What Is Actually The Level Of Inhibition that Defines Weird?

[Stormgod59]

Okay. So, though I look the part, I know I'm not what is depicted as the stereotypical black alpha male. In fact, in my head I'm not male at all. But that's not what I want to discuss. I only say it to give you perspective. Here's the thing, what other people seem to think is taboo, perverse or obscene is baffling to me. I do not seem to possess the inhibitions many people tend to express. While I think taking advantage of minors is abhorrent, that is a crime so it need not be discussed here. What I'm referring to is consensual actions between persons capable of self determination. For instance, I don't like beastiality, painplay, or scatplay. However, despite my not liking them, I do not find those things obscene and I do not feel I have any right to restrict others from finding pleasure in those things just because they are not for me. On the other hand, my sexual cravings are definitely not mainstream. In my head is a submissive black girl who loves girls and raceplay. Having been born male I know I am considered cuckold material. If I had my dream sexual relationship I would be married to a gorgeous bisexual black woman who possessed an unquenchable craving for white cock. When I look at interracial porn I never see black men in the scene (even if there are black men in the scene). In my head I seem to always change things around so that I am envisioning white men fucking black women, white men fucking Asian women, white men fucking Spanish women, or white men fucking white women. And in every case I find myself conflicted as to whether I want to be the girl and bury my face between their legs to lick them while they fuck or do I want to be the girl getting fucked. I imagine eating a creampie from porn stars like Alexis Tae, Scarlit Scandal, Ana Foxxx, Lulu Chu, Ember Snow, Kacy Lane, Lilly Ford, Charity Crawford, and Alina Lopez, to name a few. At this very moment my mouth is watering at the thought. Incest, watersports, anal sex, gangbangs, etc... All of it is hot to me. So, what I'm asking is: What is the limit of sexuality that is acceptable when I have very few inhibitions?

 

[HottieOlwen]

Okay. So, though I look the part, I know I'm not what is depicted as the stereotypical black alpha male. In fact, in my head I'm not male at all. But that's not what I want to discuss. I only say it to give you perspective. Here's the thing, what other people seem to think is taboo, perverse or obscene is baffling to me. I do not seem to possess the inhibitions many people tend to express. While I think taking advantage of minors is abhorrent, that is a crime so it need not be discussed here. What I'm referring to is consensual actions between persons capable of self determination. For instance, I don't like beastiality, painplay, or scatplay. However, despite my not liking them, I do not find those things obscene and I do not feel I have any right to restrict others from finding pleasure in those things just because they are not for me. On the other hand, my sexual cravings are definitely not mainstream. In my head is a submissive black girl who loves girls and raceplay. Having been born male I know I am considered cuckold material. If I had my dream sexual relationship I would be married to a gorgeous bisexual black woman who possessed an unquenchable craving for white cock. When I look at interracial porn I never see black men in the scene (even if there are black men in the scene). In my head I seem to always change things around so that I am envisioning white men fucking black women, white men fucking Asian women, white men fucking Spanish women, or white men fucking white women. And in every case I find myself conflicted as to whether I want to be the girl and bury my face between their legs to lick them while they fuck or do I want to be the girl getting fucked. I imagine eating a creampie from porn stars like Alexis Tae, Scarlit Scandal, Ana Foxxx, Lulu Chu, Ember Snow, Kacy Lane, Lilly Ford, Charity Crawford, and Alina Lopez, to name a few. At this very moment my mouth is watering at the thought. Incest, watersports, anal sex, gangbangs, etc... All of it is hot to me. So, what I'm asking is: What is the limit of sexuality that is acceptable when I have very few inhibitions?

As far as I am concerned, two things HAVE to apply in any sexual activity: 1. It must be legal. 2. It must be consensual. Once these two rules have been satisfied, anything goes. I remember a proverb from my schooldays. "One man's (sic) meat is another man's poison." In other words, what turns me on might disgust you, and vice versa. But that doesn't make either of us wrong. I'd refer you to another very wise statement, made ages ago by Voltaire, I believe. "I fundamentally disagree with your opinion, but I will fight to the death for your right to hold such a view."

 

[Stormgod59]

As far as I am concerned, two things HAVE to apply in any sexual activity: 1. It must be legal. 2. It must be consensual. Once these two rules have been satisfied, anything goes. I remember a proverb from my schooldays. "One man's (sic) meat is another man's poison." In other words, what turns me on might disgust you, and vice versa. But that doesn't make either of us wrong. I'd refer you to another very wise statement, made ages ago by Voltaire, I believe. "I fundamentally disagree with your opinion, but I will fight to the death for your right to hold such a view."

Thank you. And the Voltaire statement; I believe recall it from my studies in historical philosophies - Aspects Of Rhetoric (which also included other past sophists like Aristotle, Plato, Nietzshe, etc.).

 

[LustyScribe]

Such an excellent question, Stormgod59! I am reminded of the statement by Supreme Court Justice Potter Stewart regarding obscenity in 1964: "I shall not today attempt further to define the kinds of material [obscenity] I understand to be embraced...but I know it when I see it ..."
So what IS too far? I think you and HottieOlwen both capture the essential elements of minimal expectations - minimum age & consent - but I would say we also have vastly different senses of "weird." Your particular thoughts are not too divergent from mine in several areas, but as a white male, there are some nuances I obviously can't fully appreciate. You don't have to wander far in these threads, though, to find something that makes you (or me) think, "Uh, NOPE. I am NOT lathering my dick in raspberry jelly & rolling in the ants." (Made you see that, didn't I? LOL)

I think the better questions we should ask ourselves are...Does it really MATTER what anybody else thinks? Whose opinion is so weighty in our lives that we would sacrifice our pleasure, our joy just so we don't "offend" them? And can we look upon someone else in our lives and say, "Hey, so they've got that whole ants/raspberry jam thing, but that's okay, I still value them as a human." I think if we could get on the right side of THOSE questions, I think we could all enjoy our lives & each other a lot more.

Now, where'd I put that raspberry jelly; I have an idea...

 

[Subsy]

Okay. So, though I look the part, I know I'm not what is depicted as the stereotypical black alpha male. In fact, in my head I'm not male at all. But that's not what I want to discuss. I only say it to give you perspective. Here's the thing, what other people seem to think is taboo, perverse or obscene is baffling to me. I do not seem to possess the inhibitions many people tend to express. While I think taking advantage of minors is abhorrent, that is a crime so it need not be discussed here. What I'm referring to is consensual actions between persons capable of self determination. For instance, I don't like beastiality, painplay, or scatplay. However, despite my not liking them, I do not find those things obscene and I do not feel I have any right to restrict others from finding pleasure in those things just because they are not for me. On the other hand, my sexual cravings are definitely not mainstream. In my head is a submissive black girl who loves girls and raceplay. Having been born male I know I am considered cuckold material. If I had my dream sexual relationship I would be married to a gorgeous bisexual black woman who possessed an unquenchable craving for white cock. When I look at interracial porn I never see black men in the scene (even if there are black men in the scene). In my head I seem to always change things around so that I am envisioning white men fucking black women, white men fucking Asian women, white men fucking Spanish women, or white men fucking white women. And in every case I find myself conflicted as to whether I want to be the girl and bury my face between their legs to lick them while they fuck or do I want to be the girl getting fucked. I imagine eating a creampie from porn stars like Alexis Tae, Scarlit Scandal, Ana Foxxx, Lulu Chu, Ember Snow, Kacy Lane, Lilly Ford, Charity Crawford, and Alina Lopez, to name a few. At this very moment my mouth is watering at the thought. Incest, watersports, anal sex, gangbangs, etc... All of it is hot to me. So, what I'm asking is: What is the limit of sexuality that is acceptable when I have very few inhibitions?

I get you. I get the part of you that questions : what is ? As opposed to why not ? I will share my perspective. I hope it helps.
The issue is : bias…….absorbed information/misinformation underlying our perceptions, concepts, self identity, who the “others” are……..and more. Another way to put the questions is to consider our voluntary and involuntary programming. One test or analysis is to proof our bias as helpful or unhelpful. For example : some mushrooms have deadly toxins so powerful that merely handling one can quickly result in death. Other mushrooms are delicious or even magical. The bias, helpful to happiness is : don’t eat or handle any mushroom without knowing its effects.
So Stormgod59…..you and those you meet (people not mushrooms) may have unexamined beliefs or prejudices that cloud perceptions in the world you live in.
There’s so much more to say but I like to think many of us on the fringe are having our own Harry Potter adventure to pierce the vail of bias.

 

[magicalmoments]

It would seem that I missed out on the inhibition gene when it was being handed out. I find very little offensive and my guideline is the law. I don't do illegal stuff and what I do indulge in, has to be consensual. What I can't understand is the attitude displayed by a seemingly increasing number of folk that if they find something offensive then it should be banned, made illegal.This goes for more than just sexual stuff, it goes for all events and activities in the cociety. If you find something offensive then disassociate yourself from it, don't participate. Fair enough to even express your outrage, but then mind your own business and live and let live. The world would be a better place if people would just mind their own business.

 

[NormalMarriedWhiteGuy]

It's funny. I started another thread called "Am I boring?". I have no kinks and can't undstand how people get pleasure form them. But that's just me.

The reason I posed the question is because when I read these boards I find there are just too man wierd or vulgar things for my tastes. Most of the times I laugh at these things cuz, ya know, I find them ridiculous and bizzare. My attitude is that people can pursue any kink or wierdness they want. I have a very open mind and I respect that your individual tasts may be different than mine. So go for it if you want; just leave me out of it.

 

[Erosfan]

What happens between consenting adults is just that, consenting. There are many kinks that I have no desire to try. That said, I love my kinks and truly enjoy playing them out. I have had fun in that respect for many years.
I don't care what others do. You enjoy your thing and I will enjoy mine.