Why do older men become bi-curious?

[Jeph77]

Fear of missing out. Older you get the stronger the urge to try new sexual experiences.

Pleasuring another man's penis is gratifying. And spectacular.

 

[CuriousinPennsylvania]

Why do older men become bi-curious?​

Why Not?

 

[celined]

For me, there are a lot of pieces to complete this puzzle.

The ability to poentially have quick, purely physical sex with a different person. (a quickie!)
The "dirtiness" of doing something taboo. (cum play and exploring another body)
The raw animal lust involved. (enthusiasum without commitment)
and times have changed; it's not as taboo is it used to be. (why not try? It feels great!)

Love this for you.

 

[CuriousGuyVa]

I too am a child of the 60s. And the one poster is absolutely correct, labels like gay and fag and queer were tossed around frequently and no one wanted to end up in that bin. I was also a catholic kid, so I was told from an early age that it was bad and sinful.

I had a same sex relationship when I was very young and it ended before Jr High. I lived in fear that it might somehow become known.
I love women and am married. I loved sex with my wife when we still had it. She has lost interest and I am left to my own solutions.

So later in life I circled back on all these feelings and fantasies and desires. I am still happily married, so I try not to do anything to jeopardize that. But I have finally accepted that I am a mostly non practicing bisexual. If there was no way I would be caught or catch a disease I would suck and be sucked by as many men as possible. I think about it all the time.

excellent post

 

[Deleted member 6666935]

So checking in again on this thread… for the past month or so, maybe longer, I’ve been trying to indulge my bi-curiosity by getting oral from another male… and as I posted here or elsewhere, I keep getting flaked out on!

I was supposed to meet up with someone this morning, and I shot them an email last night to confirm our plans… and I got a response indicating that email address was no longer valid!

I have to admit I’m confused at what’s happening, I hear from someone who is very enthusiastic about meeting up, and we make a plan… and then I’m ghosted. This is almost as bad as not getting any response when I’m trying to meet up with a female, because it looked like something was going to happen (admittedly when I do get a response from a woman it turns out they want to get paid).

 

[lit_ch3]

Not quite bi curious but interested in exploring getting spanked by a strict older person either male or female.

I think I'd like to be restrained and powerless so they could do as they pleased, probably would feel safer with a safe word.

Not sure how far I let this go, but the thought gets me heated.

Tried the restrained thing exactly once. So hot for both of us we didn't go back. And, I wasn't spanking her bottom. I was slapping and spanking her tits. She then spanked me - my cock, my balls and my ass before she started probing inside me.

For those that haven't seen this yet:
my one time

 

[Mike130]

Why do older men become bi-curious?​

Why Not?

I’ve never sucked a man’s cock but when my wife and I were dating, she would go out with her “girlfriends” on Fridays and go out with me on Saturday. She would taste a bit different every week, and she told me after we were married that she usually got a good pounding on a Friday night from whoever she met. So I guess by proxy I drank the sperm of many men over the years. Our latest kink is to cum in her pussy, then lick the hot jizz out of it. No problem, I like the taste of cum.

with those proclivities, the rise of online porn, and the abundance of cute Trans girls with tantalizing (and probably tasty) cocks, coupled with the sometimes waning sex drive of some wives, bi-curious seems like a logical next step. Many of us have probably knowingly or unknowingly tasted another man’s cum indirectly from a woman’s pussy, it would be interesting to get it from the source.

 

[badonkadoku]

it would be interesting to get it from the source.

I promise you, it's a lot more than 'interesting'!

 

[Mike130]

I promise you, it's a lot more than 'interesting'!

Anything you can share?

 

[Britva415]

I am a 64 y/o mwm and, over the last few years, I have become more and more bi-curious. In email exchanges with other men around my age, I have found that well over half of them are experiencing the same thinh. Is this a common phenomenon?

I don't think older men become more bi-curious. I think bi-curious men stop denying it when they get older.

What are the reasons for that? A couple:

First, everyone "takes less shit" about things when they mature. People are less willing to behave according to bullshit conditioning and other people's views, and more willing to live for themselves.

This goes for men and women both. Some of the women who stop having sex with their husbands when they get older are women who never wanted much of it in the first place, and now they're just mature enough to "stop taking shit" and have the brass to just say, sorry, we're not doing that.

Which is the second reason some men turn to men when they're older. Not getting it at home drives the interest in getting it outside the marriage, and men know that men are easy. It's far easier to get casual, no-strings sex with other MSM than it would be with women, especially for older men.

However, I don't believe that it would ever even occur to most men to turn to other men for extramarital sex or post-divorce sex. Only the bi ones, whether they ever experienced/acknowleged their bisexuality or not. The closet is a powerful thing.

So, between having more of a reason than ever to look outside the home for sex, and being less willing to fit a mold of other people's expectations, they just get over the inhibition and start daring to acknowledge the tendencies which were probably always there, if possibly latent and unconscious.

 

[Pornfan77]

I don't think older men become more bi-curious. I think bi-curious men stop denying it when they get older.

What are the reasons for that? A couple:

First, everyone "takes less shit" about things when they mature. People are less willing to behave according to bullshit conditioning and other people's views, and more willing to live for themselves.

This goes for men and women both. Some of the women who stop having sex with their husbands when they get older are women who never wanted much of it in the first place, and now they're just mature enough to "stop taking shit" and have the brass to just say, sorry, we're not doing that.

Which is the second reason some men turn to men when they're older. Not getting it at home drives the interest in getting it outside the marriage, and men know that men are easy. It's far easier to get casual, no-strings sex with other MSM than it would be with women, especially for older men.

However, I don't believe that it would ever even occur to most men turn to other men for extramarital sex or post-divorce sex. Only the bi ones, whether they ever experienced/acknowleged their bisexuality or not. The closet is a powerful thing.

So, between having more of a reason than ever to look outside the home for sex, and being less willing to fit a mold of other people's expectations, they just get over the inhibition and start daring to acknowledge the tendencies which were probably always there, if possibly latent and unconscious.

I think there’s a lot to be said for things at home growing stale, or not at all. I’ve always been interested in the cocks in porn even as a young man. The urge to try things has gotten so much stronger since my wife decided to be celibate.

 

[Britva415]

I think there’s a lot to be said for things at home growing stale, or not at all. I’ve always been interested in the cocks in porn even as a young man. The urge to try things has gotten so much stronger since my wife decided to be celibate.

For real. If the home life is so stale that a guy is already thinking about getting it elsewhere, it's only a very short leap to considering getting whatever-the-fuck-you-want rather than staying in the straight vanilla mode.

Unless he's a straight vanilla guy. It's going to be whatever he wanted in the first place, not some brand-new made-up-out-of-nowhere attraction.

 

[Bisexguy70]

My sex life is pretty much non existent. She cant help it, health issues. She hate it but im a guy with a strong sex drive. If I look to other woman, i take the risk of emotional hang ups. I just need to cum and that's it. I think guys watch so much porn the images of hard cocks get entrained in the brain. Now porn is saturated with transexuals. Hot woman nice tits with hot looking cocks. Guys cant get those images off the brain. Cock is erotic and eventually some guys get the urge to try it. Its very empowering to make another guy moan and cum. The likely hood of me getting a bj from some hot chic is slim to none. So we do what comes easiest…suck another cock. Once you try it you realize how hot it is and how good it feels getting A bj from another guy. Even anal sex is intense. I can only speak for myself but the hottest orgasms Ive had arr from playing with other men.

 

[Arngrim]

My sex life is pretty much non existent. She cant help it, health issues. She hate it but im a guy with a strong sex drive. If I look to other woman, i take the risk of emotional hang ups. I just need to cum and that's it. I think guys watch so much porn the images of hard cocks get entrained in the brain. Now porn is saturated with transexuals. Hot woman nice tits with hot looking cocks. Guys cant get those images off the brain. Cock is erotic and eventually some guys get the urge to try it. Its very empowering to make another guy moan and cum. The likely hood of me getting a bj from some hot chic is slim to none. So we do what comes easiest…suck another cock. Once you try it you realize how hot it is and how good it feels getting A bj from another guy. Even anal sex is intense. I can only speak for myself but the hottest orgasms Ive had arr from playing with other men.

Very similar situation as myself. To add, I think there’s a certain “thrill” to things society has deemed taboo, and if one grew up pre-1980, what was once deemed taboo has become commonplace. The floodgates have come open so to speak so the old guard is finding a plethora of way to experiment.

 

[Oldsucker]

That is very interesting. Being male if peak testosterone kicks in at 19, personally mine remained very high until reaching my late 40's in age. I became tremendously bi-curious at the age of 55. My attraction to bi-sexual, then strictly gay porn only increased as I aged. I am one of the men whose body, or hidden sexual desires, gave my oral and anal virginity away on the same day. The fantasy's had overpowered me for 8 years. I knew they were real, I did sexual things I'd never dreamed of before in my entire life.

I gave a man my first blow job when I was 63. I was thrilled to do this, and felt delirious with sexual freedom as I swallowed his cum. Your post makes perfect sense in my personal experience. And I believe many men have homosexual thoughts as they age for the same reasons you have stated, and other's like a marriage desolving because of sexual loss of interest. I've no idea how many men have done what I have, but the temptation I believe is undeniable if your 50 or older.

I never even considered the hormones in my body could have possibly aided my sexual transformation to become a cock sucker. Now, I hope it just fueled the tremendous appeal that homosexuality gave to me later in life.

Much appreciate your post!

This feels right to me and my urges. Additionally once into my 60s my tits have grown much bigger and more sensitive. I’d love to have them suckled while I wank a guys cock and fondle his balls.

 

[Britva415]

Now porn is saturated with transexuals

It really isn't.

Sure, there's as much trans porn around as anyone could ever want, but that's true of bananas too. But that doesn't mean everyone has to have bananas at every meal. You could if you wanted, but

 

[Bisexguy70]

It really isn't.

Sure, there's as much trans porn around as anyone could ever want, but that's true of bananas too. But that doesn't mean everyone has to have bananas at every meal. You could if you wanted, but

Every once in awhile im kinda wrong. But thanks for pointing it out.

 

[wetsawdust]

I don't think older men become more bi-curious. I think bi-curious men stop denying it when they get older.

What are the reasons for that? A couple:

First, everyone "takes less shit" about things when they mature. People are less willing to behave according to bullshit conditioning and other people's views, and more willing to live for themselves.

This goes for men and women both. Some of the women who stop having sex with their husbands when they get older are women who never wanted much of it in the first place, and now they're just mature enough to "stop taking shit" and have the brass to just say, sorry, we're not doing that.

Which is the second reason some men turn to men when they're older. Not getting it at home drives the interest in getting it outside the marriage, and men know that men are easy. It's far easier to get casual, no-strings sex with other MSM than it would be with women, especially for older men.

However, I don't believe that it would ever even occur to most men to turn to other men for extramarital sex or post-divorce sex. Only the bi ones, whether they ever experienced/acknowleged their bisexuality or not. The closet is a powerful thing.

So, between having more of a reason than ever to look outside the home for sex, and being less willing to fit a mold of other people's expectations, they just get over the inhibition and start daring to acknowledge the tendencies which were probably always there, if possibly latent and unconscious.

Holy fucking shit, get out of my brain! This is pretty much me. Once I woke up and acknowledged it, accepted it and decided to love and nurture it, not only did I feel a TREMENDOUS weight lift off of me, but I also deciphered the clues that had been puzzling me for years. I feel like it took 50 years, but I've arrived. It's been one of the most important, empowering, and exhausting experiences in my life.

 

[Spurtulator]

I think in the AOL chat room days, the fact that well over 90% of people in those chat rooms were men put the idea of curiosity in their thoughts. I think with porn being so available, guys come across some bi or gay porn and go down the rabbit hole. I really think the internet age has led more guys to explore than pre-internet days.

 

[SPARTAN047]

There are so many Craigslist ads, especially for married dudes too.

 

[Crios]

I think in the AOL chat room days, the fact that well over 90% of people in those chat rooms were men put the idea of curiosity in their thoughts. I think with porn being so available, guys come across some bi or gay porn and go down the rabbit hole. I really think the internet age has led more guys to explore than pre-internet days.

I know it helped move the needle for me. My first cybersex encounter was with a crossdresser from New Orleans. She was amazing, helping me understand my feelings.

 

[Turniptree]

When did I really become interested in bisexuality? I have to say in my 40’s when the sex dried up in my marriage. It’s not that my wife doesn’t want to have sex, but it’s so one sided. As a woman, I think she is the only one that likes and needs foreplay!!. Once she has had a few orgasms, it becomes a chore for her to do anything for me. She suddenly thinks I should have a rock hard erection and wham bam it’s suppose to be over. I haven’t been able to stay hard because I feel used.
So, why am I bicurious? Well a man would know what I really need. I love blow jobs and yet my wife is not so keen. My ultimate fantasy is my wife and I fucking another couple. Her with the wife and myself with the husband. Getting my arse fucked by a man in my masturbation sessions is something that gets me hard

 

[little cletus]

Because we grow out of the narrow roles pressed upon us growing up. We are shown porn and told to focus on the women, but there are well hung men in those videos. Huge dicks that drive women crazy. We start to realize…maybe those dicks could drive me crazy too. And those ladies love cum. Maybe i would love cum like that. And you just don’t give a shit what people think or say about you anymore. If I want to have an amazing orgasm from having my ass fucked, why is it anyone’s business by my own.

 

[wetsawdust]

Because my 40's were all about forgetting to give a fuck about what anyone thinks about who I am, what I wear, how I talk...and now that I'm 50, I can add who I fuck to that list.

Says the guy in the closet, happily married and getting gayer every day.

 

[Dirt_in_the_Ground]

Because you know when a sex act is over, and it's time to get back to working on the pickup instead of talking about your relationship?