Why do older men become bi-curious?

[writerzblok92]

I'm worried that day is coming for me. She still loves sex, but it seems to be more on her time frame. We used to be good for once during the week, and maybe two on the weekend. Now its usually Friday afternoon, and thats it. I'm 54, shes 50.

I'm envious. I'm 46, shes 45 and I haven't had sex in 8 years. She has no interest in me or sex at all. I've given up trying to get it from her and just came to the realization that my sexlife with her is dead.

 

[Rayjay507]

I'm envious. I'm 46, shes 45 and I haven't had sex in 8 years. She has no interest in me or sex at all. I've given up trying to get it from her and just came to the realization that my sexlife with her is dead.

Writer, I’m so sorry to hear that. I hope you take the frustration you feel now and turn it into a more than positive direction for yourself. I’ve still not been able to suck my first cock yet. But I’ve moved forward with my curiosity to the point I am ready for the real thing. Dig in here and eliminate your frustrations. Enjoy the pleasure of guys exactly like you. Start anywhere at any pace you choose. But go for it. You definitely deserve more. Enjoy. Have fun.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Lots of similar posts on this topic. I think, as hetero sex wanes with the passing of time (familiarity can breed indifference), thoughts turn to sex, just the physical experience. You know you'll get what you want, give him what he wants and that's that. I love my wife and I enjoy sex with her, but getting off with a cock is a more.... solely physical experience.

 

[shawnavinyltv]

I think for a lot of us, it was something so outrageous and taboo, that we rarely or ever considered it when younger. As we get older, our experiences broaden out and we come to realize that the judgement for gay or bi activity really isn't the same now as when we were younger. So, the option to explore becomes more out there. I generally think most people fall in the middle range of the Kinsey scale, so experimenting that way, really shouldn't be that out there.

As an aside, I also think that's why trans girls sometimes get a lot of attention because we can be that fantasy guy, while not triggering any thoughts its gay. I especially get this attention from younger guys. If you knew the number of times I've gotten the "I'm 100% totally straight, but I'd fuck you" line... My usual reply is "You know I'm a guy under the clothes, right?" "Yeah" "Well, then hun, you're not 100% totally straight!" This realization is sometimes a shock for them. Weird, but I guess the mind does what it has to.

Lastly, I think part of it comes that as women's interest in sex wanes, guys tends to remain high. That's again where trans or sissy girls get lots of love. The look and sensuality of a woman with the sex drive of a guy!

 

[sweettalk4u]

Most don’t realize bisexuality is real. You can feel like you are suppressing it by being involved with a woman but you aren’t. Because you are bi you can play with both. And if you have fantasies about men, you are bi. And you are so lucky. Enjoy it!

 

[The_Gypsy]

I am a 64 y/o mwm and, over the last few years, I have become more and more bi-curious. In email exchanges with other men around my age, I have found that well over half of them are experiencing the same thinh. Is this a common phenomenon?

I find that often in marriage the sexual relationship between man and wife diminishes and masturbation becomes the order of the day. handling your own cock as your prime source of sexual satisfaction does lead to wondering about other men and what it would be like to masturbate with and for another guy

 

[Traveler99921]

ED and becoming bi

About a year before I recognized I was seusually attracted to men, I had started developing problems with staying erect. I wonder if any other older guys have had the same experience? I found I had no problem finding guys with whom to have sex even if I could not guarantee I would stay erect.

My wife was aware of my bisexuality. Of course she was curious as to whether or not I had normal erections when I was with men. She was relieved when I could not. It reassured her I was bi and not gay. We started exploring way to have sex with each other than penis in vagina. I always had significant side effects from the pills. We found ways that we both enjoyed.

 

[sweettalk4u]

Glad you discovered your bisexuality! Your wife is very supportive and that is wonderful.

 

[tonyreid]

my thought

I am a MWM bi 52 in the bay area of Ca . My wife ( second one ) Is 40 and also bi . She was very supportive in me experimenting etc , I had the usual stroking with friends when younger but then nothing until I was 40 or so. Met my wife and played out some fantasies and loved it . Then we met a bi couple and she encouraged me to stroke and suck the guy as she was playing with the fem which really helped as small head was now ruling big head for sure . I think for me it was just the taboo nature of bi play that kept me from experimenting further years ago . I was always seen as kind of tough mans man and my friends back then would have tore me to shreds . I know I always had those feelings I never fancy guys but do enjoy cock play mutual stroking and sucking . Its wonderful that my wife loves it too .

 

[Tubeluver]

67 here! I’m wanting to try sucking, not interested in anal.

 

[justbecuz]

I understand as I had prostate cancer, and surgery did away with a lot (no pre-cum or cum) and it get's semi-hard but I do love sucking a hard cock and feel it get hard and balls come up just before it cums.

 

[dobbins1]

Yep

Lots of similar posts on this topic. I think, as hetero sex wanes with the passing of time (familiarity can breed indifference), thoughts turn to sex, just the physical experience. You know you'll get what you want, give him what he wants and that's that. I love my wife and I enjoy sex with her, but getting off with a cock is a more.... solely physical experience.

Totally agree!

 

[Susscrofa]

As an aside, I also think that's why trans girls sometimes get a lot of attention because we can be that fantasy guy, while not triggering any thoughts its gay. I especially get this attention from younger guys. If you knew the number of times I've gotten the "I'm 100% totally straight, but I'd fuck you" line... My usual reply is "You know I'm a guy under the clothes, right?" "Yeah" "Well, then hun, you're not 100% totally straight!" This realization is sometimes a shock for them. Weird, but I guess the mind does what it has to.

I agree with your assessment, and I've gotten flack here and elsewhere for making this (obvious) assessment.

Those who say "I'm 100% straight, but I'm turned on by trans women" are twisting themselves into pretzels to convince themselves they aren't bisexual when in fact they are. The bottom line is that if you're a man whose sexual partners have penises and XY chromosomes, you're bisexual or homosexual. Fetishizing transsexuals is a way for bisexual men to go around convincing themselves that they're 100% heterosexual.

 

[Pines]

I find that often in marriage the sexual relationship between man and wife diminishes and masturbation becomes the order of the day. handling your own cock as your prime source of sexual satisfaction does lead to wondering about other men and what it would be like to masturbate with and for another guy

Those exact thoughts fuel many of my jacking off sessions.

 

[ofmu55]

I'm guessing at that age, inhibitions sort of break down. It's also interesting to try some things that are more taboo.

Either way I can't complain. My throats for me to fuck lol

 

[Escierto]

I agree with your assessment, and I've gotten flack here and elsewhere for making this (obvious) assessment.

Those who say "I'm 100% straight, but I'm turned on by trans women" are twisting themselves into pretzels to convince themselves they aren't bisexual when in fact they are. The bottom line is that if you're a man whose sexual partners have penises and XY chromosomes, you're bisexual or homosexual. Fetishizing transsexuals is a way for bisexual men to go around convincing themselves that they're 100% heterosexual.

I see your point and I have no problem labeling myself bisexual but when I do so men are disappointed that I have absolutely no interest in them. I don’t care whether they have cocks - if’s it’s attached to someone masculine, forget it. My girlfriend has XY chromosomes but looking at her, I am always surprised that she has a lovely cock and not a pussy.

https://i.imgur.com/WQjGRpD.jpg

 

[Pines]

I see your point and I have no problem labeling myself bisexual but when I do so men are disappointed that I have absolutely no interest in them. I don’t care whether they have cocks - if’s it’s attached to someone masculine, forget it. My girlfriend has XY chromosomes but looking at her, I am always surprised that she has a lovely cock and not a pussy.

https://i.imgur.com/WQjGRpD.jpg

Beautiful figure !

 

[Escierto]

Beautiful figure !

Thank you. You must be bisexual lol

 

[haventdonethat]

Thank you. You must be bisexual lol

Good one LOL!

And it is a nice bum.

 

[Escierto]

Good one LOL!

And it is a nice bum.

Yes, indeed. What’s on the front is also very nice!

 

[TheVeryIdea]

I'm guessing at that age, inhibitions sort of break down. It's also interesting to try some things that are more taboo.

Either way I can't complain. My throats for me to fuck lol

For me, the primary cause was the wife losing interest in sex, and inhibitions do break down too. It started mainly with cuckold fantasies, but because the wife definitely wasn't into it, it became more difficult to ‘realistically fantasise’ about it, though I still do quite often.

In theory though, without the wife, I could easily imagine myself sucking a man’s cock, so my thoughts turned more to that. Over time, more submissive fantasies emerged and some of the more taboo things became intriguing.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

For me, the primary cause was the wife losing interest in sex, and inhibitions do break down too. It started mainly with cuckold fantasies, but because the wife definitely wasn't into it, it became more difficult to ‘realistically fantasise’ about it, though I still do quite often.

In theory though, without the wife, I could easily imagine myself sucking a man’s cock, so my thoughts turned more to that. Over time, more submissive fantasies emerged and some of the more taboo things became intriguing.

The taboo aspect is definitely hot.

 

[Replicant2018]

I see your point and I have no problem labeling myself bisexual but when I do so men are disappointed that I have absolutely no interest in them. I don’t care whether they have cocks - if’s it’s attached to someone masculine, forget it. My girlfriend has XY chromosomes but looking at her, I am always surprised that she has a lovely cock and not a pussy.

https://i.imgur.com/WQjGRpD.jpg

Great ass.

 

[Escierto]

Great ass.

She may have XY chromosomes but that’s a girl. At least in my mind. Which makes all the difference.

 

[yukonnights]

She may have XY chromosomes but that’s a girl. At least in my mind. Which makes all the difference.

I will have to agree with you. It's already clear, and getting more clear everyday; Gender is as much about what's on the inside as it is about what's on the outside. It's the fortunate XY people who also have the body that matches. No doubt, it's much harder on the ones who were not blessed with a more feminine body.