Why do older men become bi-curious?

[Trainer550]

Really, I think I was always a little bi curious. As a teenager, I thought about it occasionally, but the homophobia was so rampant I didn’t dare take a chance of anyone finding out. Besides, I liked girls way too much and my attention was largely focused on trying to get some pussy.

In college, in the mid to late seventies, thousands of miles from home, things overall were much looser and accepting, but my crowd was still a pretty Neanderthal one. Plus, for a lot of that period, I had a real girlfriend and we were getting it on all the time. But I still had curiosity. When I was a freshman, there was an older boy in Glee Club that I admired. He was tall and blond and very pretty and, I told myself, just a bit on the effeminate side. I don’t know if he was actually gay or bi, but I decided if he ever made a pass at me, I would go as far as he wanted. He never did.

A couple of more girlfriends along the way, and in my mid twenties, I was starting law school. I met the woman who would become my wife, and was insanely in love (well, still am, really) In your twenties and early thirties, engagement, wedding and early married years, you are so focused on your wife, sex with her pretty much any time, getting established in life, raising little kids, you convince yourself that she is all you want and need, and thoughts of bisexuality, or other extracurricular fun, seem to fade way, way into the background.

Flash forward some years, kids are preteen or teenagers, her sex drive has slowed down tremendously, with work, the house, kids, etc., if it hasn’t disappeared entirely. You spend way too much time with your penis in your hand, thinking of ways to wipe up your come that she won’t notice, hiding porn mags in drawers (these were pre internet days), thinking about your secretary, or your wife’s best friend with the huge tits, or whatever.

The internet makes its appearance, mid to late nineties, and you find sex everywhere. Forums, chat rooms, personal ads. Women who want to play. Men who want to play. Couples who want to play. And you start to think. “I don’t want to die having only had a vanilla sex life with my wife and a few women before. I want a past. I want to experience some exotic things.” And you start contacting people. All kinds of people. Men, women, young, old And you meet them discreetly. And before you know it, you’re masturbating another man’s penis, and then sucking it, and he’s doing it to you, and you love it. Not enough to lose your marriage, but enough to keep doing it. Probably your wife is not receptive to an open lifestyle. Maybe you raised the idea, and she shot it down. Maybe you knew better than to even try. You think about men’s asses, and possibly trying anal, top and bottom.

And at some point, you realize that playing with dicks is just a part of what makes you happy in bed. You cover it up and never, ever, let it show in your real life, but it’s in your head constantly, and you indulge when you can.

WOW - SPOT ON. Not exactly my story but enough similarity for sure. We want sex. Sex comes in so many forms and what turns you on constantly changes. Im just so so so happy now that it is widely available and relatively safe. Its made life so much better!

 

[fitandfresh]

I think being older and reading and understanding more you are will to explore and try different things! When you were young it was taboo and weird to do or think about

Know that feeling.....had an opportunity to try it with a frien......many many years ago but when he was touching me up I pretended to be dozing.......never had an chance again but now the older I have got the more curious I have become

 

[Jaime1493]

Yes. When the wife goes through the change, sex from her often stops. Guys are still horny and either had past bi experiences, or start thinking about them. In my case I have been bi since I was 15, but I never cheated with women when I am married. Now the sex stopped ten years or more ago, I am again thinking about bi.

 

[Rayjay507]

This is how i became curious!

So yes I think of sucking cock constantly. It started several years ago. When we’re having sex. She starts the same every time. While I’m eating her cunt she tells me a guy is beating his huge cock beside us. Then he gets closer and starts to rub his dick on me. She tells him to rub it on my face. By this time I’m shaking like I’m in another dimension. She then tells him to rub his huge cock on my lips cause I won’t be able to resist sticking my tongue out. And now he’s penetrated my lips and she coaxing me to suck him off. She says suck him. He wants to empty his balls in your throat. Which he always does and it is so satisfying. That’s when she actually cums and I begin to stroke my own cock while she tells me about another guy who wants to fuck my ass. She sucks my nipples and tells me how he’s fucking my ass hard and fast. Then she tells me to cum all over her so I can lick it off like a good cocksucker. She always tells me now “You’re ready for a Real Cock aren’t you!” My answer can only be “Yes honey, I am ready for that Real Cock, Make it happen please!” It’s wild. I went along with this at first because it got her so hot and crazy. But now I’m more than curious. I crave cock. I eat my own cum every chance I get. I love it. Sometimes I throw my legs over my head and cum in my face and mouth. I love it. When I go to bed at night, I pull my cock and balls from my underwear and play with them, thinking of sucking a cock. I think of someone texting me saying “Meet me in my garage now I need a blowjob!” Yes I think of sucking dick constantly. Can anyone else relate? Would love to hear from you. Please.

 

[mrmiwon]

I wonder if I would have an interest in cock if I didn't have an mutual jerkoff when I was younger that has stayed with me all these years. It's natural for men like me to move more toward cock in a situation like mine when the wife has completely closed up shop because it's a strong feeling from when we were younger, but would it be the same for me without that experience? Obviously, I'll never know because I've had this hot memory for decades. It does bring to mind that probably any early and hot sexual memory will become prominent when the missus says, "TFS, I'm done." I imagine there's a lot of that.

 

[Pines]

I wonder if I would have an interest in cock if I didn't have an mutual jerkoff when I was younger that has stayed with me all these years. It's natural for men like me to move more toward cock in a situation like mine when the wife has completely closed up shop because it's a strong feeling from when we were younger, but would it be the same for me without that experience? Obviously, I'll never know because I've had this hot memory for decades. It does bring to mind that probably any early and hot sexual memory will become prominent when the missus says, "TFS, I'm done." I imagine there's a lot of that.

I think your early experience is the same as alot of alot of us. I also had a JO buddy in my teens that has provided many hot memories.

 

[vrsan1953]

Cum

I just had a huge mouthful of yummy cum...I have been bi for 40 yrs...I love sucking cock

 

[freakyandthensome]

why older men becum bi...

I just had a huge mouthful of yummy cum...I have been bi for 40 yrs...I love sucking cock

i think its a few factors- as a man reaches mid-40's i think they get more estrogen hormones which develop man-boobs in a sense a new developed erogenous zone where the nipple and breast touch leads to arousal this was dormant before but now its alerting sending sensations to the penis and even the anus.
then you factor wife isn't keeping herself up and man spends more and more time with internet porn- eventually last stop at gay porn. Then the whole homophobia thing dies down as the man accepts this new found sexuality man realizes can get off without becoming enslaved by the manipulative bitch..

 

[bhurry]

i think its a few factors- as a man reaches mid-40's i think they get more estrogen hormones which develop man-boobs in a sense a new developed erogenous zone where the nipple and breast touch leads to arousal this was dormant before but now its alerting sending sensations to the penis and even the anus.
then you factor wife isn't keeping herself up and man spends more and more time with internet porn- eventually last stop at gay porn. Then the whole homophobia thing dies down as the man accepts this new found sexuality man realizes can get off without becoming enslaved by the manipulative bitch..

right. Even though i am no longer in that boat so to speak i still find it much easier and yes you could say exciting to have that man friend.
Always interested in hearing from anyone than might care to share any thoughts on the matter.

 

[lithos43]

I'm retired, married, and I've never been attracted to men. But hard cocks are something else, esp. if they're attached to a shemale (silly term). A good looking "woman" wearing sexy lingerie with a hard cock makes my mouth water. Google Samantha Nylons if you want to see what I'm talking about. She's gorgeous in every way.

 

[Escierto]

I'm retired, married, and I've never been attracted to men. But hard cocks are something else, esp. if they're attached to a shemale (silly term). A good looking "woman" wearing sexy lingerie with a hard cock makes my mouth water. Google Samantha Nylons if you want to see what I'm talking about. She's gorgeous in every way.

I know what you are talking about. I have never looked at a man but I am cock crazy for a woman with a cock.

 

[ShagTimes]

 

[carln3346]

mmm such an erotic and sexy picture

 

[littlesquirt]

something about this just turns me on.

 

[nassauguy_2001]

I need this so bad!!!

 

[ShagTimes]

 

[BrokenQuill]

I'm not sure if earlier experiences 'contributed' to my acceptance of my bisexuality, or if they were just natural steps along my journey. All I can tell is that I have had a few experiences when I was much younger with guys, but I was predominately attracted to women beck then. Now I am in my fifties and I am happy to broadcast that I have equal attraction to women and men.

Perhaps it is because the core biological need to reproduce has been accomplish and therefore sex is a purely recreational activity.

Or perhaps it is an acceptance that I have really deep down, always been attracted to both sexes, but as I have aged it has become less of a stigma with my peers.

 

[AlexanderBly]

I am a 64 y/o mwm and, over the last few years, I have become more and more bi-curious. In email exchanges with other men around my age, I have found that well over half of them are experiencing the same thinh. Is this a common phenomenon?

I'm your age and about 10 years ago, went through a phase of bisexuality, mostly in adult theaters. I was recently divorced, and was really depressed about all of it. So one day, I happened to be passing by one of those xxx theaters with the DVD's and toys in the front, and theater in the back, and decided to go in. I paid the 7 dollar entry fee and walked in to a very dark room filled with seats and a large screed playing porn. I took a seat in the back and within a few minutes, men started sitting closer to me. Eventually, their hands rubbing my legs, their hard cocks were out in full view of everyone, and the next thing i knew, i was getting the blowjob of my life! I was literally being ravaged. It was an incredibly exciting experience that made me cum three times over the course of a couple hours play. I started to frequent the place, but ran into someone from the theater at my neighborhood grocery store and it literally redefined awkward. I stopped cold, but the memories will always be with me.

 

[Tubeluver]

As for me, I had a couple of close oral encounters as a youth, they weren't totally bad, but not great. It got me to thinking that it really wasn't as bad as everyone thought or said. I had the urge to try, but I kept on the straight path. Now that I'm 67, I have a pretty good case of ED, my wife really doesn't want to do anything, and she sure won't give me blowjobs so if I watch gay porn or lesbian porn, I can get hard about 80%, enough to masturbate. I do this about 2-3 times a week, and cum in my hand and eat it. At this point in my life, I would love to have a friend that would be a jack/suck bud, but everyone I know are strictly straight. So it will always be a dream for me.

 

[peter49parker]

As for me, I had a couple of close oral encounters as a youth, they weren't totally bad, but not great. It got me to thinking that it really wasn't as bad as everyone thought or said. I had the urge to try, but I kept on the straight path. Now that I'm 67, I have a pretty good case of ED, my wife really doesn't want to do anything, and she sure won't give me blowjobs so if I watch gay porn or lesbian porn, I can get hard about 80%, enough to masturbate. I do this about 2-3 times a week, and cum in my hand and eat it. At this point in my life, I would love to have a friend that would be a jack/suck bud, but everyone I know are strictly straight. So it will always be a dream for me.

You are not alone. I was 65 when I sucked my first cock and figured that I must have been the oldest 'first time' cock sucker ever. Judging from the number of guys that I have spoken to since then, I am not alone either. There are a lot of older first time cock suckers.

As far as your thoughts about everyone you know being 'strictly straight,' I wouldn't bet on that. I used to think that way myself, until I chatted with a guy online one day last year. We decided to meet, and guess what? We actually used to work together. Oh yah, he is an excellent cock sucker too.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

Perhaps we hear the clock ticking and want new experiences. Life is short.

 

[peter49parker]

Perhaps we hear the clock ticking and want new experiences. Life is short.

Tick ... Tock ... Suck a cock. The time is NOW!

 

[sht4brains]

i think its a few factors- as a man reaches mid-40's i think they get more estrogen hormones which develop man-boobs in a sense a new developed erogenous zone where the nipple and breast touch leads to arousal this was dormant before but now its alerting sending sensations to the penis and even the anus.
then you factor wife isn't keeping herself up and man spends more and more time with internet porn- eventually last stop at gay porn. Then the whole homophobia thing dies down as the man accepts this new found sexuality man realizes can get off without becoming enslaved by the manipulative bitch..

Preach my brother!!!

 

[MrAngel]

Oh my this was so true when I started playing with men. I came across an older stud and he kindly guided me through this, and now thanks to him I’m pretty good at it!

 

[SRE418]

I know what you are talking about. I have never looked at a man but I am cock crazy for a woman with a cock.

Absolutely to be in the presence of an attractive TS waving her cock in my face what else can you do but go down... Now I'm addicted. Now I'd like to try a well hung guy...