When you think of trans girls

[Escierto]

I only want to take that path if I can find a guy interested

So you would transition to being a woman full time if there was a guy in the equation?

 

[Flanast]

So you would transition to being a woman full time if there was a guy in the equation?

Yes absolutely

 

[stickygirl]

I identify as a bi man that likes to dress femm, particularly when I’m with other men sexually. No really sure about all the terms used in the lgbt+ community but if I were to take HRT therapy, developed breasts and presented myself as a woman everyday I might feel differently. I’m not there so don’t know.

This isn't a challenge, Flanast - you just prompted a thought. ( I've an unfortunate knack for jumping in with size twelve boots )

I've always cautioned people who are simply questioning their sense of gender as the first step to transitioning. It can be, just like cross-dressing can act like a sticky-plaster to expressing ones true sense of self. Transitioning and then making medical decisions needs to be made from a much deeper sense of unease, hence the term dysphoria.

In the past there was a diagnostic measure of insistent, persistent and consistent , particularly with youngsters who might not have the language skills or maturity to describe themselves. I don't know if it's still a guide to counsellors because in the UK at least, professional help for trans kid has been shot to hell by recent legislations.

I've especially caution people who saw transitioning as a sexual expression. Our days are not actually filled with having sex: we have to go buy food, catch the bus, get a job, go hiking or... yes, even take a pee! When you transition those are the things foremost in your mind 24/7 - not blowing off a dude at a truck stop or wearing cute underwear. A side effect of hormone therapy is that your previously raging male horniness evaporates like the morning mist. You might end up regretting your lack of sexual drive and baffled by suddenly bursting into tears if you burn the toast.

You transition your whole world and, if you get it right, it's wonderful. The biggest Thank God of my life by far.

 

[Wag_that_tail86]

This isn't a challenge, Flanast - you just prompted a thought. ( I've an unfortunate knack for jumping in with size twelve boots )

I've always cautioned people who are simply questioning their sense of gender as the first step to transitioning. It can be, just like cross-dressing can act like a sticky-plaster to expressing ones true sense of self. Transitioning and then making medical decisions needs to be made from a much deeper sense of unease, hence the term dysphoria.

In the past there was a diagnostic measure of insistent, persistent and consistent , particularly with youngsters who might not have the language skills or maturity to describe themselves. I don't know if it's still a guide to counsellors because in the UK at least, professional help for trans kid has been shot to hell by recent legislations.

I've especially caution people who saw transitioning as a sexual expression. Our days are not actually filled with having sex: we have to go buy food, catch the bus, get a job, go hiking or... yes, even take a pee! When you transition those are the things foremost in your mind 24/7 - not blowing off a dude at a truck stop or wearing cute underwear. A side effect of hormone therapy is that your previously raging male horniness evaporates like the morning mist. You might end up regretting your lack of sexual drive and baffled by suddenly bursting into tears if you burn the toast.

You transition your whole world and, if you get it right, it's wonderful. The biggest Thank God of my life by far.

Thanks for stating it plainly, trans people are everyday people, and like the rest of society just want to be treated with respect and be allowed to live their lives. We all want that, we want to be ourselves...and yes it's okay to weep over burned toast.

 

[Flanast]

This isn't a challenge, Flanast - you just prompted a thought. ( I've an unfortunate knack for jumping in with size twelve boots )

I've always cautioned people who are simply questioning their sense of gender as the first step to transitioning. It can be, just like cross-dressing can act like a sticky-plaster to expressing ones true sense of self. Transitioning and then making medical decisions needs to be made from a much deeper sense of unease, hence the term dysphoria.

In the past there was a diagnostic measure of insistent, persistent and consistent , particularly with youngsters who might not have the language skills or maturity to describe themselves. I don't know if it's still a guide to counsellors because in the UK at least, professional help for trans kid has been shot to hell by recent legislations.

I've especially caution people who saw transitioning as a sexual expression. Our days are not actually filled with having sex: we have to go buy food, catch the bus, get a job, go hiking or... yes, even take a pee! When you transition those are the things foremost in your mind 24/7 - not blowing off a dude at a truck stop or wearing cute underwear. A side effect of hormone therapy is that your previously raging male horniness evaporates like the morning mist. You might end up regretting your lack of sexual drive and baffled by suddenly bursting into tears if you burn the toast.

You transition your whole world and, if you get it right, it's wonderful. The biggest Thank God of my life by far.

Thanks Stickygirl; very much appreciated. I’ve done enough research to know what you say is accurate and it very much concerns me that I would lose my sex drive or ability to get an erection. I think a functioning cock is very much something I would like to retain notwithstanding other female features. I’m no where near being close to beginning HRT. But if the chance appears I will definitely do further research. I might just decide to transition without any drugs. I’ve heard about other that have gone this route.

 

[Escierto]

I might just decide to transition without any drugs. I’ve heard about other that have gone this route.

My girlfriend has gone that route and she is as feminine as possible. Aside from breast implants, she has done nothing else to enhance her appearance. You may have seen her photos which I have posted often to the delight of some and the annoyance of others.

 

[Flanast]

My girlfriend has gone that route and she is as feminine as possible. Aside from breast implants, she has done nothing else to enhance her appearance. You may have seen her photos which I have posted often to the delight of some and the annoyance of others.

Yes indeed, your GF was one of the girls I had in mind. Although I could never match her beauty.

 

[Escierto]

Yes indeed, your GF was one of the girls I had in mind. Although I could never match her beauty.

Thank you. Never say never!

 

[stickygirl]

Thanks for stating it plainly, trans people are everyday people, and like the rest of society just want to be treated with respect and be allowed to live their lives. We all want that, we want to be ourselves...and yes it's okay to weep over burned toast.

I've girled up over the whole burnt toast thing, but, when your body/brain is still adapting to a new hormone soup, one's emotions are all over the place.
tbh because I transitioned so long ago, I find it tricky to remember some aspects of my boy-life.

 

[LillyLightfoot]

My girlfriend has gone that route and she is as feminine as possible. Aside from breast implants, she has done nothing else to enhance her appearance. You may have seen her photos which I have posted often to the delight of some and the annoyance of others.

Not a question, just thinking out loud, Why would anyone be annoyed? Why does anyone care about things that don't
directly affect them?

 

[SherlockianMan]

Maybe I'm just a simple person, but I think of people however they want to be thought of. If you identify as a woman, cool. If you identify as a trans woman? I'm here for you. If you like femboy, I like femboy. I don't understand why it's hard for people to accept this. Maybe I'm biased because I work in a field that is very LQBTQ+ friendly and I'm the uncle of a trans niece. I don't know, just let people be who they are and don't be an asshat. It's that simple.

 

[Escierto]

Maybe I'm just a simple person, but I think of people however they want to be thought of. If you identify as a woman, cool. If you identify as a trans woman? I'm here for you. If you like femboy, I like femboy. I don't understand why it's hard for people to accept this. Maybe I'm biased because I work in a field that is very LQBTQ+ friendly and I'm the uncle of a trans niece. I don't know, just let people be who they are and don't be an asshat. It's that simple.

Yes, I agree. I really don't understand why it has to be so difficult to just accept people on their own terms. Isn't that what any of us want?

 

[Ciceri]

I definitely knew I was a female in a boy's body. I wish my parents were open to the idea of letting me dress the way I felt suited my personality. I would have transitioned before adulthood given a choice

 

[stickygirl]

Re-reading these posts put in mind of autogynephilia - a term coined by a 1980s academic, Blanchard, who wrote a number of papers trying to catalogue transgender women ( whilst ignoring both trans men and the sexuality of cis gender women ). I hope @haurni won't mind me quoting his post and the discussion that followed - I think it's pertinent here and if nothing else proves little has changed since 2013!