16+ for me and yes have to go elsewhere, with her blessing
Sexless Marriages
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SexyOlderNWMale
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I wish I could get her blessing, but I just don't think she'd be open to that even though she is the one who closed up shop.
MongoSex
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MongoSex
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Yep, the overwhelming reaction from the female half that I have encountered, when she closes up the shop, you do too, no choice or discussion.
Not much give-a-shit about the male and his psyche. However, if the tables were turned, “she”‘ would justify the departures and satisfy her needs, and……we’d still be guilty.
Not much give-a-shit about the male and his psyche. However, if the tables were turned, “she”‘ would justify the departures and satisfy her needs, and……we’d still be guilty.
SexyOlderNWMale
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They are women...a double standard always exists when it come to "their" men.
I am resigned to keeping any activities out of view and go on with my life.
dawn_of_night
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She blesses you for this?
Maybe the wrong word, she told me to get it somewhere else if it meant I'd leave her alone, should've said gave permission and yes it's in writing (CMA).
Shaglus_Ziegler
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Don’t think I could put up with a sexless marriage. Fuck that. I figure I’m quite lucky to get lots of sex with my wife though I’m much kinkier than her, on the surface, my struggle is opening her up to more and more exploration. Guess every existence is relative. For those in sexless marriages I’d say brutal honesty and understanding is the key. Regretting not being brave and living true would be hard to deal with on our deathbed. Cheers and good luck!
diavolo2025
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This thread is such an eye-opener for me. Didn't quite realize how big the damned boat is.
Bacchus6153
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Been a long time for me as well. Wife was sexually abused as a child, and the scars still exist. Sex was work, she was detached, indifferent, and she just didn't enjoy it, so we stopped. I begged her to get counseling, but she refused.
Yearning for a connection with someone else because this isn't normal. I feel that I'm running out of time.
On the other hand, I'm being positive and hope things change.
Yearning for a connection with someone else because this isn't normal. I feel that I'm running out of time.
On the other hand, I'm being positive and hope things change.
PapaRomantic
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The trouble with this is that for many people, there are many good things about their marriage so they have to decide if no sex or intimacy is enough of a reason to divorce. It's a hard choice for most.
SexyOlderNWMale
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Agreed. Pretty much everything else is fine in my marriage. Intimacy is important, but I have found other unauthorized outlets for that which allows me to stay in my marriage otherwise.
Shaglus_Ziegler
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I totally understand yet do we live or not? I’m not a cheater so honest talk is a must. I realize how difficult it is. Cheers
Ditto..I am totally in a sexless marriage and have been pretty much for a few years! We’re out there but we are a bit like unicorns
I am a woman in her 50’s with the sex drive of an 18 yr old boy, that’s not normal I’ve been told by female friends the same age and male friends. I should be settling down for my old age with my hormones dying a slow death, but hell no!
Love to chat…
BobbyandtheCabin
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Each day gets harder. I have so much to lose if I leave so have no choice but to stay. I miss sex so much, but I especially miss that female interest in me, sexually, and what I like. I also miss just general sexual chatter with women.
My late teens/early twenties I was having one night stands regularly, trying to fill that void. I slept with maybe 25 women, with recurring sessions with maybe a quarter of them, and across that entire period I myself came in sex maybe 4 or 5 times (and about half of them involuntary where there was something about them that I just couldnt hold it
). I was desperate for them to think I was amazing in bed, would have sessions lasting hours and hours, ending when they're spent. I'd research how to do and be better. It was great.
In my late teens, I was desperate for the sexual attention. I'd found some weird loophole with AdultFriendFinder where if I went via certain pages I didnt have to pay, and I used to just have my cock out on cam. I used to absolutely love the attention that came with that, the viewers and star ratings going up, and didn't really have a concept of online safety. There was no 'tips' or anything, just some good ol' pro bonero.
In my relationship, when it started, I learned to actually let myself cum and that should be a mutual beneficial thing, but i recognise now that it was my partners desire that what she wants to do would have maximum arousal power for me, and my actual needs/wants/fantasies were not of real interest. The down the line my enjoyment full stop was off the table. It became transactional to get her off and get on with our day.
Fast forward to now, a few years of technical sexlessness (i.e. less than 12x a year) and now just over one of none at all, and I ache with longing.
I started chatting on an anonymous chat site and for the first time maybe ever connected with a couple of women who were really really intrigued in what I really like, and actually went out their way to try and fulfill what I like rather than only what they want me to. It was a breathtaking feeling. Of course the efforts were mutual from me for them, but not labouring that point as that's not the topic here.
But I realised there's a really dark side to those sorts of sites, and you never know who you're talking to and what they might send, and so now i'm too scared to go back on there.
But I miss it, I miss women, and don't know what to do.
Rant over. Feeling blue.
My late teens/early twenties I was having one night stands regularly, trying to fill that void. I slept with maybe 25 women, with recurring sessions with maybe a quarter of them, and across that entire period I myself came in sex maybe 4 or 5 times (and about half of them involuntary where there was something about them that I just couldnt hold it
). I was desperate for them to think I was amazing in bed, would have sessions lasting hours and hours, ending when they're spent. I'd research how to do and be better. It was great.In my late teens, I was desperate for the sexual attention. I'd found some weird loophole with AdultFriendFinder where if I went via certain pages I didnt have to pay, and I used to just have my cock out on cam. I used to absolutely love the attention that came with that, the viewers and star ratings going up, and didn't really have a concept of online safety. There was no 'tips' or anything, just some good ol' pro bonero
.In my relationship, when it started, I learned to actually let myself cum and that should be a mutual beneficial thing, but i recognise now that it was my partners desire that what she wants to do would have maximum arousal power for me, and my actual needs/wants/fantasies were not of real interest. The down the line my enjoyment full stop was off the table. It became transactional to get her off and get on with our day.
Fast forward to now, a few years of technical sexlessness (i.e. less than 12x a year) and now just over one of none at all, and I ache with longing.
I started chatting on an anonymous chat site and for the first time maybe ever connected with a couple of women who were really really intrigued in what I really like, and actually went out their way to try and fulfill what I like rather than only what they want me to. It was a breathtaking feeling. Of course the efforts were mutual from me for them, but not labouring that point as that's not the topic here.
But I realised there's a really dark side to those sorts of sites, and you never know who you're talking to and what they might send, and so now i'm too scared to go back on there.
But I miss it, I miss women, and don't know what to do.
Rant over. Feeling blue.
