How Much of Yourself Do You Pour into a Relationship?

[juicylips]

Re: I usually keep myself pretty reserved...

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Of course, when I fall in love, I give my all. I think that love deserves nothing less.

S.

Isn't that kinda like the proverbial sign that you are in love? You realize you would give whatever it takes to make this relationship work?

 

[sheath]

Yes...and no...

I thought I loved my boyfriend more than anything in the world. But I was so intent on holding on to him...we went through some serious problems. My concern was not losing him.

I realized that I wasn't giving my all if I wasn't willing to set him free. No matter how much I loved him, I was still being selfish. That wasn't giving 100%.

Then one day, I reached that point where I said: I want you to be happy. I want you to have everything. I wish that happiness was with me. But if it is not, I'm at peace with it. I just want you to be happy.

THAT was when I gave my all. When I was willing to give wholly, unselfishly, and with no thought to my own needs.

And...lucky me...he's still mine. And now I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that I am giving everything I have.

S.

 

[juicylips]

Re: Yes...and no...

And...lucky me...he's still mine. And now I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that I am giving everything I have.

S.

It sounds as if you worked out not just some things in your relationship but internal issues you had about yourself. I'm happy to hear it worked out for you.

 

[juicylips]

So, you're like dating someone, and all of a sudden this magical day comes and it is a Relationship? And from that day forward, you are to be twined together giving all of yourselves to each other endlessly?

Sounds good, and some people do it that way. Which is a good way to make major mistakes. Keeping it fun and natural is the way to go in my opinion. If the natural path for each of you, is to bond closer and closer, then nurture it and let the relationship develop at its own pace, and find its own character...

But this standard relationship expectations, black and white, it is this way or not at all bothers me. Each relationship is unique, there are no rules.

I have read this post a half dozen times and it still hits me the wrong way.