Why do older men become bi-curious?
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badonkadoku
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Are we gradually conditioning ourselves to being bi? And/or is it an 'any port in a storm' situation?
We still, I bet most of us, aren't romantically attracted to men -- just cock lust, am I right?
Yes and no. I’m not romantically attracted to men (so far) but it’s definitely more than “any port in a storm”… I am absolutely *sexually* attracted to men…
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I’m in my 50s and I’ve always had a desire to suck a cock with an older man
Probably because when I was 23 I had the same desire, but chickened out
Went to his house and played with each other but I got too nervous and said I had to think about it
That’s never changed
Always thought one day I will get divorced which has happened, but now I have a girlfriend and my desire has even stronger
Kind of stuck in between a rock and a hard place literally but I’d rather be stuck between a rock and a hard on
That’s not going away it’s just getting stronger and stronger and stronger
Like most, the only attraction is to a big hard on and being submissive
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I hope you find your man. You sound fun.
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That's how I feel.
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Definitely not romantically attracted to men. It is the cock (and to a lesser extent their asshole) that interests me. The thought of kissing another man turns me off completely
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I have to admit, as much as the thought of kissing another man also turns me off, it would still be preferable to oral/anal contact! AbsoFUCKINGlutely NOT!
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One follows the other.
It’s very much the same for me, but I my wife and I still have sex, occasionally while I am wearing a pair of her panties, pulled aside.
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Q: Why do older men become bi-curious?
A: Because they want to double their chances of rejection.
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wish I could put both laughing and sad reaction!
I had been bi curious probably my whole life. When I would go to arcades I would find the booth playing a gay super 8 loop (yes that long ago) and it was so "naughty" to watch men sucking and fucking men. It was not until my 40's and I was divorced that I finally acted on my urges and met up with men. First time I gave a blow job it was so exciting, and the the first time a man kissed me, well let me tell you I loved it. My sex life now with my wife is good, we give each other screaming orgasms but I also enjoyed my secret time with other men getting what was impossible at home.
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Mmmmmmm! I love a naughty boy!
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Why puzzle our minds with asking profound questions?
Why ask about motivations when we could simply be enjoying the fact that they not only become bi-curious, but that they explore those urges to suck cock and to have their cocks sucked?
Just accept it, and enjoy it...
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We need to normalize the discussion topic (not to mention the awakening) so that more men will realize we're (inclusive of them) not freaks, and that maybe more of us will have the opportunity to suck or be sucked thereby!
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The perfect solution...
Any answer that eases sexual tension and lowers the threshold of frustrated feelings of isolation are for the good.
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I don't really ponder it. It is what it is.
Also, the steady dropping of Testosterone contributes to making Bi sex more acceptable
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For me the extremism coming from so many sides including the alphabet group has really got me in a lock down mode.
I just want to go live in the woods somewhere until civilization normalizes.
Every discussion ends up cringe worthy
I just want to go live in the woods somewhere until civilization normalizes.
Every discussion ends up cringe worthy
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I am 75 mwm that has experienced the same thing. The common link must be that our wives are no longer interested but men still want their cock played with.
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I have turned 70 in 2020 and due to not having a woman and I too thought about sucking a cock.
I think it will be different in the future. I think guys who grew up in the 70s and into the 80s, like me were raised in a way that is different from now. Even though my first sex partner was a male, by my teens, being gay was not cool. Anyone who was gay, or could have been gay was talked about or ridiculed. So guys my age were never going to take a chance to be known as gay or bi.
When you get into your 40s and up you start realizing that sex is good. And there is lots of fun to be had. And also, frankly, guys are easier and less complicated that women. If you are a married man and you get involved with a woman they may make
Trouble. Guys on the other hand are fine with NSA sex and so it is just easier.
Younger people, didn’t have that same repressed societal attitude towards gay sex.
Just my thoughts.
When you get into your 40s and up you start realizing that sex is good. And there is lots of fun to be had. And also, frankly, guys are easier and less complicated that women. If you are a married man and you get involved with a woman they may make
Trouble. Guys on the other hand are fine with NSA sex and so it is just easier.
Younger people, didn’t have that same repressed societal attitude towards gay sex.
Just my thoughts.
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