same with us. My wife has the freedom to do as she pleases. She just keeps her location turned on and either lets me or her best friend know where she's going to be.

 

[Travler99921]

My late wife and I were in an "open" relationship, but it was not a conventional one. I limited my extramarital sex to married men. I only wanted to have extramarital sex with men. She wanted me to limit it to married men. I was OK with that

Other rules were:
No one from our small town
No one we knew
Give 48 hour notice

 

[old_hippy_46]

My wife and I don’t so much have rules in our hotwife relationship. More like boundaries. When we decided as a couple that my wife would sex with other men, we figured it would be best to keep it on the down low. There are some people close to us that we want to keep in the dark.

Also, no activity with any men from “my side” of our marriage. Namely, my friends, family, coworkers. But any men from her side are fair game if she has an attraction to them.

Finally, we’re a hotwife couple. Simplest terms - my wife can spread her legs for a different guy every night if she wanted. While I remain faithful to her.

I like the simplicity of 'boundaries' rather than hard rules.

 

[CyndiOldermen]

No coworkers or the other’s family members

 

[JohnyJ09]

Not a hard rule, we usually try to stick with at least one week heads up for any plans with others.

No one at the house unless it's empty (ie, kids are so school, etc)

Any group stuff involves each other unless otherwise discussed

Whereabouts always shared and known

Contact info for other person/people always shared

Most important of all, have fun!

 

[bobb_sledd]

We’ll be married 40 years in April. Throughout our marriage I traveled extensively and while I told my wife early-on I would attempt to remain true, she understood that I (we) had needs. The cardinal rule we followed was - no relationships. Fucking for fucking’s sake was fine but there was to be no emotional entanglements. It was easy for me as I was the one traveling, I was, and still am, able to leave my dalliances behind and/or keep them non-romantic. Second to no relationships was something of a don’t ask, don’t tell policy, though she’s always known that I’ve ventured out. To this day I don’t know for sure if she has – I have my suspicions, but I don’t know for sure.

 

[easyoff]

No coworkers or the other’s family members

We had the no coworkers rule for awhile, then one night everything changed.

 

[SueTeri]

No coworkers or the other’s family members

I agreed not have sex with any of my Hubby’s brothers or niece

 

[Handydan]

I agreed not have sex with any of my Hubby’s brothers or niece

Was that an option?

 

[Belong2Her]

my Wife and I have a Wife Led Marriage/Female led relationship, with "perks." She does have a couple of Bulls, whom She will have sex with when She wants a break from the stress of being in charge. But i know them, i even have had sex with them, at my Wife's consent or direction. She does not have any Men without my knowing. (Even if She is going out of town on business, She will let me know if She plans to or is having a Man with Her.). She only has Men/Bulls at our home, if She goes on a date, they will return to our home, and any spending of the night will be at our home, and unless they want me to watch, or take part, i go sleep in the guest room. (i consider myself to be submissive to Her Bulls, but only serve Them if She tells me to.)

It is one sided, She can have relations, i cannot. (Originally agreed by both of us, and continued to this day by continued mutual consent.)

W/we do get together with two couples also into our lifestyle, but otherwise, we try not to advertise it to the world. (Though people know i stay home as the househusband, i even took Her last name in marriage, and will be truthful if someone asks U/us about our marriage.)

And the Upper/lower case is our thing, as W/we enjoy. reminding each other i belong to Her.

 

[JennyCapricorn]

We just started in real life practice as a reward structure for our health
1) only get a free pass when hitting Heath goals
2) free pass must be on someone picked up in a bar or similar - no one we know, no professionals - but if there’s a connection from that can see again as long as partner comfortable
3) share and hopefully recreate everything about the event during “recertification sex” within the next couple days.

So far this has worked well. He’s seen the same woman 3 times after that initial pick up. I had an amazing night with another woman and am wondering what to do with my next pass.

 

[JackStayII]

We opened our marriage in early spring of 1977 while I was in the Navy and my wife was in college.
Our first rule: No married, engaged, or even someone going steady unless they were in a similar relationship.
Our second rule: We would share and tell each other everything.
Our third rule came about when we moved into base housing: We were to bring no one to there. Not only did everyone seem to know everyone else's business, but the walls were so thin they could hear us getting it on!

 

[SeaLevel]

We have a few agreements. We have a pretty wide messy list. We require condoms. We have a limit on how much time with others, though that limit is fluid. We prefer overnights for each other if late nights or drinking are involved. Too many rules dampens the fun.

 

[Kolejdayz]

We opened our marriage in early spring of 1977 while I was in the Navy and my wife was in college.
Our first rule: No married, engaged, or even someone going steady unless they were in a similar relationship.
Our second rule: We would share and tell each other everything.
Our third rule came about when we moved into base housing: We were to bring no one to there. Not only did everyone seem to know everyone else's business, but the walls were so thin they could hear us getting it on!

When it was open for us, we also had that second rule. Not only did it cut down on any jealousy but the stories were so exciting

 

[JackStayII]

When it was open for us, we also had that second rule. Not only did it cut down on any jealousy but the stories were so exciting

That's what we discovered, too.

 

[Kolejdayz]

That's what we discovered, too.

Did you have GFs too?

 

[JackStayII]

Did you have GFs too?

Hmmm...I had the same opportunities as my wife. Since I was in the Navy and deployed quite often, she had better luck than I did. When she was in college, my wife introduced me to a few of her girl friends who were as adventurous as she was. After she graduated and joined me at my duty station, neither one of us were as active as we had been. And, living in base housing complicated things; thin walls, nosey neighbors, etc.

 

[Venefica]

My husband and me do never something alone but many things together.

I do not know whether this is an open relationship.

 

[Kolejdayz]

Well hot looking wives always have opportunities. But my wife also introduced me to her friends

 

[Naughtylo]

We are in an open relationship. We can both have sex with others and often do but we tell eachother and agree before hand.

 

[Kolejdayz]

I have

We are in an open relationship. We can both have sex with others and often do but we tell eachother and agree before hand.

I have done that a few times -- it was always a lot of fun

 

[Naughtylo]

It is isnt it.
I like when my husband is present. Watching me. Its not a cuckold thing its more of an exhibitionist thing.

 

[Kolejdayz]

It is isnt it.
I like when my husband is present. Watching me. Its not a cuckold thing its more of an exhibitionist thing.

Yes I think so too. I liked buying her clothes to dress up for her adventures and sometimes she would fuck me soon after she was done with him

 

[Naughtylo]

Same for us. The sex after with hubby is amazing. Pm?