Fucked versus Used

[Crankbait88]

The woman I'm involved with over the past two years has evolved in this matter. We originally started with her being fucked, to both of our pleasures. That has morphed into her wanting to be used more and more, where her pleasure is derived from my pleasure.

For us, there is a clear difference, and while not discussed prior to our trysts, she determines frequently what will happen, or I do to a lesser extent.

 

[Escierto]

I think this is a great explanation, both can be really fulfilling is different ways! Being fucked can be amazing and everyone loves receiving pleasure but I also am just addicted to being used.

The idea of being able to solely focus on pleasing others can be so fulfilling. I honestly kinda can be exhausted from focusing on what I want or need and balancing it with what others want and managing that give and take. Having the sole goal of being the best possible object of pleasure lets me enjoy an almost relaxing amount of clarity.

It can lead to alot of new and fun ways to challenging yourself too. Pushing your gag reflex, holding a tough position, or trying to look sexy while having your mouth fucked is a unique experience. I particularly love having to continue to be used after having an orgasm or pushing myself to focus on my task while cumming.

Its strange to say that being used as a sex toy can be therapeutic but it really can be sometimes.

So true!

 

[eroticspank]

Great topic! I am sure both have their place in a relationship.

I would like to share how as a man, I was used by a woman. I was in my early 30s and I met a woman at a bar that was barely 22. We went back to my place and had sex. She had on a garter belt, stockings, and no panties. We fucked for about 3 hours. The entire time she was in charge. She took off my clothes and then gave me a BJ. She grabbed my ass a bit too hard like a young boy touching a new pair of tits. She kept taking over the pace of our fucking, moving positions, eventually, I let her take over.

She had several great orgasms but I felt like it was from nothing that I did. I came a few times--strong orgasms--but it was when she directed it. Similar to being on the dance floor and she took the lead in a slow dance. We sat on the bed for about 30 minutes after the sex. She was smoking a cigarette. I tried to talk to her but she was disinterested and we had little in common. She asked me to take her home and I never saw her again.

I sat on the empty bed for a long time after getting back from dropping her off. I had a great time but emotionally I was confused. It was simple. I had been used. I should have been mad I thought but when I accepted what happened it became a turn-on. I began to explore my submissive side. The beginning of a journey into Femdom and BDSM.

It is really HOT to be lusted after and have your partner relieve themself with your body. In a relationship, I think it is great because you get to see a side of your partner you don't regularly see. I understand there has to be trust and communication. But if there is, I think it is great to be on both ends of it, the receiver or the giver!

ES

 

[Wonderer67]

Great topic! I am sure both have their place in a relationship.

I would like to share how as a man, I was used by a woman. I was in my early 30s and I met a woman at a bar that was barely 22. We went back to my place and had sex. She had on a garter belt, stockings, and no panties. We fucked for about 3 hours. The entire time she was in charge. She took off my clothes and then gave me a BJ. She grabbed my ass a bit too hard like a young boy touching a new pair of tits. She kept taking over the pace of our fucking, moving positions, eventually, I let her take over.

She had several great orgasms but I felt like it was from nothing that I did. I came a few times--strong orgasms--but it was when she directed it. Similar to being on the dance floor and she took the lead in a slow dance. We sat on the bed for about 30 minutes after the sex. She was smoking a cigarette. I tried to talk to her but she was disinterested and we had little in common. She asked me to take her home and I never saw her again.

I sat on the empty bed for a long time after getting back from dropping her off. I had a great time but emotionally I was confused. It was simple. I had been used. I should have been mad I thought but when I accepted what happened it became a turn-on. I began to explore my submissive side. The beginning of a journey into Femdom and BDSM.

It is really HOT to be lusted after and have your partner relieve themself with your body. In a relationship, I think it is great because you get to see a side of your partner you don't regularly see. I understand there has to be trust and communication. But if there is, I think it is great to be on both ends of it, the receiver or the giver!

ES

Hit story!! Love this too as a man - cold and/or indifferent woman using me for her pleasure. She may look bored while fucking me or check her phone while I am worshipping her pussy… or a medical scenario and her telling me to hurry the hell up already.

 

[eroticspank]

Hit story!! Love this too as a man - cold and/or indifferent woman using me for her pleasure. She may look bored while fucking me or check her phone while I am worshipping her pussy… or a medical scenario and her telling me to hurry the hell up already.

I do love the scene though I find that I am turned on by her devouring and enjoying my body. It is like watching someone enjoy a great meal. I saw this woman at a bar years ago by herself eating a meal. I really enjoyed watching her. Each bite she put in her mouth her eyes rolled into the back of her head while moaning. She nodded her head up and down after she swallowed each bite like she was answering a question from someone "Is it good?". Finished, she put her fingers in the bowl to get a few more morsels. She sat there for the next 30 minutes with a big smile and an afterglow.
ES

 

[BiMale4KinkyFun]

I loved being used, I had a friend who would invite me to special parties. At these parties I was the party favor and the guests would be able to use me in any way they wanted.

 

[xdresssissytoes]

I loved being used, I had a friend who would invite me to special parties. At these parties I was the party favor and the guests would be able to use me in any way they wanted.

I would luv to be used naked in heeks like this by the guests....both my sissy fuck holes wide open and exposed for roaming hands, fingers, and hard cocks!

 

[peter49parker]

I enjoy sex of most flavors and definitely want to be loved, cherished, and pampered. That said, what really blows me away is when I'm being used.

Used versus fucked: My definition is, the man (or men - yeah I love that also!!!) is using my body for his/their pleasure and amusement with no thought of my own enjoyment or even compliance. To him/them I am just an object, a thing to satisfy need to copulate. That to me is used.

Anyone else prefer used to fucked?

Here's to you getting what you want, when you want it.

 

[KatieDoes]

There’s a time and place for both. I find that being used takes the pressure to perform and the pressure to reach orgasm off of me. Not surprisingly, that makes it much easier for me to cum, harder and more frequently.

That being said, I have absolutely zero interest in being used by some rando that doesn’t value me. .

Edit:
Men…. Use.
More than they ever give.
So. I’m done with men. And with being used.

 

[hulmule]

When i saw this thread my mind jumped to this
https://www.bing.com/ck/a?!&&p=1d8e...1dHViZS5jb20vd2F0Y2g_dj1OdVlES3preTR6MA&ntb=1







































When i saw the title to this thread my mind jumped to Bill Withers- Use me up

 

[seekingAlpha]

I think "fucking" is something that occurs in almost all relationships regardless if it is characterized as BDSM or not and is truly an agreed upon or negotiated act per occurrence. "Using" is more like a blanket preauthorization to do what you want with someone such as a sub or a slave without discussing it and it carries distinct connotations of the power dynamic between the two partners. i.e. When my sub tells me that I own her pussy then it is mine to use as I see fit.

 

[Escierto]

I think "fucking" is something that occurs in almost all relationships regardless if it is characterized as BDSM or not and is truly an agreed upon or negotiated act per occurrence. "Using" is more like a blanket preauthorization to do what you want with someone such as a sub or a slave without discussing it and it carries distinct connotations of the power dynamic between the two partners. i.e. When my sub tells me that I own her pussy then it is mine to use as I see fit.

The blanket preauthorization. Yes!

It’s what allows my girl to pull my underwear off in the middle of the night and use my ass until she cums.

 

[2tallpaul]

My girlfriend always uses me for her pleasure and that’s the way I like it. She either uses my ass or my mouth as a hole in which to dump her cum. She doesn’t reciprocate in any way and my pleasure comes from her using me in this way. I love her big cock and as far as I am concerned my job is to service her cock as her slut.

I've always been the one looking out for my partners pleasure. More recent she got me into some MMF rolls and being used feels great with no emotional connection

 

[EStaccato]

I prefer to be used. I'm shy in bed, and I can't get off if I'm the sexual center of attention. (So pampering is OUT). When I'm being used, I feel like my body is valuable, like my partner is getting off, but I'm inconsequential - the sexual center of attention is on the user and I can climax without overthinking it.

Incidentally, I recently heard someone called a cum dumpster. Naturally it was meant to be a slur. Meanwhile I'm raising my hand. Ooo! Me! Just put the cum wherever you want, mmkay?

 

[seekingAlpha]

I prefer to be used. I'm shy in bed, and I can't get off if I'm the sexual center of attention. (So pampering is OUT). When I'm being used, I feel like my body is valuable, like my partner is getting off, but I'm inconsequential - the sexual center of attention is on the user and I can climax without overthinking it.

Incidentally, I recently heard someone called a cum dumpster. Naturally it was meant to be a slur. Meanwhile I'm raising my hand. Ooo! Me! Just put the cum wherever you want, mmkay?

The term "fuck puppet" definitely comes to mind and I say that admirably and affectionately.

 

[Escierto]

I prefer to be used. I'm shy in bed, and I can't get off if I'm the sexual center of attention. (So pampering is OUT). When I'm being used, I feel like my body is valuable, like my partner is getting off, but I'm inconsequential - the sexual center of attention is on the user and I can climax without overthinking it.

Incidentally, I recently heard someone called a cum dumpster. Naturally it was meant to be a slur. Meanwhile I'm raising my hand. Ooo! Me! Just put the cum wherever you want, mmkay?

With my girlfriend it’s definitely not a slur. I love being her cum dumpster!

 

[K0fcali]

Well I'm single now so you might have a chance lol.

I prefer you in a committed relationship. With a high chance of getting caught. Then using both you and your man for my pleasure.

 

[swtgrlnxtdr]

I love both. It’s a situational thing for me.

 

[skadibound4u]

I like to be fucked.but I really, really much prefer to be used and fortunately nearly all the guys (singularly or multi) have known that without me saying anything.

 

[Older_Pervert]

I prefer used

Good for you!

 

[southernf]

Honestly my single biggest turn on when I want to be "fucked" is feeling like he HAS to have me. I don't really think about it in terms of being "used." I think feeling used is a totally different thing.

 

[missmixalot]

I enjoy sex of most flavors and definitely want to be loved, cherished, and pampered. That said, what really blows me away is when I'm being used.

Used versus fucked: My definition is, the man (or men - yeah I love that also!!!) is using my body for his/their pleasure and amusement with no thought of my own enjoyment or even compliance. To him/them I am just an object, a thing to satisfy need to copulate. That to me is used.

Anyone else prefer used to fucked?

I have done both and both have their place in a varied sexual life. However, my submissive nature draws me towards being used.

 

[tristantrotsky]

Honestly my single biggest turn on when I want to be "fucked" is feeling like he HAS to have me. I don't really think about it in terms of being "used." I think feeling used is a totally different thing.

To be 'used' to satisfy the urgent need of another is the greatest of gifts to give or receive...

 

[stxjimmy]

I have done both and both have their place in a varied sexual life. However, my submissive nature draws me towards being used.

Does used equate to being useful?

 

[JudyCD]

I like it when, as soon as he cums, he’s pulling up his pants and heading for the door. I am definitely used for his relief.