Why do older men become bi-curious?

She may have XY chromosomes but that’s a girl. At least in my mind. Which makes all the difference.

I will have to agree with you. It's already clear, and getting more clear everyday; Gender is as much about what's on the inside as it is about what's on the outside. It's the fortunate XY people who also have the body that matches. No doubt, it's much harder on the ones who were not blessed with a more feminine body.
 
I will have to agree with you. It's already clear, and getting more clear everyday; Gender is as much about what's on the inside as it is about what's on the outside. It's the fortunate XY people who also have the body that matches. No doubt, it's much harder on the ones who were not blessed with a more feminine body.

Yes, you are right. This girl has never taken hormones or had surgery of any kind. So she has been blessed. Most are not and spend their lives trying to attain an ideal of femininity that is difficult even for many XX people to reach.
 
For me I think that it was always there. As I have matured I am have learned to embrace many things about myself by tearing down the barriers that fed a lot of bias.

When I was young I would say that society's views on sex were pretty oppressive. As a guy you were either straight or gay and the latter came with negative connotations and consequences. Even if you preferred women to men by a factor of 99 to 1, as soon as you suck one cock you were gay.

Nowadays it is more accepted to be gay and people do accept the premise of bi-sexuality. Although it does seem to still be oversimplified. We think and speak in terms of being all one or the other (heterosexual or homo) or 50/50. I have come to the view that many humans are on a spectrum. Personally I prefer women but I do like cock. I like sucking cock. I like the taste of cum. I like anal sex. I also love pussy. Accepting all sides of myself became easier when I learned to reject the notion that every sexual act defines me.
 
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Yes, I like this.

I watched a very erotic video, two hot female 'doctors' talking to the camera about how the natural state of men is to be placid and submissive like women apart from when they are young and controlled by testosterone. They were saying we should accept feminisation and being cuckolded by masculine young men, and encourage them to fuck our wives.

I must say I enjoyed the clip, several times. 💖
 
You have more in common no sex from wife! What do other guys cocks feel like and look like ! All kinds of fantasies for sure

If you are truly interested in finding out the answers to your questions, there are many helpful guys who are willing to give you the benefit of their experience and answer 'any' questions that you may have.

Just a few basic things to keep in mind. Take the time and get to know any prospective friends. Don't let anyone talk you into something that you are not comfortable with. Make sure this is what you want. Once you suck a cock, there is no going back, you cannot un-suck it. You will be forever known as a guy who sucks cock.
 
I luv all the Pop-psychology. Anyone ever think...we seek m/m because the odds are better and we just want to Nut...then go home. There are plenty of receivers that are willing to act as truck stop so we can change our oil then drive on.
There is noting to it. No college degree or 153 something to identify as...or poly this...or that... We're testosterone drive, not estrogen drive, unless you pussies are drinking soy Milk. then you do have Fat titties ..Just NUT and go

The problem with all the chatter is that they're not on their knees or between our legs with their mouth and throat completely occupied with satisfying a feeder.

It really, really is just nut and go, and no talking is needed.
 
For me, the primary cause was the wife losing interest in sex, and inhibitions do break down too. It started mainly with cuckold fantasies, but because the wife definitely wasn't into it, it became more difficult to ‘realistically fantasise’ about it, though I still do quite often.

In theory though, without the wife, I could easily imagine myself sucking a man’s cock, so my thoughts turned more to that. Over time, more submissive fantasies emerged and some of the more taboo things became intriguing.

Couldn't agree more!!! She's not interested so I guess it's up to me!
 
For me I think that it was always there. As I have matured I am have learned to embrace many things about myself by tearing down the barriers that fed a lot of bias.

When I was young I would say that society's views on sex were pretty oppressive. As a guy you were either straight or gay and the latter came with negative connotations and consequences. Even if you preferred women to men by a factor of 99 to 1, as soon as you suck one cock you were gay.

Nowadays it is more accepted to be gay and people do accept the premise of bi-sexuality. Although it does seem to still be oversimplified. We think and speak in terms of being all one or the other (heterosexual or homo) or 50/50. I have come to the view that many humans are on a spectrum. Personally I prefer women but I do like cock. I like sucking cock. I like the taste of cum. I like anal sex. I also love pussy. Accepting all sides of myself became easier when I learned to reject the notion that every sexual act defines me.


YES YES YES YES YES!!! Variety is the spice of life and why did we ever think that we should only eat off one side of the menu?!? Silly us!!!!
 
I am 60 and was curious for years and finally had my first encounter with a man 5 years ago. Loved it right away. Since then I have met a hand full of safe guys and have learned to love sex with a man. I have a regular bud that I meet up with for hours of sucking and fucking. Best sex and orgasms I’ve ever had. Wife just isn’t into giving me head the way a guy does and of course she doesn’t have a cock and therefore can’t fuck me.
 
I'm 73 and married to a woman I love. I have realised in the last 3 or 4 years that I'm attracted to men as well as to women. I haven't had any actual sex with a man (unless you count a couple of episodes when I was 15) but have had a few cam sessions on various sites. I found that exciting. I fantasise about sex with men all the time but I am tormented by the thought of being disloyal to my wife. Still a lot of thinking to do!
 
I'm 73 and married to a woman I love. I have realised in the last 3 or 4 years that I'm attracted to men as well as to women. I haven't had any actual sex with a man (unless you count a couple of episodes when I was 15) but have had a few cam sessions on various sites. I found that exciting. I fantasise about sex with men all the time but I am tormented by the thought of being disloyal to my wife. Still a lot of thinking to do!

I was in your same situation 10 years ago. It took me another 5 years of thinking about sex with another man before I gave in to the urge. I must say that I have had no regrets, except for waiting so long. Just be sure that you really want to continue on this path. Once you suck a cock, you cannot un-suck it. You will forever be a man who sucked a cock. Enjoy the fantasy, if that is what you want. Try a cock, if you really can't resist.
 
Why Do Older Men Become Bicurious

One aspect of having become aware late in life that I'm attracted to men as well as to women, but not actually doing anything about it in real life is that I don't know which aspects of sex with men I would find enjoyable and which I would not. I'm sure I would like intimate contact, kissing, sucking and being sucked. Beyond that I'm not sure. I know that certain things are unattractive to me: pain, pissing and cross dressing, for instance. Most of the time I find "respectable looking" men attractive - well dressed, articulate men. But from time to time I have a bearish fantasy or two. Perhaps one day I'll know for sure.
 
One aspect of having become aware late in life that I'm attracted to men as well as to women, but not actually doing anything about it in real life is that I don't know which aspects of sex with men I would find enjoyable and which I would not. I'm sure I would like intimate contact, kissing, sucking and being sucked. Beyond that I'm not sure. I know that certain things are unattractive to me: pain, pissing and cross dressing, for instance. Most of the time I find "respectable looking" men attractive - well dressed, articulate men. But from time to time I have a bearish fantasy or two. Perhaps one day I'll know for sure.

I'm sort of in the same category, I'm a (mostly) straight man who acknowledges that I sometimes find men attractive. However, there are very few homosexual acts that appeal to me - I'm not interested in anal sex (either hetero or homo, either giving or receiving end), and could only see myself as being interested in receiving oral from another man.

That's one reason why I never pursued it, I suspect that a male partner would feel short-changed if he could only give but not receive. For instance, how would I feel if a woman approached me and asked me to perform oral on her but wouldn't reciprocate or let me fuck her? Even if she was gorgeous I'd feel short-changed.
 
I'm sort of in the same category, I'm a (mostly) straight man who acknowledges that I sometimes find men attractive. However, there are very few homosexual acts that appeal to me - I'm not interested in anal sex (either hetero or homo, either giving or receiving end), and could only see myself as being interested in receiving oral from another man.

That's one reason why I never pursued it, I suspect that a male partner would feel short-changed if he could only give but not receive. For instance, how would I feel if a woman approached me and asked me to perform oral on her but wouldn't reciprocate or let me fuck her? Even if she was gorgeous I'd feel short-changed.

Find yourself an establishment with a gloryhole...getting without giving is not uncommon.
 
One aspect of having become aware late in life that I'm attracted to men as well as to women, but not actually doing anything about it in real life is that I don't know which aspects of sex with men I would find enjoyable and which I would not. I'm sure I would like intimate contact, kissing, sucking and being sucked. Beyond that I'm not sure. I know that certain things are unattractive to me: pain, pissing and cross dressing, for instance. Most of the time I find "respectable looking" men attractive - well dressed, articulate men. But from time to time I have a bearish fantasy or two. Perhaps one day I'll know for sure.

I became attracted to men later in life too mostly from watching internet porn and mostly enjoying scenes where women would service multiple cocks at once. Also wife wasn’t into sex as much as I was. After years of being curious had my first experience about 5 years ago and now am a full fledged bisexual. Love sucking, getting sucked and getting fucked. Only regret is I don’t get to be with a man as often as I like, maybe once a month, because I am also married to a women. Had a few group situations where I felt like a kid in a candy shop on my knees with multiple cocks in my face. I can honestly say that I now enjoy sex with a man more than a women.
 
Forever or never?

If you are truly interested in finding out the answers to your questions, there are many helpful guys who are willing to give you the benefit of their experience and answer 'any' questions that you may have.

Just a few basic things to keep in mind. Take the time and get to know any prospective friends. Don't let anyone talk you into something that you are not comfortable with. Make sure this is what you want. Once you suck a cock, there is no going back, you cannot un-suck it. You will be forever known as a guy who sucks cock.

Well I thought this was all good advice ... right up until the last statement.

Why is there no going back? Where are there any barriers to a return to what you were doing - or not doing - before, except of your own creation?

Assuming you choose someone who is discreet and respectful, who will ever know except you two? You may be known to your partner as a guy who sucks cock; or you may be known to him as a guy who he knew sucked a cock, his cock, one time. And that would be as far as it ever goes. Done.

I've done some one-time things with wives and lovers that haven't left me known for that or anything else by anyone else.

I've eaten some things I didn't care for - and done so in public - and never eaten them again. However, I've never, as a result, come to be forever known as the guy who ate that.

It's like any number of other things in life that you try, don't care for, and never try again. That's all there is to it. There's absolutely no need for it to change your life forever. What you will be known forever as, is the guy that everyone who knows you has known forever.

I believe that if there's to be any internal conflict, there would be much more of that arising from never finding the courage to try something that you would really like to do. Personally, I'd find that much harder to live with.
 
I am a 64 y/o mwm and, over the last few years, I have become more and more bi-curious. In email exchanges with other men around my age, I have found that well over half of them are experiencing the same thinh. Is this a common phenomenon?

It is quite common, actually. Why this is I'm not entirely sure. But just yesterday, for example, i was casually hit on at a salad bar by a man my age [64] while the wife was at the table. It's more common than you might think.
 
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