Why do older men become bi-curious?

[klippert]

I luv all the Pop-psychology. Anyone ever think...we seek m/m because the odds are better and we just want to Nut...then go home. There are plenty of receivers that are willing to act as truck stop so we can change our oil then drive on.
There is noting to it. No college degree or 153 something to identify as...or poly this...or that... We're testosterone drive, not estrogen drive, unless you pussies are drinking soy Milk. then you do have Fat titties ..Just NUT and go

 

[spurtman]

I luv all the Pop-psychology. Anyone ever think...we seek m/m because the odds are better and we just want to Nut...then go home. There are plenty of receivers that are willing to act as truck stop so we can change our oil then drive on.
There is noting to it. No college degree or 153 something to identify as...or poly this...or that... We're testosterone drive, not estrogen drive, unless you pussies are drinking soy Milk. then you do have Fat titties ..Just NUT and go

Here, here, Klippert! You were already a Lit rock star in my book with your prolific contributions of the sexiest and horniest images . . . . your analysis here is spot on! We're just all horny, that's all . . . . and our wives/girlfriends aren't, by and large.

 

[hulmule]

Wrong post

 

[richgo50]

I originally posted this in the wrong thread.

For me it is the big drop off of sex with the wife. In the past I never thought about cock at all. Now it has changed quite a bit. I love to Cross dress, my wife does my fingernails and toe nails with polish and I love that. I have never sucked a cock or touched any cock other than my own. I would love to get together with someone that enjoys dressing up, licking clean ass hole and sucking cock. I get very submissive when I dress up and that really throws my wife because I am not natured that way. She is getting to the point where she understands my desire for a cock and might be open to letting me expand my desire to suck. My problem is truing to lose 20 lbs. That and sucking are my goals.

 

[ADIDAS00]

I think it has to do with being more open minded as you get older. Plus there is a taboo aspect to it all that is appealing.....for me anyway

 

[Traveler99921]

Other changes

I am one of those guys that became bi relatively late in life. However, that was not the only change. I started wearing panties. I tried more crossdressing, but it was panties that turned me on. I felt compelled to shave my pubic area.

I became sexually submissive, but more to my wife than to my male sex partners. Most of the times when I was sucking cock I felt in charge. I became less interested in having penetrative sex with my wife but more interested in performing oral sex on her. This was ok with her. Really it was more than ok. She went from having the occasional orgasm to being multiple orgasmic.

 

[Hotzack4m]

Later in Life Lust

I concur with a number of the previous posters here. Especially in relation to finding gay sex fantasies more intense as we grow older. I always remember loving the nude male form (*A Playgirl calendar seeing nude men, only masterbated imagining myself "with" them, or "Mr. May" having sex with "Mr. June".) By the time I began enjoying Colt, pre-condom action, found M2M porn to be 1000 times better. Like life, sort of put that part of myself 'away' for a while - doing scripted 'man, dad, husband' thing. Becoming older, finding less willing female eyes of interest, actually rediscovered absolute love of male nudity, gay erotica.

 

[Rayjay507]

You are not alone. I was 65 when I sucked my first cock and figured that I must have been the oldest 'first time' cock sucker ever. Judging from the number of guys that I have spoken to since then, I am not alone either. There are a lot of older first time cock suckers.

As far as your thoughts about everyone you know being 'strictly straight,' I wouldn't bet on that. I used to think that way myself, until I chatted with a guy online one day last year. We decided to meet, and guess what? We actually used to work together. Oh yah, he is an excellent cock sucker too.

Thank you for these comments. I’m 65 now and have not sucked real cock yet. I crave cock though. I think of it constantly. I love to see cock. I’m not gonna stop trying now. Hopefully you are right we are more plentiful than most think. You know guys want their cocks sucked. Just got to find them. Maybe retirement at end of this year will give me more time to devote to cock hunger hunting. Thank you Peter.

 

[ChrissyCD64]

I originally posted this in the wrong thread.

For me it is the big drop off of sex with the wife. In the past I never thought about cock at all. Now it has changed quite a bit. I love to Cross dress, my wife does my fingernails and toe nails with polish and I love that. I have never sucked a cock or touched any cock other than my own. I would love to get together with someone that enjoys dressing up, licking clean ass hole and sucking cock. I get very submissive when I dress up and that really throws my wife because I am not natured that way. She is getting to the point where she understands my desire for a cock and might be open to letting me expand my desire to suck. My problem is truing to lose 20 lbs. That and sucking are my goals.

I have always worn panties and other lingerie under my male clothing even as a child and my wife knew that, as well as my enjoying sex with men, before we married. We have never experienced a drop off in her desire for sex, but she has always like sex with women more than men, so it wouldn't have mattered. Since my retirement nearly two years ago I now dress as a woman full time although I have never even tried to hide the fact that I am a man in feminine clothing. I agree with you that losing weight is hard. When I had to appear masculine for work, even though I had lingerie under my male clothing, I didn't worry about the weight, but since retiring I have lost weight for a much more feminine appearance, but it wasn't easy.

 

[AlexanderBly]

I am a 64 y/o mwm and, over the last few years, I have become more and more bi-curious. In email exchanges with other men around my age, I have found that well over half of them are experiencing the same thinh. Is this a common phenomenon?

My two cents: 1] As we get older, we have a greater need for more stimulation to do what testosterone did for us as young men. 2] The availability of desirable partners at this stage of the game is more difficult than it was when we were running around town in our 20's. 3] Men our age have discovered that the eroticism, or perversion, or taboo of same sex encounters among other wise straight men is an enormous turn on. It's occasionally trumps the highs I felt as a young man. Now, if i could attract beautiful young women, then the guys would have to wait. LOL

 

[PenLightStories]

I think it has to do with being more open minded as you get older. Plus there is a taboo aspect to it all that is appealing.....for me anyway

I'm with you on this...
1. The Taboo thing - there aren't a lot of new things under the sun to try when you reach a certain age, so the idea of having a guy to fool around with becomes kind of exciting
2. Some people just relax more as they get older and want to have a good time - I regret (a little) times when I could have hooked up with a guy I might have had a good time with and I just thought of it as "I'm not gay".

 

[peter49parker]

Thank you for these comments. I’m 65 now and have not sucked real cock yet. I crave cock though. I think of it constantly. I love to see cock. I’m not gonna stop trying now. Hopefully you are right we are more plentiful than most think. You know guys want their cocks sucked. Just got to find them. Maybe retirement at end of this year will give me more time to devote to cock hunger hunting. Thank you Peter.

That's the spirit Rayjay. Cock hunting sounds like a perfect retirement hobby. I am am always happy to answer any questions.

 

[sweettalk4u]

Yes you can never start planning soon enough for retirement ! Start talking now. Build relationships and get to know them first and learn all you can about the D/s lifestyle too. It makes it so much more enjoyable

 

[CuriousGuyVa]

I would like to experience something similar now that I'm 52 but with the right guy. Like a trusted friend or a neighbor with benefits, not simply a total stranger.
And he needs to have a cut member. Sorry but uncut just dosn't do it for me.
Maybe I'm too picky.

Sums it up nicely.....

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Certainly does for me.

 

[bottomshooter]

I am not sure why I have. I never thought, fantasized, or anything sexually about another guy when I was young. I was all about busty women. Over the years, thoughts started to enter my mind here and there. Now, in my daily life, I am still sexually attracted to women when I am out and about. In terms of sexual thoughts and enjoying myself sexually, I can only cum to gay stimulation. Hetero thoughts and porn barely make me half hard and I can't sustain. Two sweaty men who are into each other going at it makes immediately hard and immediately wet. I can barely have sex with my wife and my mind has to be full of vivid gay thoughts. Before all this pandemic stuff, I did have a weekend alone, I immersed myself into online interaction with men, gay vids, gay stories. First day, I got my toys out and just enjoyed. I came 5 times the first day. Almost broke my record of 6 lol but my cock was too sore. Slept a few hours and came 4 more times before I was no longer alone. I may be a little more than bi-curious lol

 

[Pines]

Thank you for the various words of encouragement.
I think they tell me that even though I enjoyed cock in my younger years.
It's been a dry 40 or so years.
But I'm only 52 and given the right situation I might become a cock sucker once again.
I just have to bide my time and hope the right situation presents itself.
Until that time it's fantasy land here on Lit.

Describes my situation pretty closely. But I'm getting tired of bidding my time.

 

[Rayjay507]

Sweettalk, thank you for the wonderful profile pic. Amazingly nice! Retirement soon. So hopefully will have more time to devote to finding my first real cock to suck. The reason I believe maturity brings bicuriousity is, one the chances of finding that 20 yo nymph to blow you constantly is pretty much zero. Two most wives either don’t enjoy sucking or doesn’t do it like you want. My wife will suck for a while then she hands it to me to jack off. Which I gladly do. So that’s why I’m curious to find a buddy to explore with. Hopefully on a regular basis. I am not interested in a relationship. If I could only see cock and balls, I would be happy. I have a cock fetish. I crave cock. That’s why I eat my own cum every chance I get. My first will surely not be disappointed. I will make sure they get off as much as they want to consecutively. Which is my greatest fantasy every day. To sit and worship cock and balls until they have no choice but to feed me a load of sperm. Can’t wait!

 

[WhiskeyLvr]

Sweettalk, thank you for the wonderful profile pic. Amazingly nice! Retirement soon. So hopefully will have more time to devote to finding my first real cock to suck. The reason I believe maturity brings bicuriousity is, one the chances of finding that 20 yo nymph to blow you constantly is pretty much zero. Two most wives either don’t enjoy sucking or doesn’t do it like you want. My wife will suck for a while then she hands it to me to jack off. Which I gladly do. So that’s why I’m curious to find a buddy to explore with. Hopefully on a regular basis. I am not interested in a relationship. If I could only see cock and balls, I would be happy. I have a cock fetish. I crave cock. That’s why I eat my own cum every chance I get. My first will surely not be disappointed. I will make sure they get off as much as they want to consecutively. Which is my greatest fantasy every day. To sit and worship cock and balls until they have no choice but to feed me a load of sperm. Can’t wait!

I soooo relate to this....

 

[BBCfan]

I've read a bit of this thread ...most points totally poignant.

I've been cock curious since I was very young and had experiences of some curiosity level from teen age.

I pursued some level of cocksucker interest since late 20s and its allure is not as strong as before I played out my fantasies.

I would say the most alluring aspect of male interaction is the unspoken understanding and communion of raw sexual energy we deal with always.

I would choose pussy always but there is some clandestine understanding between open horny guys that women cant understand.

 

[Silvery65]

I find myself in the same situation. I've had one real experience about 6 years ago but really want to find someone to explore these feelings with. I think I would be open to almost anything. Would like to chat with anyone here about what it is like.

 

[ShagTimes]

Perhaps some older men have had a lifetime of nagging and hen-pecking women and so they want to turn to someone who isn't inclined to be like that.

 

[sweettalk4u]

That’s interesting. So it could be something more than just sexual or kink related with some men? Makes sense. I think love is necessary in any successful and intimate relationship.

 

[2moreyardsofsail]

I think about it and have for several years. Haven't ever acted on those thoughts and probably never will!

 

[writerzblok92]

For me it's a return to something i did a long time ago and to make up for regrets I had for not following through on some things. It also doesn't hurt that my wife decided that she can do without sex or any intimacy regardless of my desire and needs. That was 8 years ago...