Fucked versus Used

[Islander55]

In real life, I have a tendency to want to be in control or at least a full partner but when it comes to sex, I seem to have better orgasms when I give up control. I don't really consider myself submissive but I like to just let go. Letting him take charge and use me. This is something that I have come to realize late in life and not something I get to experience often. Still it is something I crave and am looking to find more partners that are into it.

 

[Sienna62]

I don't think this would qualify as being used. It certainly could be fun but there are times, I want it to be more forceful. I want the guy to do what he wants. If you like to cum in my mouth, fuck my mouth and make me suck you to completion and even stay in my mouth until I have to swallow your sperm. If you need to fuck me, just do it. Bend me over, spread my legs and do me.

Lovely to read

 

[P0peye]

Yes, I'm embarrassed to say, when I'm 'used', especially by a group of guys, it really gets me going. Don't know why. Like, when I guy uses my mouth as a vagina, as opposed to me giving a blow job, the idea that I'm being used and therefore completely with no control I find exciting. When I give a blowjob and I'm in control, then it's less exciting for me. Not sure if that makes any sense...

It makes perfect sense! And I understand perfectly!! I'm an eager and insatiable cocksucker, and my most memorable experiences have been as you describe! On multiple occasions I have allowed myself to be aggressively and impersonally throat fucked by as many as six men, one after another, none of whom exhibited the slightest concern or interest in my comfort or well being. My throat was looked upon as nothing more than a warm and wet, snug fitting Fleshlight to be used by them to masturbate themselves with. At times, I was utterly unable to breathe because my airway was being blocked by someone's thick cock having been forced all the way down my throat. Fortunately, they ejaculated deep inside my throat before I passed out! I have involuntarily experienced intense dry orgasms myself while having this done to me even though my own penis remained completely flaccid. Very exciting!!

 

[kathyisgr65]

I enjoy sex of most flavors and definitely want to be loved, cherished, and pampered. That said, what really blows me away is when I'm being used.

Used versus fucked: My definition is, the man (or men - yeah I love that also!!!) is using my body for his/their pleasure and amusement with no thought of my own enjoyment or even compliance. To him/them I am just an object, a thing to satisfy need to copulate. That to me is used.

Anyone else prefer used to fucked?

That's exactly how I describe sex .its about pleasing my partner and them using me for pleasure that's where I derive my pleasure from.....ppl look at me like I'm crazy and maybe I am but it is what it is

 

[Sienna62]

That's exactly how I describe sex .its about pleasing my partner and them using me for pleasure that's where I derive my pleasure from.....ppl look at me like I'm crazy and maybe I am but it is what it is

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[kathyisgr65]

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U understand that huh @Sienna62

 

[Sienna62]

U understand that huh @Sienna62

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[Richelieujuniour]

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I’m a man an I feel very much the same— We all want to please our partners, be GGG, and are at the same time pleasure givers and sex objects.

I consider myself well-educated, cultivated and charming, but when I am mountain woman, I don’t expect her to be contimpkating my work, diplomas, and would tend to forgive her if she was more intent on riding me to her climax than in appreciating my nuance in rhatoric and conversation.

At some level we are all primal— male, female— and every desire in between.

 

[chapter6plan]

My wife won't use me and doesn't want to be used ... I think I'd like to be used. Tell me ... what am I missing out on? PMs are welcome.

 

[roxanne1971]

Both have their time and place but I love to be used!!

 

[Nekidinaz]

I enjoy sex of most flavors and definitely want to be loved, cherished, and pampered. That said, what really blows me away is when I'm being used.

Used versus fucked: My definition is, the man (or men - yeah I love that also!!!) is using my body for his/their pleasure and amusement with no thought of my own enjoyment or even compliance. To him/them I am just an object, a thing to satisfy need to copulate. That to me is used.

Anyone else prefer used to fucked?

Excellent definition of used...never thought of it like that but as a guy who enjoys being "topped", I guess what maybe I'm really enjoying is being used while I'm being fucked ...thoughts?

 

[Nekidinaz]

So true!

Great topic! I am sure both have their place in a relationship.

I would like to share how as a man, I was used by a woman. I was in my early 30s and I met a woman at a bar that was barely 22. We went back to my place and had sex. She had on a garter belt, stockings, and no panties. We fucked for about 3 hours. The entire time she was in charge. She took off my clothes and then gave me a BJ. She grabbed my ass a bit too hard like a young boy touching a new pair of tits. She kept taking over the pace of our fucking, moving positions, eventually, I let her take over.

She had several great orgasms but I felt like it was from nothing that I did. I came a few times--strong orgasms--but it was when she directed it. Similar to being on the dance floor and she took the lead in a slow dance. We sat on the bed for about 30 minutes after the sex. She was smoking a cigarette. I tried to talk to her but she was disinterested and we had little in common. She asked me to take her home and I never saw her again.

I sat on the empty bed for a long time after getting back from dropping her off. I had a great time but emotionally I was confused. It was simple. I had been used. I should have been mad I thought but when I accepted what happened it became a turn-on. I began to explore my submissive side. The beginning of a journey into Femdom and BDSM.

It is really HOT to be lusted after and have your partner relieve themself with your body. In a relationship, I think it is great because you get to see a side of your partner you don't regularly see. I understand there has to be trust and communication. But if there is, I think it is great to be on both ends of it, the receiver or the giver!

ES

Very nicely put

 

[peter49parker]

That's exactly how I describe sex .its about pleasing my partner and them using me for pleasure that's where I derive my pleasure from.....ppl look at me like I'm crazy and maybe I am but it is what it is

I understand completely. And 'we' are not crazy.

 

[kathyisgr65]

I understand completely. And 'we' are not crazy.

Thanks.... I have a hard time with ppl taking advantage of my good nature... is this a common issue or is my picker just jacked up

 

[peter49parker]

People do tend to take advantage of others, especially if we like to please. Even though I derive my pleasure from pleasing others, I am not totally a pushover. They should never mistake kindness, for weakness.
Not sure what your 'picker' refers too.

 

[Deleted member 5428187]

using my body for his/their pleasure and amusement with no thought of my own enjoyment or even compliance

While this is an extremely erotic thought/fantasy/practice, it’s difficult for some of us to get past the feeling that it seems selfish to have zero regard for the other’s enjoyment. Part of our adjustment in perspective comes from the realization that there are those who actually crave being used.

But I think it’s important to remember that such a dynamic may be fine in certain sexual situations but perhaps should not extend to the entirety of the relationship.

 

[Escierto]

While this is an extremely erotic thought/fantasy/practice, it’s difficult for some of us to get past the feeling that it seems selfish to have zero regard for the other’s enjoyment. Part of our adjustment in perspective comes from the realization that there are those who actually crave being used.

But I think it’s important to remember that such a dynamic may be fine in certain sexual situations but perhaps should not extend to the entirety of the relationship.

That's true. My girlfriend is actually very considerate when it comes to the totality of our relationship. Early on, we defined our sexual relationship clearly as one in which she uses my holes for her pleasure (and mine too lol).

 

[SPARTAN047]

I love being used and using someone, but there should be a loving component to it.

 

[AprilTwenties]

There's big differences, boo...

Being used, like I do out on the streets, brings my owner coin. That's what I fuckin' live for, boo. 12+ punters a night inside me, cumming and then leaving me back on my beat? The best, boo.

Fucking my girl....that's more romantic and loving.

There's a place for both, but I prefer being used.

A x

 

[DirtyGranpa66]

I know you wouldn’t want to use me!

I certainly would
Sexy lady....

 

[secretthing]

I could talk about being the one used, which is very hot, but I also love the idea of using a guy to get off. Letting me ride his dick, or rub against it until I come... Or maybe laying back, holding still, and letting me fuck his tongue with my clit. So hot

 

[coati]

My gf prefers a ritual that culminates with us fucking to a simultaneous climax, so I'd have to say neither of us are going for being used.

I know my role is to first get her off with my hands and face during foreplay. I don't feel used giving her an initial orgasm, because that opens her up and whets her appetite for getting fucked.

She then gets on her back spreads her legs. We fuck slowly and not very deep at first, because the tease factor gets me to maximum hardness. It further builds mutual arousal for me to keep exiting and immediately re-entering, which is very easy to do after her first orgasm. This goes on for a while.

When she senses I'm at full arousal, her knees get drawn way up toward her shoulders and she takes me in as deeply as possible. It's the vocal cues and pacing that leads to a simultaneous climax.

In the end, I'm sometimes banging her fast and deep if that's what she and I need for an explosive orgasm. Other times, orgasm happens with a slower screwing motion at full penetration.

I stay inside her for as long as possible after orgasm. She often says, "I really needed that," to which I whole-heartedly agree.

 

[eroticspank]

People do tend to take advantage of others, especially if we like to please. Even though I derive my pleasure from pleasing others, I am not totally a pushover. They should never mistake kindness, for weakness.
Not sure what your 'picker' refers too.

That is a great point, kindness does not mean weakness. I think it is about someone you have a deep connection with and giving that person the go-ahead to use you for their pleasure. It is a great gift that you give them and they enjoy taking.
ES

 

[eroticspank]

I could talk about being the one used, which is very hot, but I also love the idea of using a guy to get off. Letting me ride his dick, or rub against it until I come... Or maybe laying back, holding still, and letting me fuck his tongue with my clit. So hot

That is very HOT. Many years ago my girlfriend and I were experimenting with all kinds of sex and positions. We decided to try bondage so she tied me naked to the bed face-up. Her plan was to play and tease me for a while before giving me an orgasm with a BJ or HJ. She teased me for a bit but when she started rubbing my dick on her pussy to tease me, it got her very hot. She wanted to cum so bad that she slipped me inside and rode to her orgasm. She was not finished, she played with me for a while making me lick her to orgasm too. After several orgasms and her exhaustion, she finally gave me a handjob. She really enjoyed using me like that and it was a side of her we both discovered that day.
ES

 

[apom]

I haven't really felt pleasure from sex since I was 16, but I've always found more satisfaction in others using me to make to make themselves feel good anyways. I'm not relationship material and have never been on a date in my life, but lots of guys like the convenience of ugly, messed up chicks with no self-esteem so I get banged plenty. I'm a solitary female, and with my looks and need to please I'm easy to use without anyone having to worry about the repercussions or care what their fun is costing me. I'm disposable, inhuman, a thing, and I like how that makes me feel. I know I'm supposed to want love and respect and stuff too, but we're all different and I'm okay without any of that.