A Question to All the Bi Guys & Gals

[Missouribiguy]

Ok, dudes and dudettes,

I know the majority of you guys are more experience than myself. Being a virgin and bisexual is really testing, cause I get alot of views about it.


Anyway, for those who had sex with men or women, do you prefer one sex over the other relationship wise or do you like both?

Just curious.

 

[KokopelliRises]

Okay, I'll bite.

Even though I like both guys and gals, I have only ever been in a relationship with a guy and at this point in my life that looks like the way it'll be for a bit. Not that I wouldn't be up for a relationship with a woman, it just isn't happening for me at this point in my life.

Or were you talking about which sex I prefer to have sex with?

 

[Missouribiguy]

Well, here's the thing

I talked to a friend of mine (who is straight), and he made the statement that I would probably change my mind about my bisexuality if I got involved sexually with a guy or girl. So, I was wondered, if any of you decided to stop being bisexual when you got into a relationship?

To be honest, I don't think I will suddenly become gay or straight if I get involved with a man or a woman. If I started dating either, I will still have desires for the opposite/same sex.

So, do you think my friend is full of bs or does he have a point?

 

[emap]

Your friend is full of it, I have been with one woman, am currently in a relationship with a wonderful hung man and I want women still.

See what your friend does not know or beleives the church saying, what you want in bed with you is not something that lessens, it does increase like say in my case, but having sex with a man or having sex with a woman does not lessen your attraction to the other.

When i said it increases I was not originally all that interested in women, well I didn't think I was, I looked of course and compared, but it took a friend seducing me to figure out I liked women in that way.

 

[PredatorSmile]

I started out being exclusively attracted to girls, and I dated them. I told my father and brothers. They were cool with it. In college, I met a man, who turned out to be a bisexual jock. Fell in love with him. Now, we’re married and I’m having his baby in a few months. Life is funny. Sexual orientation is funny too. You tell everybody you’re gay and believe it yourself…then you’re suddenly falling for a person of the opposite sex…and everything changes.

 

[Missouribiguy]

Well, my friend probably thinks this is just a phrase. I doubt it is though. One of my biggest fantasies is having a open-minded girlfriend watch me suck a guy's dick (and maybe get fucked).

I guess you could say he is full of it. I don't know, but I do feel like he's wrong.

 

[KokopelliRises]

He is completely full of it. I can't speak to being in a "relationship" since I discovered (I can't think of a better term) my bisexuality, but I don't think a relationship would make a difference at all. Heck there are people out there that are married happily and bi.

 

[Missouribiguy]

I know.

Also, he said that cause I was raised by the Internet (i'm 27, and got a computer in the late 1990's), that my bisexuality comes simply from the Internet. I did point out that I had these feelings before hand, and the Internet helped me realize them better. It still taking me a while to realize these feelings, though I am accepting them.

And yes, I also know about married bi couples. I don't know what his problem is.

 

[mysecretplace]

from a bi girl

I have been in a relationships with both but prefer a man. Not that I would ever throw a woman out of my bed and maybe it was the woman I was with but outside of the sex we just didn't gel well. I've always related better to men than women anyway.

I think it is the person you fall in love with not the body parts. Explore your sexuality and embrace it...tell your friend to mind his own business.

 

[sunandshadow]

Tell your friend, bisexuality is like enjoying both vanilla and chocolate. It's absurd to think that eating a particularly good chocolate cake would make you stop liking vanilla, lol.

 

[KokopelliRises]

Tell your friend, bisexuality is like enjoying both vanilla and chocolate. It's absurd to think that eating a particularly good chocolate cake would make you stop liking vanilla, lol.

I don't know if that's the perfect example, because I've never liked chocolate cake, but it is a pretty apt analogy.

 

[W_MA_DWM]

I'm an older bi man that has been married and divorced twice and had many girlfriends and one very long-term sexual relationship with a guy, I can speak from my experience.

My sexual desires switch back and forth from time to time as for what I'm craving. Sometimes I really want some cock and other times it's pussy and sometimes it's both.

As for a loving relationship, I have never been able to have true feeling for another man, but have been totally in love with some of my women.

As far as I'm concerned, being bi is truly the best way to be and probably a lot more "normal" than society would like us to think.

It's not going to go away, young man, so just enjoy all that you can and don't worry about it.

Good luck with all of your loves and sex partners.


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[neonflux]

I would place myself at 3 on the Kinsey scale, being equally attracted to and able to fall in love with women and men (I'm a woman). Of my two relationships as an adult, one was with a male (7 years), one with a female (14 years, sort of). I was monogamous in both, but never "stopped" being bisexual in either.

However, when with a man, I desperately missed my lesbian/gay (now I would call it queer) community, as that was where I was grounded socially and culturally.

Am now in love with a (straight) man again, we have an open relationship - I do plan to eventually have a serious relationship with a woman (one he would probably not be involved with except on a friendship level). In the meantime, I am currently looking for women play partners and most of my friends are still LGBTQ - thank the Goddess that the community is more accepting of bisexuality now than it was 15 or 16 years ago!

Neon

P.S., The old Kinsey scale placed people somewhere on a scale of 0 - 6 in terms of sexual attraction with folks who were 0 being exclusively hetero and folks who were 6 being exclusively homo in their desires. Most people were felt to fall somewhere in between with a small number falling at 3, equally attracted to women and men. The scale isn't used much anymore as sexual desire is so fluid and may change over time - also, it involves affectional orientation & culture as much as physical orientation, as a number of folks here have already expressed.

 

[neonflux]

P.P.S., Missouribiguy not poking fun at all, but I loved the suggestion that it's the Internet that's responsible for your sexuality. "The Internet made me bisexual!" ROFL, I may add that to my sig. He he he!

 

[Missouribiguy]

P.P.S., Missouribiguy not poking fun at all, but I loved the suggestion that it's the Internet that's responsible for your sexuality. "The Internet made me bisexual!" ROFL, I may add that to my sig. He he he!

My friend has this thing where he tells me that the Internet isn't a real place. What he means is that I shouldn't take it seriously, like I sometimes do. I think the reason he said that was because he thought that since I am exposed to the weirdness of the Internet, that it made me believe I was bisexual.

Of course, I proved him wrong by telling him that I had these feelings before I ever had a computer.