Why did i become bi?

[Ike_The_Spike]

I'm not sure sexuality really "changes." I think it realization of our sexuality can change over time though. I look back over my life and I can see that I've always been attracted to people with penises and vaginas. I didn't truly understand what that meant in pre-puberty years and even when I was older I didn't have the true understanding of it. I just knew I was different.

I did suppress it for some time because it wasn't "normal." It was always there though and now that I'm being honest with myself I can see it. Honestly, if we look beyond the labels we could see that sexual play is fun, the parts involved only change the way the fun is had.

I have found that my preferences in the moment are tied to my gender experience in the moment, at least to a degree. I'm still exploring that. In the meantime, I may call myself Bi or Omnisexual for others but I've really just been to think of myself as queer.

 

[liqueur]

I'm not sure sexuality really "changes." I think it realization of our sexuality can change over time though....
I have found that my preferences in the moment are tied to my gender experience in the moment.... I may call myself Bi or Omnisexual for others but I've really just been to think of myself as queer.

Yes, all the same for me. Except that I came to the queer realization more than 20 years ago. But there again, I'm sure I'm at least 20 years older than you.

 

[Ike_The_Spike]

Yes, all the same for me. Except that I came to the queer realization more than 20 years ago. But there again, I'm sure I'm at least 20 years older than you.

So you're nearly 80?

 

[DickandDoof]

Mutual blowjobs is the best most intimate connection that friends can ever achieve

It doesn’t get much better than that. The ultimate in male sex. I love it so much.

 

[tristantrotsky]

It doesn’t get much better than that. The ultimate in male sex. I love it so much.

It can be tender, it can be passionate, it can be the mutual joy of a rough face-fucking, or the sweet interactions of a loving sixty-nine, either way a cock in a sucking mouth is a stairway to sensual paradise

 

[Greytruck]

It can be tender, it can be passionate, it can be the mutual joy of a rough face-fucking, or the sweet interactions of a loving sixty-nine, either way a cock in a sucking mouth is a stairway to sensual paradise

Well put

 

[liqueur]

So you're nearly 80?

Hah. Not quite—I was guessing on your age. I'm 74

 

[CliimaxForYou]

You pose a great question. I've spent years trying to figure it out, and I still don't have an answer other than to say I really like cock.

I'm especially puzzled, because I always thought the mere act of touching another man distasteful, if not disgusting. Not that I disliked gays in any way. I've always been a live-and-let-live kind of guy.

One day, however, I started wondering what man sex was like, why some men would be attracted to cock. It was a slow thing, nothing like that proverbial lightning strike. A long, drawn out evolution instead.

Was it because I wasn't happy at home? Perhaps, but that never made sense to me. If it was a matter of wanting more sex, I could have tried an affair with another woman instead of a man.

Was it because I started watching gay porn? I couldn't even watch William Hurt in Kiss Of The Spider Woman. Yuck, I had to close my eyes.

Was it something I read? If I couldn't tolerate a mainstream Hollywood movie, why would I find the written word any more appealing?

All I can figure is that something in me changed, something physical or psychological. Either way, I'm not smart enough to figure it out, so I just accept that I have an appetite for both men and women.

Yes. Very similar here. I believe in live and let live too, but we all have things that turn us on or off. I can not watch two guys kiss without getting grossed out, but I have no issues sucking a guy off and letting him cum in my mouth. Go figure. I want romance (along with sex) with women. I’m attracted to them. Im
Not at all attracted to men. But I do enjoy servicing a nice cock and being responsible for their orgasm. I like the taboo nature of it, and the idea that I can actually turn a guy on and make him
Cum…just like when I with a woman and make her climax. I guess. Shrugs.

when we were much younger, my wife and I at the time were discussing inviting another person to join us in the bedroom. Shared lots of fantasies about males and females joining us. She gradually talked a lot about watching me in bariousm2m scenarios…would I let her watch a guy oerform
Oral On me…would I perform oral and let her watch, etc. the idea was a huge turn on for her. I really had no inclination to do that at the time, but the more she encouraged it, the more open I became to the idea of doing it for her. We ended up splitting up before we explored that fantasy, but the idea had been planted and began invading sll
My Fantasies while I pleasured myself after the split. So…newly single and looking for sex, I decided it was the right time to try it. I was fortunate that my first experience was with someone who was in very good shape and a decent person. Shared oral and he topped me. I was shocked how enjoyable it was, and how verbal I got when he took me
From behind. I knew immediately I was hooked and it wouldn’t be my last time enjoying m2m play or letting someone take My Ass or use my mouth for their pleasure.

 

[Burstplayer]

I was about 55 when I developed a sexual,attraction to men. Before that I was totally straight. I have no idea why I changed. I noticed when showering after a workout I started getting excited by the cocks I was seeing. With in about 2 years I was sucking cock.

I have no idea why this happened. I was married, and it was not a sexless marriage. I did not become gay, but I needed cock as much as I needed straight sex. It was not a hormone problem.

I know this has happened to other men. Do you have an explanation? I am content being bi, and have no desire to be straight or gay. Im am curious as to why I changed.

Almost identical to myself. Same age, same result. I have no idea why. No attraction to men, but I have a BI-cycle that runs hot/cold for sucking cocks and desire to get fucked.

 

[Azguy7591]

I was about 55 when I developed a sexual,attraction to men. Before that I was totally straight. I have no idea why I changed. I noticed when showering after a workout I started getting excited by the cocks I was seeing. With in about 2 years I was sucking cock.

I have no idea why this happened. I was married, and it was not a sexless marriage. I did not become gay, but I needed cock as much as I needed straight sex. It was not a hormone problem.

I know this has happened to other men. Do you have an explanation? I am content being bi, and have no desire to be straight or gay. Im am curious as to why I changed.

Hi there,
Similar here. Went on a cam site to masturbate with women and started being aroused when the guys would chat with me.
Love sex with my wife but really like being nude with guys (at the gym) and a nice cock in my mouth. Particularly older gents.

 

[Nfidl]

I don’t really know what to think if my sexuality. All I know is I get as excited and aroused when I see a nice Cock as I do see a beautifully curved sexy woman. My tendencies have shifted some towards the love of Penis. I seem to be more and more turned on by the thoughts of mutual blowjobs and frotting. I love to be in a setting where men are nude!

I find that the sight of a cock either soft or erect is very exciting. Just the sight of a cock starting to get erect gets me wanting to help it get harder by stroking it and feeling the firmness. After it gets fully erect there is a perfect picture

 

[dodgeboy2]

I have no science to prove my theories, but I don't believe that anyone “becomes” bi. I believe we are all born bi.

Cultural conditioning in our formative years, hormone levels, pure chance and opportunity, and who knows what-all else all have their parts in determining whether or not and how much this aspect of our sexuality gets expressed in our teenage years. Somewhere in there, over and above simple testosterone, the biological imperative to reproduce takes charge as well, and becomes a very powerful factor.

For those of us who don't become open to the MM side of our sexualities before our middle years, various things happen at that point. Hormone levels begin to subside. They may drop only slightly; not enough to be of any concern as far as the medical world is concerned. Bear in mind that scientists have only the shallowest surface understanding of how hormones affect our personalities. Half a percentage point away from “normal” might have a profound effect on one person and be negligible with the next. Meanwhile, the imperative to reproduce has either already been satisfied, or begins to feel less imperative.

But perhaps more than anything else, our maturity level increases to the point where we feel less constricted by cultural conditioning, and freer to think for ourselves about what would be good and what would be fun. And through all these changing factors, gradually for some and suddenly for others, the bi side of our sexuality is allowed to emerge and be expressed.


Myself? I had urges towards queer sex before I even hit puberty. Those urges came as early as my first understanding of what sex is, and that came very early for me, growing up on a farm. But my cultural conditioning was so strong that I was tormented with those impulses to the verge of suicide, and unable to act on them until I was well into my 40s. Healing (very slowly) began at virtually the moment I made the conscious decision that I was going to explore this part of my sexuality and my personality.

I have said for years I think we all have male, female, bi and gay inside us, for myself I had thoughts I was gay in my early years and was in fact only with guys until I was in my early 20's then I started dating girls and was with both for a few years. Met my wife and we have been married now for over 40 years, her not knowing my gay/bi side in all these years but I will say those desires have never disappeared but also have never again been let out. I would say if we had not met and married I may have gone in a different direction but not sure we will ever know what it would have been!

But back to the post I do think if you think you are bi in later years you didn't turn bi you had it inside you and you've just grown and allowed it to release.

 

[Nfidl]

I have said for years I think we all have male, female, bi and gay inside us, for myself I had thoughts I was gay in my early years and was in fact only with guys until I was in my early 20's then I started dating girls and was with both for a few years. Met my wife and we have been married now for over 40 years, her not knowing my gay/bi side in all these years but I will say those desires have never disappeared but also have never again been let out. I would say if we had not met and married I may have gone in a different direction but not sure we will ever know what it would have been!

But back to the post I do think if you think you are bi in later years you didn't turn bi you had it inside you and you've just grown and allowed it to release.

I agree with you on that the ability to feel free with males and females opened up a new world of opportunity and exploration

 

[NewbieHere]

I was about 55 when I developed a sexual,attraction to men. Before that I was totally straight. I have no idea why I changed. I noticed when showering after a workout I started getting excited by the cocks I was seeing. With in about 2 years I was sucking cock.

I have no idea why this happened. I was married, and it was not a sexless marriage. I did not become gay, but I needed cock as much as I needed straight sex. It was not a hormone problem.

I know this has happened to other men. Do you have an explanation? I am content being bi, and have no desire to be straight or gay. Im am curious as to why I changed.

I’ve always been curious. I’ve enjoyed showering at the gym with other guys and seeing them naked. I love watching MFM porn. I love going to Korean spas and showing off what I have and seeing them watch me stroke my semi into rock hard.

All this stuff was taboo but now it isn’t. We’re free to express what we want and forums like this helps us figure out what it is that we really like. And there is support for our curiosity.

 

[Iwanttofly2day]

I was about 55 when I developed a sexual,attraction to men. Before that I was totally straight. I have no idea why I changed. I noticed when showering after a workout I started getting excited by the cocks I was seeing. With in about 2 years I was sucking cock.

I have no idea why this happened. I was married, and it was not a sexless marriage. I did not become gay, but I needed cock as much as I needed straight sex. It was not a hormone problem.

I know this has happened to other men. Do you have an explanation? I am content being bi, and have no desire to be straight or gay. Im am curious as to why I changed.

I 7 was born ⅘in bi and from a very young age I knew I was going to want to be fucked

 

[Azguy7591]

I think there’s some truth to all of the replies. When I started chatting online, I realized how much I enjoyed getting responses from guys. It was because they just wanted to chat about sucking cock. Guys really like sucking cock, where women do it more as an obligation. You normally don’t see women really wanting to swallow, but a lot of men love it. To me that says a lot.

 

[liqueur]

women do it more as an obligation.

That's a mighty big generalization. I've known women who were insatiable.

(Of course a lot of women, if not most, need to be attracted to person the cock is attached to. Where a lot of men will suck anything that moves...)

 

[Nfidl]

I think there’s some truth to all of the replies. When I started chatting online, I realized how much I enjoyed getting responses from guys. It was because they just wanted to chat about sucking cock. Guys really like sucking cock, where women do it more as an obligation. You normally don’t see women really wanting to swallow, but a lot of men love it. To me that says a lot.

I agree with you completely

 

[Azguy7591]

That's a mighty big generalization. I've known women who were insatiable.

(Of course a lot of women, if not most, need to be attracted to person the cock is attached to. Where a lot of men will suck anything that moves)

That's a mighty big generalization. I've known women who were insatiable.

(Of course a lot of women, if not most, need to be attracted to person the cock is attached to. Where a lot of men will suck anything that moves...)

Yes, agreed. Probably over generalization. I’ve just never experienced women that seem to crave cock like men do.

 

[MikeBauer]

I got carried away as I found out that men were more than interested in watching pics from me wearing skimpy G-Strings. Eventually I went to male masseurs, and it is quite something to be cared for by a guy. I have never thought that such a wish would ever come, but I would mind if one day I get fucked by a guy

 

[Nfidl]

I got carried away as I found out that men were more than interested in watching pics from me wearing skimpy G-Strings. Eventually I went to male masseurs, and it is quite something to be cared for by a guy. I have never thought that such a wish would ever come, but I would mind if one day I get fucked by a guy

I have had the male masseur treatment several times and once had a trans sexual masseur in Knoxville, tn. That was an amazing experience that ended with both of us extremely satisfied

 

[saintcero]

I got carried away as I found out that men were more than interested in watching pics from me wearing skimpy G-Strings. Eventually I went to male masseurs, and it is quite something to be cared for by a guy. I have never thought that such a wish would ever come, but I would mind if one day I get fucked by a guy

Male masseurs helped me get used to contact from a gentleman. I enjoyed their attention without exception

 

[SCRob95060]

well, I had a very kinky girlfriend with a lot more sexual experience than me. After a few threesomes with her girlfriends she suggested at threesome with another guy. I was terrified of the idea, but I gave into sharing her after some coaxing. I really didn’t want to lose her.

I was still hoping to just share her when she, holding his cock in her hand with a devilish smile on her face, she asked if I wanted to try. I did want to but I felt like I had to at least a little to make her happy.

Long story short I kept at is and made him cum, in my mouth and all over my face. Haven’t looked back since.

 

[Nfidl]

I was in a swinger group and met a lovely couple. For a long time I shared the lady with him and enjoyed watching as he performed oral on her and had sex. After a few encounters I found that I enjoyed looking at his cock and helped to guide his cock into her. The feeling of my hand on his cock was new to me but exciting at the same time. As time progressed I started stroking his cock as she sucked on mine. Eventually I ventured into licking and sucking him and never looked back.

 

[jbird4]

My sexuality never changed. What changed for me was my personal judgement of myself. I love sex. There is something very amazing and visual about a cock getting hard. Guys are very willing to please and accept pleasure.

Romance and affection, for me, are reserved for my wife. But pleasure comes from many places. My wife would never give me a half hour long relaxing massage. She also wouldn’t devote a half hour (or even fifteen minutes) to giving me head. I’ve leaned to understand how amazing it is to receive and giving can be just as amazing.