Sexless Marriages

[Mtnmike]

It's been 15 years for me. I had to go off the reservation to keep my sanity.

16+ for me and yes have to go elsewhere, with her blessing

 

[SexyOlderNWMale]

16+ for me and yes have to go elsewhere, with her blessing

I wish I could get her blessing, but I just don't think she'd be open to that even though she is the one who closed up shop.

 

[MongoSex]

I wish I could get her blessing, but I just don't think she'd be open to that even though she is the one who closed up shop.

 

[MongoSex]

Yep, the overwhelming reaction from the female half that I have encountered, when she closes up the shop, you do too, no choice or discussion.
Not much give-a-shit about the male and his psyche. However, if the tables were turned, “she”‘ would justify the departures and satisfy her needs, and……we’d still be guilty.

 

[SexyOlderNWMale]

Yep, the overwhelming reaction from the female half that I have encountered, when she closes up the shop, you do too, no choice or discussion.
Not much give-a-shit about the male and his psyche. However, if the tables were turned, “she”‘ would justify the departures and satisfy her needs, and……we’d still be guilty.

They are women...a double standard always exists when it come to "their" men.
I am resigned to keeping any activities out of view and go on with my life.

 

[dawn_of_night]

16+ for me and yes have to go elsewhere, with her blessing

She blesses you for this?

 

[Mtnmike]

She blesses you for this?

Maybe the wrong word, she told me to get it somewhere else if it meant I'd leave her alone, should've said gave permission and yes it's in writing (CMA).

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

Don’t think I could put up with a sexless marriage. Fuck that. I figure I’m quite lucky to get lots of sex with my wife though I’m much kinkier than her, on the surface, my struggle is opening her up to more and more exploration. Guess every existence is relative. For those in sexless marriages I’d say brutal honesty and understanding is the key. Regretting not being brave and living true would be hard to deal with on our deathbed. Cheers and good luck!

 

[diavolo2025]

This thread is such an eye-opener for me. Didn't quite realize how big the damned boat is.

 

[Bacchus6153]

Been a long time for me as well. Wife was sexually abused as a child, and the scars still exist. Sex was work, she was detached, indifferent, and she just didn't enjoy it, so we stopped. I begged her to get counseling, but she refused.

Yearning for a connection with someone else because this isn't normal. I feel that I'm running out of time.

On the other hand, I'm being positive and hope things change.

 

[Dav2567]

Same situation here always lookinng to chat though

 

[PapaRomantic]

Don’t think I could put up with a sexless marriage. Fuck that. I figure I’m quite lucky to get lots of sex with my wife though I’m much kinkier than her, on the surface, my struggle is opening her up to more and more exploration. Guess every existence is relative. For those in sexless marriages I’d say brutal honesty and understanding is the key. Regretting not being brave and living true would be hard to deal with on our deathbed. Cheers and good luck!

The trouble with this is that for many people, there are many good things about their marriage so they have to decide if no sex or intimacy is enough of a reason to divorce. It's a hard choice for most.

 

[SexyOlderNWMale]

The trouble with this is that for many people, there are many good things about their marriage so they have to decide if no sex or intimacy is enough of a reason to divorce. It's a hard choice for most.

Agreed. Pretty much everything else is fine in my marriage. Intimacy is important, but I have found other unauthorized outlets for that which allows me to stay in my marriage otherwise.