eroticspank
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Hi .. I know that I am very plain vanilla. I hope that the ladies will help me
understand ...
With all of the terrible experiences that woman had in the past that are only
now coming out because of the Me Too movement ... the women were abused,
touched against their will, raped ... yet there are many comments here about
how women fantasize and role play be having that done to them ... being
slapped or spanked, hair being pulled, forced to suck cocks, being choked
or gagged by them, forced to take cock ...
Yes i know it is all role play ... but ... please help me to understand how this
is so different from the abuse that so many women have had to undergo in
the past.I can understand the sexual pleasure of being controlled and by doing
what you are told ... i just don't understand how violence, physical abuse, or
rape play can bring pleasure to you.
I could never do that to anyone, male or female, even in role play.
Please help me.
Thank You
Sam
I would say it is hard to explain what is in our heads. One man's (or woman's) fantasy is another person's nightmare. If you look on lit here for Reluctance/Non consent stories you will find some very good ones that may fit your own fantasies and turn you on...or at least you may read some that are erotic to you and will help you see the turn on to being "forced" in the bedroom.
There are so many different scenarios that it is hard to point at any particular one. However, here is one example:
I am a man but I have been told that most women in general liked to be desired physically. Sure they like to be desired on all levels, mental, physical, emotional, but in this case I am just talking about the physical. How about a man who is attractive that lusts after a woman SO MUCH he can't control himself, he just has to have her and turns into a grunting, animalistic caveman? To be taken so rough, with such urgency, and ravenous behavior is a BIG turn on for some. The man gets to such a fever pitch of lust that the eventual release causes a transfer of a lot of energy into the woman, not just cum. There can be even an emotional release by the man and ALL of this is easily felt and taken in by the woman. For some women, just letting this scene play out results in a feel good emotional reaction of their own and that is not counting any positive physical reactions like being turned on or even orgasm.
It is all about what we say in our heads. In this scenario above it could be the woman tells herself that maybe she is sexy and it builds her confidence. She craves more of that type of adoration and seeks out those type of scenes. But that is just one example of what may be said in her head.
A fantasy typically is a story already played out in your head. You know the beginning, middle, and the end. You have control and there is no chance of anything going wrong. That is safe. When people role play they have already sat down, talked about fantasies, discussed limits, and coordinated rules. The Dom/Domme or role play partner takes the sub on a journey that will touch all of her/his fantasies while still going into uncharted but safe waters. If the sub feels safe, then the sub can truly let go. This can be very liberating. This is another big turn on to non consent role play, giving up control to someone else.
That is my 2 cents.
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