Am I gay?

[the_apocalypse]

For a long time now I have wanted to taste and feel cock, whether shemale or male, and wondered does this make me gay as I have always been with women?

 

[KawaiiChibiLust]

Well it may be curiosity! But if you are feeling that men are more pleasing and loving to be with. Then maybe you are. There is nothing wrong with it. Love it love~ And besides. Everyone gets bi-curious sometimes.

 

[dirtyduo]

You said you have always been with women, but have you always liked to be with women? I think that is key here. You are what you are and if you try to be with a man and you enjoy it, go for it.

 

[SexyLitForAll]

For a long time now I have wanted to taste and feel cock, whether shemale or male, and wondered does this make me gay as I have always been with women?

Being curious is quite natural. It doesn't mean you are "100% gay" (that is, attracted to men only). In fact, most folks have differing degrees of attraction to the same vs. opposite sex. Some revel in it, some simply live with it, and some attempt to repress it.

 

[the_apocalypse]

Thank you everyone for your input and now I know what I have to do

 

[Mortuis]

I'm in much the same position. All my experience is with women (unless a single cyber-session with a man counts as experience), but the idea of being with a guy is attractive. Hell, I've written stories with male/male sex and been told that my readers - some of whom are bi guys - find it hard to believe that my experience is nil.

Would I give it a whirl in RL? Probably. It would have to be someone discreet, someone I considered a friend, not just an anonymous fuck - and that implies that we'd have discussed it, plus a lot of other things, prior to it becoming a reality. But that's the way it works with me and women, too... first friendship, then flirtation, then - somewhere down the road - the real thing.

 

[the_apocalypse]

I would need it to be an anonymous fuck just in case i couldnt do it again. all i know is i cant wait for the taste and feel of a cock in my mouth and ass even if it is a one off. just the thought of it and writing this is making me hard

 

[jim69jim]

I'm in much the same position. All my experience is with women (unless a single cyber-session with a man counts as experience), but the idea of being with a guy is attractive. Hell, I've written stories with male/male sex and been told that my readers - some of whom are bi guys - find it hard to believe that my experience is nil.

Would I give it a whirl in RL? Probably. It would have to be someone discreet, someone I considered a friend, not just an anonymous fuck - and that implies that we'd have discussed it, plus a lot of other things, prior to it becoming a reality. But that's the way it works with me and women, too... first friendship, then flirtation, then - somewhere down the road - the real thing.

This would be the "ideal" situation.

 

[Experiencedguy]

At this stage, you are curious. Go for it. If you don't enjoy it, then you are straight. If you continue with both men and women, then you are bi. (Thank God for people like me). If you hardly ever or never fuck women again then you are gay.

As far as anonymous sex the first time -- if you are going to be safe, you are going to miss out on half the fun. Think about it.

As far as TS's in England, I don't know of any -- but you can sure find them in Berlin!!

Good luck, and let us know!!

 

[the_apocalypse]

i will let you know you can guarantee that

 

[Stella_Omega]

At the moment you are bi-curious.

Eventually, you might have your curiosity slaked, and then you will know a little bit better where you fall on the kinsey scale.

There is a little more to being gay than a craving for cock. If you are truly gay, then having sex with women will not be pleasant for you.

 

[the_apocalypse]

That is the trouble i do enjoy sex with a woman because that is all i have known. maybe the feelings i get from sex are not my true feelings and i only believe it is pleasurable as it is all i have known and been brought up to believe

 

[Stella_Omega]

That is the trouble i do enjoy sex with a woman because that is all i have known. maybe the feelings i get from sex are not my true feelings and i only believe it is pleasurable as it is all i have known and been brought up to believe

Maybe one taste of cock will turn all the pleasure you've ever felt into disgust and vomit.

But somehow I doubt it.

I know gay men who were brought up the same way you were, but their gayness trumped their upbringing. They would have committed suicide if they had been forced to live straight. That might have been true for me, a dyke. The knowledge that we are not the same permeates everything, it's not just sex.

You are wondering, not desperate.

 

[Chrissi]

For a long time now I have wanted to taste and feel cock, whether shemale or male, and wondered does this make me gay as I have always been with women?

No, it "makes" you curious about feeling another's man's cock, and possibly open to experimenting, but certainly not gay.

Being gay is not necessarily a sexual thing, it is in part an emotional, physical as well as sexual attraction to other men exclusively. What you indicate is but one very small aspect of what some gay men do.

Are you in fact gay? You could be, but based on what you say, most likely no? Only you can answer that question.

 

[Chrissi]

I would need it to be an anonymous fuck just in case i couldnt do it again. all i know is i cant wait for the taste and feel of a cock in my mouth and ass even if it is a one off. just the thought of it and writing this is making me hard

That is the trouble i do enjoy sex with a woman because that is all i have known. maybe the feelings i get from sex are not my true feelings and i only believe it is pleasurable as it is all i have known and been brought up to believe

As I read the rest of your posts, let me offer you some perspective from my point of view (as a gay man):

Like you I do so much enjoy sex, and like you the thought of it gets me going. What a wonderful thing our brains are (they are our biggest and most active sex organs.)

However, very much unlike you, I knew before I had sex my first time (all so many, many years ago) that it would be wonderful and that I would love it. Yes my first time was with a man, and no it wasn't accidental, or influenced by substances. I grew up in a very strict, Catholic household (and with all the baggage that goes along with that about homosexuality), but yet, I knew, without a doubt, that sex with a man was the only possibility for me.

Additionally, also very much unlike you, I have never wanted or fantasized about sexual relations with a woman. I can relate my one time with a friend who is a girl and who knew/knows I am gay, and wanted me to "experience a woman." Let's just say, that while it wasn't repulsive, it was very awkward for me. True, it was pleasant, but just pleasant in the sense that two people are close to each other and touching would experience. I have no desire to ever experience that again.

My earliest memories of sexual fantasies, and thinking about sex, even when young and first starting to have those thoughts, were always and exclusively about men, or man parts, or romantic situations with other men.

Most gay men, "know" they are gay. There doesn't seem to be much question. There may be repression, but deep down, there is not a lot of doubt. (The repression often caused by family/community/societal norms and expectations)

As I say: If I had a choice, I would choose to be gay.

HTH
Topher

 

[Palfrays_Ghost]

You are an explorer, go ahead and explore.

 

[4soysauce2]

Best of luck...PM sent

 

[the_apocalypse]

Thanks everyone for giving me advice and guidance. I could always use a lot more though