Why do older men become bi-curious?

[Nekidinaz]

Perfectly said!

Thank you

 

[opnudists]

I am a 64 y/o mwm and, over the last few years, I have become more and more bi-curious. In email exchanges with other men around my age, I have found that well over half of them are experiencing the same thinh. Is this a common phenomenon?

I had no bi desires in my youth. Now I crave it. Friends and family would be shocked.

 

[friendlytongue38671]

I’m 56, the older I get the more I want to experience.

 

[Cardinal]

Great question, my feelings about it has definitely changed as I’ve gotten older

 

[TrailerHitch]

In my case my desire overcame my hesitancy. Having a supportive wife helps too.

 

[Nevertoolate2500]

I would have to say that I never even had bisexual urges until I started chatting with other guys here on Lit. At first, it was just fun to chat with another guy while we were both jerking off, mainly because there wasn't a woman available to talk to. But I've become more and more fascinated with cocks, watching a lot of porn of guys just jerking off, even with other guys. I'm not aroused by pure gay porn, but if it's a bisexual MMF, it's a huge turn on for me. Can't even imagine kissing another guy, but I'm quite sure I would enjoy doing everything with his cock, and letting him use mine, even without a woman present and encouraging me, although that would certainly help. Just haven't had the right opportunity yet.

I can’t explain why but I find myself feeling the same way. It really interesting because when I walk down the street I never look at another guy and think, boy I’d like to play with his cock or have him play with mine, but it if I see a woman I think is attractive I immediately wonder what it would be like to fuck her. Yet my favorite porn to get off to is watching guys get off and thinking I’d really like to stroke their cocks (and maybe more).

 

[Perrynahum]

Hi so true! Just can't think about anything else!

 

[n2kay17]

As Trailerhitch above wrote, "In my case my desire overcame my hesitancy." I was with a old friend, we had talked about it, I was still a bit hesitant but he desired to fuck me and so it happened. When he was balls deep in me, I still couldn't believe it was happening. I'm glad he overcame my hesitancy and resistance and just went ahead and did it. Well, twice.

 

[mtsnowrider]

As Trailerhitch above wrote, "In my case my desire overcame my hesitancy." I was with a old friend, we had talked about it, I was still a bit hesitant but he desired to fuck me and so it happened. When he was balls deep in me, I still couldn't believe it was happening. I'm glad he overcame my hesitancy and resistance and just went ahead and did it. Well, twice.

Why do I think the final words in your post should be "so far"

 

[n2kay17]

Why do I think the final words in your post should be "so far"

Ha, you're right about "so far" but it'll be with a different man.
Maybe next time it won't be such a dizzying experience and I'll remember more.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

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[ToPleaseHim]

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[Cuckwannabe111]

I would have to say that I never even had bisexual urges until I started chatting with other guys here on Lit. At first, it was just fun to chat with another guy while we were both jerking off, mainly because there wasn't a woman available to talk to. But I've become more and more fascinated with cocks, watching a lot of porn of guys just jerking off, even with other guys. I'm not aroused by pure gay porn, but if it's a bisexual MMF, it's a huge turn on for me. Can't even imagine kissing another guy, but I'm quite sure I would enjoy doing everything with his cock, and letting him use mine, even without a woman present and encouraging me, although that would certainly help. Just haven't had the right opportunity yet.

I agree completely with this!! Same for me. I would have said you were nuts had you even hinted at that years ago. Came here a few times, and from the sheer proportion of men to women willing to chat with me, I began talking to a few guys. I was already horny. One thing led to another, and now I would enjoy playing with another cock as well

 

[SmokingFap]

It does seem to be a thing. Older men becoming more interested in cock, sucking cock and being fucked.
For me I have experimented with TS, and CD. It was easier to do when I had a pretty women as a sex partner, only she had a cock too. Now I am hooked, always thinking about how to get more cock. I am opening up to the idea of just getting with another guy who is like me. FWB would be great.

You're very lucky to have found some lovely trans ladies and CDs to learn to enjoy cock with. That would be the ideal situation for me as well, especially a lovely trans woman. And I love the idea of an FWB. I've been trying to subtly get my best buddy to jerk off together, but the dumbass never gets the hint. Even while we're watching porn together and I'm rubbing my crotch! Would love to chat with you about your experiences, but you don't seem to have PM's turned on. If you'd like, you could message me directly and we can explore our curiosities together. I happen to live in the land of the free, and the home of the Chiefs...

 

[saintcero]

I agree completely with this!! Same for me. I would have said you were nuts had you even hinted at that years ago. Came here a few times, and from the sheer proportion of men to women willing to chat with me, I began talking to a few guys. I was already horny. One thing led to another, and now I would enjoy playing with another cock as well

Lit, SilverDaddies and Fetlife have exposed me to a lot of things and have actually normalized a good bit of activity that would have been off putting before. I know now that I am a submissive bottom and that I might could handle being a cuckhold too

 

[richgo50]

For me it is my wife's lack of desire for sex. She could care less if we do anything or nothing. Take it or leave it is her attitude. I get the urge for sex on a steady basis but it is usually handled by my hand. Not all that much fun. I do love to crossdress and I am open to meeting up with another crossdresser one of these days.

 

[SmokingFap]

I think it is, but I also think it's because we have those desires already in our DNA, so we don't just become bicurious as we age. Instead, our natural homosexuality appears after we have worn down all of our other barriers.

That idea just blew my mind! I can't believe I never thought about it that way before. I've always agreed with the theory that folks are born with whatever sexual orientation they will ultimately have as they reach maturity. There may be some environmental factors as well (nature vs. nurture), but specifically about the LGBT community, I've had gay friends since forever. And they've always just said "I was born this way!" My own son came out as gay as a senior in high school. His mom and I had always anticipated he would be for reasons I won't get into here.

But it literally never occurred to me that perhaps we also have genetically programmed sexual timers. That as we age, an alarm goes off (maybe not for everyone, because everyone is different) and our orientation flips, or at least evolves. It makes perfect sense, if you believe the "I was born this way" theory.

Not that the actual CAUSE of my evolution is that important, but it is interesting to consider why it's only been over the past couple years that I've become so obsessed with sucking and fucks cocks.

And I'd love to chat with any of you who are experiencing the same evolution. So please feel free to PM me. Chatting with guys on here while we jerk ourselves off is the main reason I realized that I want to fuck and suck guys in the real world....

 

[Justcurious777]

Like many I am in a sexless marriage. I have been secretly wearing lingerie for as long as I can remember. Suppressed it during the early years of our marriage apart from occasionally wearing my wife’s slips when she was out.

Eventually ended up wearing one of her nighties while we fucked (still can’t remember how it came about) and she knows I wear lingerie to masturbate.

I think the bi curiosity came about organically. Started looking at pictures of other men in lingerie and gradually this developed into getting more turned on by a cock than a pussy (although I do still like pussies). More recently this has developed further into fantasies about sucking cocks and anal.

I think part of the attraction to this on lit is that it is easier to talk about sex with men than it is with women. Hitting on the ladies on here feels a bit creepy whereas starting a conversation with another man is much more straightforward. Add to this that men generally don’t need as much of an emotional connection and PM play is quite easy to set up.

 

[robertaverage]

I've kind of circled back to when as a youth, cock play was all that was available and, of course, happy to experiment; I got into pussy via a mate's sister and got hooked on that warm wet hole. However, as I've aged the availability of pussy I guess has waned, and cock is in play once again

 

[Perrynahum]

Hi I guess we become bored. Especially when the sex our women offer is so perfunctory no real attempt to find out what we really want.So we imagine someone who really wants to please. To make it exciting. And let's face it our emphasis moves from boobs to bums!

 

[Travler99921]

I am sure my wife's declining interested in sex was a factor, but I am sure there were other factors. I am just not sure what they were. Once I came out to my wife her interest in sex revived. We had more and better sex than we had in years. However my interest in gay sex did not disappear. She was OK with that.

 

[Britva415]

perhaps we also have genetically programmed sexual timers

I really don't think it's this. I think older people just stop putting up with repression and start recognizing what makes them happy.

 

[Biguy77578]

I am sure my wife's declining interested in sex was a factor, but I am sure there were other factors. I am just not sure what they were. Once I came out to my wife her interest in sex revived. We had more and better sex than we had in years. However my interest in gay sex did not disappear. She was OK with that.

It is a lot more fun with the wife knowing and appoving especially if she participates.

 

[Biguy77578]

I really don't think it's this. I think older people just stop putting up with repression and start recognizing what makes them happy.

You have a good point!

 

[Poetdontknowit]

I think guys have the ability to compartmentalize sex/orgasms/fooling around from emotions. Its just getting off, which is always better with someone else. Marriages get stale with lack of sex, a bud in the same boat becomes your best cum buddy. It's just cumming, no emotional entanglement. Nut, and go about your day. And, it seems to be easier to find a guy to get off with than a willing female sometimes. Convenience.