Most women don't climax from penetration alone — and 4 other important facts about female orgasms

[UnpublishedEroticaWriter]

I just thought this was an interesting and important tidbit of information. 'only 18.4% of women could reach orgasm from intercourse alone. Compare that to nearly 37% of women who reported they could reach orgasm during intercourse if clitoral stimulation was involved. An additional 36% said that, even when clitoral stimulation wasn't needed, they had better orgasms when their clitoris was stimulated during intercourse. Women can still enjoy sex without having an orgasm. Many women love the heightened arousal from sex and can still have a wonderful sexual experience without having an orgasm." So you know what that means? Porn has lied to us! But all kidding aside this was a very fascinating story from Yahoo.

 

[RedSilk69]

It’s also the case that men can enjoy sex without having to orgasm. Turn around is fair play.

 

[Inthelastrow]

From my perspective, I am all for women having/needing more stimulation than just intercourse. It gives me endless possibilities to try and satisfy a woman. So much fun, so much enjoyment...for the both of us.

 

[Trubbycat]

I’m reading a book meant for older people but everyone could benefit. The penis in vagina paradigm is just one part of sexual play and if you’re open to other things both partners benefit. For us geezers with erection issues this info can be life saving.

 

[Lady2020]

The only time I ever had a problem cumming from penetration was after I started taking an anti-depressant. I had a choice. I stayed on the AD and worked like hell to cum. A few weeks later I achieved breakthrough. I'm leery when I see reports about how many women cum in different ways and the 4 most important facts about female orgasm.

 

[RandyRebecca]

I heard that it was 30% of women who could orgasm from intercourse alone. I'm in that group. A lot of it is mentality and taking charge of our own orgasms, and doing it in a lustful manner without any guilt complexes. A lot of women can't do that, as they either have guilt of some sort, or expect their partner to make them cum, or think that the lustful stuff is all beneath them or "dirty". Whereas men, I get the impression that even if they feel guilty about sex loads of times in their everyday lives (which is few in number as it is), they will dispense with all that guilt for the minutes when lust grabs them until they've had a good orgasm.

 

[ronde]

I heard that it was 30% of women who could orgasm from intercourse alone. I'm in that group. A lot of it is mentality and taking charge of our own orgasms, and doing it in a lustful manner without any guilt complexes. A lot of women can't do that, as they either have guilt of some sort, or expect their partner to make them cum, or think that the lustful stuff is all beneath them or "dirty". Whereas men, I get the impression that even if they feel guilty about sex loads of times in their everyday lives (which is few in number as it is), they will dispense with all that guilt for the minutes when lust grabs them until they've had a good orgasm.

I don't have enough data for a statistically valid estimate, but I agree with your causes. I once had a woman tell me she couldn't because she was thinking about a whole bunch of things during sex, like would I think she was a great partner and was she doing too much or not enough. I would much rather the woman would just stop thinking about all that and just let herself feel what's happening. Of course, there's also the fact that all women tend to be aroused by different things at different times during sex and if her partner hasn't figured that out and is just using his or her standard playbook, she may not be getting the right buttons pushed at the right time.

 

[UnpublishedEroticaWriter]

Anyone interested in wanting to know more (Because I left a lot of stuff out) can find the article here. https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/facts-about-female-orgasms-213802713.html I think it has a lot of important information for men and women. And knowing is half the battle.

 

[shinybikiniwife]

It's rare without clitoral stimulation for sure, but when it does happen from penetration alone... oh my earth-shattering, world-altering, consciousness-draining goodness!!!!

 

[Mtnmike]

Maybe i'm just odd/old but are the percentages correct? I've personally never slept with a woman that didn't cum from penetration, so I have never thought about it. Don't mind this old man behind the curtain, he's an odd duck.

 

[Filipinawife]

For me what works best is the guy licking me to orgasm first then as soon as I cum fucking me rigerously as I will cum again.

 

[Filipinawife]

Do you usually cum fast the second time?

Yes if he fucks me deep and rigerously

 

[svengali_decL]

I just thought this was an interesting and important tidbit of information. 'only 18.4% of women could reach orgasm from intercourse alone. Compare that to nearly 37% of women who reported they could reach orgasm during intercourse if clitoral stimulation was involved. An additional 36% said that, even when clitoral stimulation wasn't needed, they had better orgasms when their clitoris was stimulated during intercourse. Women can still enjoy sex without having an orgasm. Many women love the heightened arousal from sex and can still have a wonderful sexual experience without having an orgasm." So you know what that means? Porn has lied to us! But all kidding aside this was a very fascinating story from Yahoo.

About 40 plus year old news, Playboy and Penthouse covered it' Masters & Johnson research 50-60s ish??? ...the way Ive always worked, ahh , pleasured ma fem...

 

[stickygirl]

I just thought this was an interesting and important tidbit of information. 'only 18.4% of women could reach orgasm from intercourse alone. Compare that to nearly 37% of women who reported they could reach orgasm during intercourse if clitoral stimulation was involved. An additional 36% said that, even when clitoral stimulation wasn't needed, they had better orgasms when their clitoris was stimulated during intercourse. Women can still enjoy sex without having an orgasm. Many women love the heightened arousal from sex and can still have a wonderful sexual experience without having an orgasm." So you know what that means? Porn has lied to us! But all kidding aside this was a very fascinating story from Yahoo.

Yea, this is not news but every generation has to learn this stuff and may not have unpeeled the pages of a 1960's magazine.

Having spoken to other young women about this, the consensus is 'it depends'. To interpret what I heard, I'd say some women are predisposed either way and the reasons broadly are not genetic, but upbringing. Maybe some suffered abuse in the past or maybe their parents were uptight about sex? Having said that, if you regard certain mental issues as genetic then that may predispose them to have problems with intimacy, touch, environment...

Of those who can orgasm through intercourse only, they'd likely the confident physical women: maybe she's an athlete or a dancer. She is in harmony with her physical side.

However, pretty much all of the 'orgasm women' will say it 'depends' as well. It depends on their own emotional frame or the dynamic of the relationship: it can ebb and flow. If she's horny and up for it, she can come like an express train but the same woman whose mother is ill or who's struggling to pay her bills, can't. It goes without saying that if she's unhappy in the relationship outside the bedroom, it won't be any better inside.

From my perspective, I am all for women having/needing more stimulation than just intercourse. It gives me endless possibilities to try and satisfy a woman. So much fun, so much enjoyment...for the both of us.

Kinda but no. Don't get me wrong - we really really appreciate a man who cares, who goes down on us or who entertains our weird foibles, but don't regard us as a job to be done or hurdle to be leapt. If she gets the idea you're going down on her because it massages your ego and self-worth, then she'll probably fake it to make you happy. Worst bit is that we know when that's happening, but equally we'll let it pass if it's just a temporary thing.

Anyhow, that's my cents worth.

 

[svengali_decL]

/snore... I think I'll go now and relive my exploits... clearly not cut out for academia analytis...

 

[RandyRebecca]

Maybe i'm just odd/old but are the percentages correct? I've personally never slept with a woman that didn't cum from penetration, so I have never thought about it. Don't mind this old man behind the curtain, he's an odd duck.

But did you give her oral first? Most women will orgasm through penetration if they've had good oral beforehand. The 30% figure I mentioned was women who can orgasm through intercourse alone (i.e. no foreplay beyond kissing, and just straight to intercourse). I find easiest to cum through intercourse alone if I get to be on top and control the thrusting, and hardest if he just takes me from behind and gets done quickly.

 

[Mtnmike]

But did you give her oral first? Most women will orgasm through penetration if they've had good oral beforehand. The 30% figure I mentioned was women who can orgasm through intercourse alone (i.e. no foreplay beyond kissing, and just straight to intercourse). I find easiest to cum through intercourse alone if I get to be on top and control the thrusting, and hardest if he just takes me from behind and gets done quickly.

I see, most times I give long oral, usually multiple orgasms, yes. You are correct though in the few times they just had to have it now, it was easier if she was on top, that's not saying they didn't in other positions, just easier. My apologies if I miss understood the quote, as one that has always loved foreplay, didn't occur to me people actually just drive it right in.

 

[creative1772]

For me what works best is the guy licking me to orgasm first then as soon as I cum fucking me rigerously as I will cum again.

my wife is similar... we take it slow and she uses her vibrator until she has her first... then i get the go ahead and take her rough and hard and fast... she usually has another two or three before i finally cum

 

[Rob_Royale]

For me what works best is the guy licking me to orgasm first then as soon as I cum fucking me rigerously as I will cum again.

Same with my wife. She's super sensitive after the first O and goes from moaning to wailing when I penetrate. Intensely satisfying for both of us.

 

[Inthesewalls]

Honestly, I take issue with a few things here. If you google the orgasm gap you can see what im talking about. For context I am a bisexual woman.



First off how are any of you this old amd just now finding this stuff out about your partners? If you cared about them enjoying sex at all youd have a clue that women dont work like they do on porn. I dont mean that to be rude, but can you imagine if your partner didnt know how to give you a blow job and the only way you could cum was that way? Then fifteen to twenty years into the relationship said oh honey I just read a five minute article about your pleasure and then took that as gospel? Pretty sad no?



I also take issue with the women dont need orgasms to enjoy sex. Who doesnt want an orgasm? Im not saying everyone male or female should orgasm every time or will but, if given the choice women like sex and want to cum as much as men do
Ive heard and been with too many men who use this as an excuse to not even try.

Are we really that complicated? In some ways yes. In other ways no. Something like 91 percent of lesbians orgasm most times whilst something like 39 percent of straight women. What would this suggest to you? That women are just too complicated or that their partners are too
focused on their own pleasure Or it doesnt even cross their mind that they could be giving their partner pleasure? Thats really sad.


Im not saying that men are entirely to blame. There are societal issues at play here as well as hormones etc. But women do want to cum (see durex study) but too often largely our pleasure is ignored as not important. We should take what we get.


Personally there have been very few times Ive failed to cum with a woman and more than a few I didnt with men. Im not more attracted to one than the other.Most of my major relationships have been with men.Men either seem to be educated and giving. Or they are the type that wait until mid life to realize women like orgasms but wave it off as too complicated. I cant imagine sleeping with someone and not caring if they cum. One of my partners had a hard time for various reasons and I didnt tell him o well.honey its complicated and ignore their needs.



There should not be that much suprise for you this late in your life. Too many men think of sex as something they do to their partners and not with. Sometimes women need stuff, and this does vary, that isnt centered on your pleasure. Its so sad to me. I had some terrible sex in my early 20s at first because I slept with people who also didnt know anything about womens anatomy or their orgasms. I quickly found those type of men were poor partners in general in other ways too.



When I lucked upon someone who knew what they were doing and took the time to figure out with me what got me there, I was amazed. It makes me sad that other women dont know that kind of pleasure. Sorry OP and those wowed by a yahoo article on womens orgasms, but how do you go this long without knowing this simple stuff while sleeping with women your entire life?

 

[Strixaluco]

Hmm... I'm wondering how much the relationship history and amount of partners affect these results.

With my first ex, difficult to cum at all. With next one, often multiorgasmic, and also cumming from penetration alone. Next long-time partner... Well it varied, but mostly difficult, and the best position was different from the one that was best with the 2nd ex. With my current one again highly multiorgasmic, don't even ask me count. Also at times its happens I won't even come without penetration.

Imagine I had only ever had one partner, even worse if fixated to just one position. How I answered would depend on which of these partners that one happened to be.

The only time I ever had a problem cumming from penetration was after I started taking an anti-depressant. I had a choice. I stayed on the AD and worked like hell to cum. A few weeks later I achieved breakthrough. I'm leery when I see reports about how many women cum in different ways and the 4 most important facts about female orgasm.

You were lucky. I got completely unable to cum due to anti-depressant - and my partner at the time was the one that normally made me multiorgasmic. It was hard to even get aroused at all, never used as much lube as then.

 

[Athalia]

It's not taught though; it seems like (more so now than when I was younger in the 00s) men know less about this and the other parts of making sex pleasurable for women

Particularly ironic, given that now that men have the Internet, there shouldn't be any problem in getting that information. But maybe the problem is too much information, of the wrong sort.

And I have to admit that sometimes it's the women's fault. We aren't clear on what we want, and when we want it. We aren't good at disabusing men of the notion that it's not over until they cum, and that it's all over after they cum. They can be dumb as rocks when it comes to inexperienced sex, and we owe it to them, and to ourselves, to give them accurate information as soon as possible.

 

[RandyRebecca]

Particularly ironic, given that now that men have the Internet, there shouldn't be any problem in getting that information.

Exactly. Before the era of internet porn, I'm sure it would have been harder for men to know where a woman's clit is. There's no such excuse for them now.

 

[Trubbycat]

There’s also this radical new technique called asking your partner what she likes.

 

[Lady2020]

Hmm... I'm wondering how much the relationship history and amount of partners affect these results.

With my first ex, difficult to cum at all. With next one, often multiorgasmic, and also cumming from penetration alone. Next long-time partner... Well it varied, but mostly difficult, and the best position was different from the one that was best with the 2nd ex. With my current one again highly multiorgasmic, don't even ask me count. Also at times its happens I won't even come without penetration.

Imagine I had only ever had one partner, even worse if fixated to just one position. How I answered would depend on which of these partners that one happened to be.


You were lucky. I got completely unable to cum due to anti-depressant - and my partner at the time was the one that normally made me multiorgasmic. It was hard to even get aroused at all, never used as much lube as then.

I did get aroused. It just didn't go anywhere. I felt like a dud. I can laugh about it now. I totally understand why people decide to get off AD'S. My bf at the time was pretty patient. Looking back, I think he thought it was kind of funny. I told him I was not giving up and he knew I meant it. I nailed him repeatedly.