How much is “too much”?

[Bighammerfucker]

Honest, blunt question: do you think a lot of Lit posting is symptomatic of a sex addiction?

When I was younger I’d frequent sites like this more. At the time, I’d have described myself as experiencing hypersexuality. In time I actually realized that my time spent on sites like this was actually really hurting my sexual functioning and sexual self esteem, as not only did it cause me to feel I had to compare myself to others, but also “compete” with them to be, well, even more sexual, to keep up with how many “FANTASTIC” oh-joy experiences everyone’s ALWAYS having here, yknow?

Looking back, I really regret that, because it caused my sexual self-esteem to eventually crash. Which leads me to the belief that upon retrospection, I wish I’d walked into this site realizing that yeah, there is such thing as “too much” for me, and a lot of what’s expressed on this site may indeed be it.

So. I think sometimes it’s good to ask. It’s good to sometimes talk about when stuff is just “too much”. Do you think this site can be too much, where maybe it crosses a line from what’s healthy into addiction and/or a situation in which people post more to achieve a sexual competitive edge/or even for attention? Just wondering if anyone else has ever sorta felt this way or if I’m crazy.

 

[Saint_Ann]

Honest, blunt question: do you think a lot of Lit posting is symptomatic of a sex addiction?

When I was younger I’d frequent sites like this more. At the time, I’d have described myself as experiencing hypersexuality. In time I actually realized that my time spent on sites like this was actually really hurting my sexual functioning and sexual self esteem, as not only did it cause me to feel I had to compare myself to others, but also “compete” with them to be, well, even more sexual, to keep up with how many “FANTASTIC” oh-joy experiences everyone’s ALWAYS having here, yknow?

Looking back, I really regret that, because it caused my sexual self-esteem to eventually crash. Which leads me to the belief that upon retrospection, I wish I’d walked into this site realizing that yeah, there is such thing as “too much” for me, and a lot of what’s expressed on this site may indeed be it.

So. I think sometimes it’s good to ask. It’s good to sometimes talk about when stuff is just “too much”. Do you think this site can be too much, where maybe it crosses a line from what’s healthy into addiction and/or a situation in which people post more to achieve a sexual competitive edge/or even for attention? Just wondering if anyone else has ever sorta felt this way or if I’m crazy.

What does your wife think?

 

[Britva415]

Not me.

 

[Bighammerfucker]

What does your wife think?

I’m a girl, but valid, I do wish I found a girl who’d be willing to go on a date, let alone someday get married. It’s rough out there these days. However if you’re asking if someone’s ever suggested I had a sex addiction, no they have not. I’ve experienced hypersexuality, but with solo relations because I’m on the asexuality spectrum myself. I’m claiming to have experienced hypersexuality based on the way I was acting back then on retrospection.

 

[ericalauren]

Maybe? I know that there is debate among sex therapists about whether sex addiction is real or not. I would say that if your sex life is distressing you and/or the people who love you (spouse, etc), get professional help. I hope that helps.

 

[Bighammerfucker]

Maybe? I know that there is debate among sex therapists about whether sex addiction is real or not. I would say that if your sex life is distressing you and/or the people who love you (spouse, etc), get professional help. I hope that helps.

Idk. I guess I mean more that I found this website to be distressing, but I wasn’t distressed in my offline life. Until I let stuff from online get into my head. I guess what I’m most wondering is if I’m alone in experiencing that, or not. Obviously that’s why I distanced myself from this site, and sought professional help, though I don’t think professional help helped as much as using this site less did.

 

[Saint_Ann]

I’m a girl, but valid, I do wish I found a girl who’d be willing to go on a date, let alone someday get married. It’s rough out there these days. However if you’re asking if someone’s ever suggested I had a sex addiction, no they have not. I’ve experienced hypersexuality, but with solo relations because I’m on the asexuality spectrum myself. I’m claiming to have experienced hypersexuality based on the way I was acting back then on retrospection.

If you're asking if you can have a sex addiction without having sex...I can't answer that. At the very least you are unlikely to contract an std.

 

[12oclocktales]

I guess I mean more that I found this website to be distressing, but I wasn’t distressed in my offline life. Until I let stuff from online get into my head.

I’ve always assumed that half the stuff I read on this site is made up, “stretchers” as Mark Twain called such things. Feeling like a wallflower at an orgy is easier to sluff off if the orgy itself was probably just in someone’s imagination, anyway.

 

[Saint_Ann]

I’ve always assumed that half the stuff I read on this site is made up, “stretchers” as Mark Twain called such things. Feeling like a wallflower at an orgy is easier to sluff off if the orgy itself was probably just in someone’s imagination, anyway.

Nice!

 

[Bighammerfucker]

If you're asking if you can have a sex addiction without having sex...I can't answer that. At the very least you are unlikely to contract an std.

For sure it’s possible when regarding sexuality as a whole, hence why porn addiction is also a thing. I never watched porn but I do feel that younger me was hyperfixated.

 

[Bighammerfucker]

I’ve always assumed that half the stuff I read on this site is made up, “stretchers” as Mark Twain called such things. Feeling like a wallflower at an orgy is easier to sluff off if the orgy itself was probably just in someone’s imagination, anyway.

I will admit, many times I damn sure hope so with what I’ve read. But fair, even I’ve told stories that were 100% real only to be met with “could not possibly be true”, so perhaps we will never know the truth

 

[eric_erosfan]

When I first discovered masturbation I remember wanting to do it all the time. But after each time I finished I was so ashamed. I would literally stand in the mirror and raise my right hand and swear to myself that I would never do that again. Horny me and non horny me were like Dr. Heckl and Mr. Hyde. Doing stuff that feels good can be addicting. Over time I learned to compartmentalize my extreme horniness. So that I had enough energy to devote to my career and normal life. I am older now and the libido is just now starting to slow down. But when I am horny it is the same as when I was 19.

 

[Wonderer67]

Honest, blunt question: do you think a lot of Lit posting is symptomatic of a sex addiction?

It could be. I don’t know if I’m “hypersexual.” But I have a strong sex drive still (I’m 56) and my wife enhances it by controlling my orgasm.

We have a good ammount of sex: 3-4x a week still. Maybe it’s increased a bit since we’ve become empty nesters.

But I only cum 1-2x a month. It makes me ridiculously horny. In that respect I think I feel “hypersexual” after I go 3-4 days without cumming, her teasing me a lot and also more traditional fucking.

I love the feeling and she loves the attention and focus it puts on her. And when I do cum, the orgasms are huge and super fulfilling.

We occasionally share clips of our sexual activity here, because it’s fun. I really like the community at lit. Horny and curious people sharing their sex lives and experiences.

But everyone is different!