Why do older men become bi-curious?

[SmokingFap]

I think it is, but I also think it's because we have those desires already in our DNA, so we don't just become bicurious as we age. Instead, our natural homosexuality appears after we have worn down all of our other barriers.

That idea just blew my mind! I can't believe I never thought about it that way before. I've always agreed with the theory that folks are born with whatever sexual orientation they will ultimately have as they reach maturity. There may be some environmental factors as well (nature vs. nurture), but specifically about the LGBT community, I've had gay friends since forever. And they've always just said "I was born this way!" My own son came out as gay as a senior in high school. His mom and I had always anticipated he would be for reasons I won't get into here.

But it literally never occurred to me that perhaps we also have genetically programmed sexual timers. That as we age, an alarm goes off (maybe not for everyone, because everyone is different) and our orientation flips, or at least evolves. It makes perfect sense, if you believe the "I was born this way" theory.

Not that the actual CAUSE of my evolution is that important, but it is interesting to consider why it's only been over the past couple years that I've become so obsessed with sucking and fucks cocks.

And I'd love to chat with any of you who are experiencing the same evolution. So please feel free to PM me. Chatting with guys on here while we jerk ourselves off is the main reason I realized that I want to fuck and suck guys in the real world....

 

[Justcurious777]

Like many I am in a sexless marriage. I have been secretly wearing lingerie for as long as I can remember. Suppressed it during the early years of our marriage apart from occasionally wearing my wife’s slips when she was out.

Eventually ended up wearing one of her nighties while we fucked (still can’t remember how it came about) and she knows I wear lingerie to masturbate.

I think the bi curiosity came about organically. Started looking at pictures of other men in lingerie and gradually this developed into getting more turned on by a cock than a pussy (although I do still like pussies). More recently this has developed further into fantasies about sucking cocks and anal.

I think part of the attraction to this on lit is that it is easier to talk about sex with men than it is with women. Hitting on the ladies on here feels a bit creepy whereas starting a conversation with another man is much more straightforward. Add to this that men generally don’t need as much of an emotional connection and PM play is quite easy to set up.

 

[robertaverage]

I've kind of circled back to when as a youth, cock play was all that was available and, of course, happy to experiment; I got into pussy via a mate's sister and got hooked on that warm wet hole. However, as I've aged the availability of pussy I guess has waned, and cock is in play once again

 

[Perrynahum]

Hi I guess we become bored. Especially when the sex our women offer is so perfunctory no real attempt to find out what we really want.So we imagine someone who really wants to please. To make it exciting. And let's face it our emphasis moves from boobs to bums!

 

[Travler99921]

I am sure my wife's declining interested in sex was a factor, but I am sure there were other factors. I am just not sure what they were. Once I came out to my wife her interest in sex revived. We had more and better sex than we had in years. However my interest in gay sex did not disappear. She was OK with that.

 

[Britva415]

perhaps we also have genetically programmed sexual timers

I really don't think it's this. I think older people just stop putting up with repression and start recognizing what makes them happy.

 

[Biguy77578]

I am sure my wife's declining interested in sex was a factor, but I am sure there were other factors. I am just not sure what they were. Once I came out to my wife her interest in sex revived. We had more and better sex than we had in years. However my interest in gay sex did not disappear. She was OK with that.

It is a lot more fun with the wife knowing and appoving especially if she participates.

 

[Biguy77578]

I really don't think it's this. I think older people just stop putting up with repression and start recognizing what makes them happy.

You have a good point!

 

[Poetdontknowit]

I think guys have the ability to compartmentalize sex/orgasms/fooling around from emotions. Its just getting off, which is always better with someone else. Marriages get stale with lack of sex, a bud in the same boat becomes your best cum buddy. It's just cumming, no emotional entanglement. Nut, and go about your day. And, it seems to be easier to find a guy to get off with than a willing female sometimes. Convenience.

 

[Justcurious777]

I think guys have the ability to compartmentalize sex/orgasms/fooling around from emotions. Its just getting off, which is always better with someone else. Marriages get stale with lack of sex, a bud in the same boat becomes your best cum buddy. It's just cumming, no emotional entanglement. Nut, and go about your day. And, it seems to be easier to find a guy to get off with than a willing female sometimes. Convenience.

I think there is a difference between those who are attracted to other men and those who are just attracted to a cock. I am definitely in the latter category. Have no interest in kissing/cuddling, just get turned on by a nice cock.

 

[CuriousinPennsylvania]

I think guys have the ability to compartmentalize sex/orgasms/fooling around from emotions. Its just getting off, which is always better with someone else. Marriages get stale with lack of sex, a bud in the same boat becomes your best cum buddy. It's just cumming, no emotional entanglement. Nut, and go about your day. And, it seems to be easier to find a guy to get off with than a willing female sometimes. Convenience.

Absolutely.

 

[Poetdontknowit]

I think there is a difference between those who are attracted to other men and those who are just attracted to a cock. I am definitely in the latter category. Have no interest in kissing/cuddling, just get turned on by a nice cock.

Absolutely. I'm not attracted to the guy himself. I mean, I can appreciate a handsome male or good physique, but that isn't something that catches my eye. Women catch my eye. But, if the horny factor is up, and only a nice cock is there and in a similar mood... let's do this

 

[SmokingFap]

I started a thread just a few days ago about my first experience sucking cock, which just happened on Saturday. I won't repeat the story here, so if anyone's interested please visit my thread.

Thread 'So I Sucked My First Cock Yesterday...' https://forum.literotica.com/threads/so-i-sucked-my-first-cock-yesterday.1611964/

Anyway, it was quite a memorable experience, and I enjoyed both him sucking my dick (he's a 65-year-old devout gay man, so he's pretty fabulous at it) and taking his limp, but fat penis into my mouth swirling it around and feeling it grow. For me, I was most curious about sucking a guy. Him blowing me was a wonderful bonus.

But now that I've lost my cock-sucking cherry, I find that I'm still very interested in it going forward. But now, I won't feel that irrational pressure to do it. I did it. So now I can be more relaxed and selective going forward. I'm not going to turn into a cock whore, I just think it would be something fun to do with guys that I know and like. No rando pickups, thank you.

 

[Biguy77578]

I think guys have the ability to compartmentalize sex/orgasms/fooling around from emotions. Its just getting off, which is always better with someone else. Marriages get stale with lack of sex, a bud in the same boat becomes your best cum buddy. It's just cumming, no emotional entanglement. Nut, and go about your day. And, it seems to be easier to find a guy to get off with than a willing female sometimes. Convenience.

You hit the nail on the head. Cumming without emotional ties, nut and go though many times I just want their nut and as many as I can get to get my fill.

 

[CuriousinPennsylvania]

Absolutely. I'm not attracted to the guy himself. I mean, I can appreciate a handsome male or good physique, but that isn't something that catches my eye. Women catch my eye. But, if the horny factor is up, and only a nice cock is there and in a similar mood... let's do this

Yes - women catch my eye, not men. While I'd have absolutely NO romantic interest in him, If I'm going to suck a guy, which I certainly do want to do, I would want him to be attractive; i.e., handsome, or normal looking, and with a decent physique. I may be effected by the gay/bi porn that I watch, but, yeah, that's what I want.

 

[rag196]

I am a 64 y/o mwm and, over the last few years, I have become more and more bi-curious. In email exchanges with other men around my age, I have found that well over half of them are experiencing the same thinh. Is this a common phenomenon?

I am close to 70 and I am experiencing the same thing. For some reason I want to try sucking a dick.

 

[rag196]

Very interesting thread. I had my first bi experience about 10 years ago at a clothing optional lake. I never in my wildest dreams was expecting it to happen. My wife was out of town, so I drove out to the lake with some beers and was just enjoying being put in nature on a beautiful day!
A guy was sitting down from me probably 20 feet away and I could see he was very well endowed. I really like to look at ig cocks and I had my sunglasses on and tried to be discreet.
He got on his float and proceeded to swim out to the boat buoys and I was hot so I jumped into the lake and floated closed to shore. I had a few beers and was feeling no pain and I could hear him paddling closer and closer to me. The next thing I know is he positioned himself right behind me. I pretended like I didn't realize he was behind me and was paddling my hands through the water to keep me upright on my float. I reached back through the water and brushed my hand against his hard cock. I turned and acted surprised . Be fre I new it I was stroking him under the water and ended up sucking his cock!!!
Again, I didn't set out to do this

Yep, would agree!

I agree as well,

 

[rag196]

My wife is still very interested in sex, but, alas, the medications she takes ruin her ability to orgasm. So no sex for us. I love her, and don't want to have an affair with a woman. Two dudes helping each other out works fine for me. I know it's rationalizing, but, since there's no emotional attachment, I'm okay with the occasional man on man action.

Thats where I'm at, wife and I haven't had sex in 3 years, I still like to look @ hot women, but still need sex.

 

[klippert]

Why do they; NSA Sex.

 

[betabrad]

For me at least, I think my porn habit had something to do with it. But I also think it must have been something I was just inclined to all along. The porn just helped bring those feelings to the surface. It just takes a little while.

I think that looking at so much porn and jacking off to those images - yes, the hot sexy women, but also all those big hard cocks. Sure I was cumming to those women , but I was also cumming to those cocks. Somehow , I started looking more and more at those big cocks. Somehow , I was thinking less about fucking those sexy women or the sexy woman sucking my cock but I started thinking about being in the woman’s place . I started feeling jealous of her. It looked to me that she was getting so much pleasure from sucking cock and being fucked and I wanted to feel what she was feeling. I wanted to be the one on my knees sucking that big hard juicy cock. I started craving what it would feel like to be face down ass up and being fucked.

 

[Oldsucker]

I was curious for a long long time. I had dreams often, of sucking cock, sometimes my own, sometimes in a gloryhole type scenario, in a toilet. It was rude, and glorious. Eventually I realised I was running out of time. A dilemma, but I wanted to throw off the shackles of a conventional life to give it a try.
So at age 66.I did.I liked it. I knew I would.

 

[Sgts19]

I am close to 70 and I am experiencing the same thing. For some reason I want to try sucking a dick.

Done about everything else why not give it a try

 

[1960curious]

I am close to 70 and I am experiencing the same thing. For some reason I want to try sucking a dick.

It is great! The worst thing is you will get hooked and want cock all the time, and if you are married and your wife don't know. It drives you crazy cuz I want more then I can get with out the wife knowing!

 

[betabrad]

I think there is a difference between those who are attracted to other men and those who are just attracted to a cock. I am definitely in the latter category. Have no interest in kissing/cuddling, just get turned on by a nice cock.

Yeh, me too. I’m not attracted to men but I confess that there is just something about when I see a big hard cock - it just makes me feel weak and submissive. All I can think about is how much I want to drop to my knees and suck it or how much I want to drop to my hands and knees , face down ass up and have it fuck me. I don’t know why it does this to me. I just can’t help myself.

 

[1960curious]

Yeh, me too. I’m not attracted to men but I confess that there is just something about when I see a big hard cock - it just makes me feel weak and submissive. All I can think about is how much I want to drop to my knees and suck it or how much I want to drop to my hands and knees , face down ass up and have it fuck me. I just can’t help myself.

I am with you! Big hard cock just needs to be sucked and fucked!