Why do older men become bi-curious?

I feel that it is a natural progression. I have grown in my sexuality and understanding. Male sexuality is something I have grown to appreciate and be attracted to as I have gained insight into mine. Getting older has softened me. I know I produce less testosterone which just may be the asshole hormone, I'm much less of an asshole. I feel more open to my fem side. Less defensive and less assertive.
 
I feel that it is a natural progression. I have grown in my sexuality and understanding. Male sexuality is something I have grown to appreciate and be attracted to as I have gained insight into mine. Getting older has softened me. I know I produce less testosterone which just may be the asshole hormone, I'm much less of an asshole. I feel more open to my fem side. Less defensive and less assertive.
Testosterone is totally the asshole hormone -Dr Kathy's unsolicited opinion...
So u sound happier and more at peace w all of the u..that's cool.
 
I would say for me it was it was in my 40s when it started took a few years before I acted on it and had a couple of safe sex encounters. I think it was started by the society accepting a more open minded approach to sex. Whi,e it has been several years in Ei have had any encounters I crave it more now all the time. Ideally if I found another married guy that I could trust and be absolutely sure was super clean I would happily have an ongoing sexual get together with. So many things I want to try and explore.
 
I think there are many different reasons, for me it was mainly lack of sex with wife. I had a few one off experiences with men before I got married and so when the faucet with the wife shut off, I turned the other one back on.

Another reason I think is that real NSA relationships with women are a lot more difficult to find. Single women tend to want a bit more than that, while married women may want just sex, but I personally am not comfortable with doing that to a guy I don’t know at all, and who has never done anything to me.

Finally, I think with the generation of us who are a bit older, like me, the access to porn is a contributing factor, but even more so is the fact that there is far less of a stigma than there was when we were younger. This makes it a lot easier for any guys who were curious to decide to give it a try.

Just my two cents worth.
 
I think there are many different reasons, for me it was mainly lack of sex with wife. I had a few one off experiences with men before I got married and so when the faucet with the wife shut off, I turned the other one back on.

Another reason I think is that real NSA relationships with women are a lot more difficult to find. Single women tend to want a bit more than that, while married women may want just sex, but I personally am not comfortable with doing that to a guy I don’t know at all, and who has never done anything to me.

Finally, I think with the generation of us who are a bit older, like me, the access to porn is a contributing factor, but even more so is the fact that there is far less of a stigma than there was when we were younger. This makes it a lot easier for any guys who were curious to decide to give it a try.

Just my two cents worth.
Well stated, and before you know it, you're tugging some weird guy's johnson. And it's hot.
 
I'm sure it's been mentioned before in 2k posts, but there has to be an element of been-there, done-that with straight sex and as we get older we remain curious about new experiences and start to imagine gay sex and enjoying cock.

Now if only I could reconcile my attraction to the less complicated and more direct style of male sexual desire with my equal revulsion to the way a lot of guys express it, I'd be ready. It sometimes feels like chasing unicorns, finding a guy you're attracted to but who can express his desire in a non-skeevy way. I long ago lost count of the number of chats that started out promising but quickly got down to "spread that asshole and show me" or similar. Presenting as a CD probably doesn't help as I'm fully aware I'm already aimed at an audience on the pervier end of the spectrum but even so...
 
I am a 64 y/o mwm and, over the last few years, I have become more and more bi-curious. In email exchanges with other men around my age, I have found that well over half of them are experiencing the same thinh. Is this a common phenomenon?
I think it is, but I also think it's because we have those desires already in our DNA, so we don't just become bicurious as we age. Instead, our natural homosexuality appears after we have worn down all of our other barriers.
 
Now if only I could reconcile my attraction to the less complicated and more direct style of male sexual desire with my equal revulsion to the way a lot of guys express it, I'd be ready. It sometimes feels like chasing unicorns, finding a guy you're attracted to but who can express his desire in a non-skeevy way. I long ago lost count of the number of chats that started out promising but quickly got down to "spread that asshole and show me" or similar. Presenting as a CD probably doesn't help as I'm fully aware I'm already aimed at an audience on the pervier end of the spectrum but even so...

I feel like I'm the opposite of most. My profile spends a lot of time talking about how I take things slow, likely too slow for most. My outlook on all this is, I am a lover. I'm all about the intimacy, tongues and hands exploring bodies. Kissing, nibbling, caressing....once it's on, it's fucking on. Your comfort and pleasure allows mine. I love undressing, making lovey dovey eyes, flirting.....it's all just so fun. And I just won't get with someone that doesn't share that. Why? Because I don't have to. ;)
 
I have commented before but reading through I thought I will again.
I am now 48 and had my first MMF a long time ago. I did perform oral and received the same. I felt guilty and wrong for a while after.
I then realised I am not really Bi but if it feels good and everyone is happy - why not.
All my experiences have been MMF apart from a massage from a guy that ended up in a very happy ending.

Myself and Mrs Shrek enjoy strapon sex etc. in the right situation and if the mood took I would do more than Oral.
Bi Curious? Not sure I am.
As I get older I am more open and kinky and if it feels good. Do it
 
I have commented before but reading through I thought I will again.
I am now 48 and had my first MMF a long time ago. I did perform oral and received the same. I felt guilty and wrong for a while after.
I then realised I am not really Bi but if it feels good and everyone is happy - why not.
All my experiences have been MMF apart from a massage from a guy that ended up in a very happy ending.

Myself and Mrs Shrek enjoy strapon sex etc. in the right situation and if the mood took I would do more than Oral.
Bi Curious? Not sure I am.
As I get older I am more open and kinky and if it feels good. Do it

Your experiences don't mean you have to have a label. Enjoy life, have fun. Sounds like that's what you're doing. :)
 
I would have to say that I never even had bisexual urges until I started chatting with other guys here on Lit. At first, it was just fun to chat with another guy while we were both jerking off, mainly because there wasn't a woman available to talk to. But I've become more and more fascinated with cocks, watching a lot of porn of guys just jerking off, even with other guys. I'm not aroused by pure gay porn, but if it's a bisexual MMF, it's a huge turn on for me. Can't even imagine kissing another guy, but I'm quite sure I would enjoy doing everything with his cock, and letting him use mine, even without a woman present and encouraging me, although that would certainly help. Just haven't had the right opportunity yet.
 
I’ve always been fascinated with cocks, especially squirting cocks! Never had the nerve to make a move for one! At 63 years I don’t get much attention from the gals lol
Still love looking and thinking about pussy! Now more than ever, but the idea of being with another man and holding his cock in my hands or mouth is more exciting and maybe more possible than strange pussy? I don’t think I’m into kissing or ass play? I just know I want cock!
 
Not really sure, but I'm definitely finding myself more bi/cock curious as I get older.
My wife and I have a fantastic and kinky sex life, so maybe it's just the desire to continue to explore and expand. We're both very open minded and secure, so that helps. But yes, this bi curiosity has been hot!
 
It does seem to be a thing. Older men becoming more interested in cock, sucking cock and being fucked.
For me I have experimented with TS, and CD. It was easier to do when I had a pretty women as a sex partner, only she had a cock too. Now I am hooked, always thinking about how to get more cock. I am opening up to the idea of just getting with another guy who is like me. FWB would be great.
 
Your experiences don't mean you have to have a label. Enjoy life, have fun. Sounds like that's what you're doing. :)
I totally agree!
Just my opinion but it seems to me that some people put too much stock in all these "labels" when some of us have simply learned to enjoy some alternate form of sexual pleasures and/or pursuits 😁...which is another way of saying "...enjoy life, have fun..." 😉
 
I totally agree!
Just my opinion but it seems to me that some people put too much stock in all these "labels" when some of us have simply learned to enjoy some alternate form of sexual pleasures and/or pursuits 😁...which is another way of saying "...enjoy life, have fun..." 😉
Perfectly said!
 
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