Fucked versus Used

[Hipshot1554]

Back to OP... I like both and it just has a place and time when the situation is right. My (time with my) ex taught me a lot sexually. He was perverted. He insisted on teaching me that I can have sex for fun...

I didn't have the terms for how I felt but this forum helps. I learned to have sex for my pleasure, but I also loved giving men pleasure... I loved getting used.

For me, it's mental. Sometimes I just want to get off and sometimes, I want the guy(s) to just want me and to want to use me to get their pleasure.

This sounds completely normal to me.

 

[Samantha47]

I enjoy sex of most flavors and definitely want to be loved, cherished, and pampered. That said, what really blows me away is when I'm being used.

Used versus fucked: My definition is, the man (or men - yeah I love that also!!!) is using my body for his/their pleasure and amusement with no thought of my own enjoyment or even compliance. To him/them I am just an object, a thing to satisfy need to copulate. That to me is used.

Anyone else prefer used to fucked?

Me

 

[BillyWalrus]

Me

Me too, honey. By my girlfriend and her big one.

 

[cascadiabound]

Fucked is when it's for the sexual pleasure of both (or all) partners whereas used is just for me. My lady, for example, loves sex and likes getting fucked. But there are times when she sees I'm having either a really bad day or a really great day and she lets me relieve myself with her body. I'm using her and getting off with her mouth or her pussy. She's not going to cum from it but she loves it and she'll relive those moments later to pleasure herself. Using her is me taking control, doing what I want, exploding in her, and letting her clean up so I can go about my day. I get to be selfish.

I don't think "used" necessarily is equivalent to the "user" being 100% selfish. Used is when he takes complete control because he wants and needs it, maybe with shades of animalistic /apparent out of control vibe, but it is more about taking what he wants from her. That might mean forced orgasms, or prolonged edging or ruined orgams. It might mean exposure and humiliation as part of being used - which might very well feed into her needs and kinks.

I think it is also possible to have a sex session that is all on the "used" side of the divide, but when it is all over, aftercare and sweetness might still occur/ might even be more necessary than when "fucked".
In the aftermath of a semi violent or 'over the top I am going to use every bit of you and you won't/ can't stop me' kind of sex, there can be great intimacy and layers of additional control exerted in the review of what just happened... as he says what he most liked/ loved about using her and he demands she tell him what it felt like to her often in explicit detail which will give him more knowledge about how to twist her up and use her even more fully next time.

 

[sexybeast03]

Wife gets really hot when we’re cuddled in bed and I straddle her chest, push my cock in her mouth and tell her to work me.

Also when I’m on top of her for 69 I’ll wedge her legs, and pussy, fully open with my elbows. She loves this and I know she’s fully surrendered to getting used when she puts her arms above her head—to be pinned by my legs—so I can throat fuck her at will as I eat her or just do what I want.

amazing!