pink_silk_glove
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This topic has a lot to do with non-con stories but certainly not limited to.
I know that for me personally, I cannot enjoy sex unless I'm in a state of comfort. I think that most girls are this way. In fact I think that all women are, just depending to what degree. I know that no matter how attractive a man may be, if he does or says something kinda creepy, it's a turn off. It's the discomfort that turns me off. Intimacy requires some level of trust. This doesn't mean that I need to know you super well, but I at least need to feel some sense of comfort or trust.
I mean, I do understand the 'rape fantasy' even if I don't really share it. It's the idea that no matter how much you say no, they guy still has to have you. It's like the ultimate objectification. Yes, there may be those of you who say "if you're into that, you're sick" but then how many are into fucking their own Mom? I could go around telling the incest crowd how sick they are but I don't. I'm not here to judge kinks. No, personally I don't have a rape fantasy, but you might be surprised at a bit of darkness in the roots of some of my hottest turn-ons, but that's another matter. My point is that I'm not judging people for their kinks.
Where is this leading? Well there are a couple of things, but let's start with pseudo-rape. "I told him no but he forced himself on me. However, then he was such a good lay that I liked it anyway!" As far as I'm concerned it's a fucking lie. It doesn't matter how good the guy is, how attractive, how skilled. If I'm not comfortable with him there is no bloody way in hell that I'm going to enjoy it. It's like being on an Alaskan cruise and being seasick through it all. It doesn't matter how beautiful the glacier scenery is, there's just no way that you can enjoy it. No matter what pleasurable sensations he may be giving my parts, intimacy and pleasure (and orgasms) require an emotional involvement and I just can't have that without some level of comfort and trust. If I say no and then he forces himself on me, there is zero trust. Therefore there is no way that I could enjoy this let alone climax. These stories are just fucking stupid to me. I'm not saying that people who write them or like them are wrong. I just can't possibly believe any of it.
So is this really just a fantasy dream that you want or do you actually think that women's pleasure works this way?
Even more than rape and pseudo-rape stories, there are tons of stories where a guy does his thing and the woman just magically cums at some point. I guess he's just that good. (shrug) The worst is "I'm not cumming until you do!" As if she can just flick the switch for him. Or sometimes you hear "Cum for me, it's okay." As if she needs permission and no one has ever given her that before. (puh-lease!) Do guys really believe that that's how it works? For me, if a guy urges or encourages me to climax, that's a guarantee that I won't climax. Why? Because you're putting me under pressure, which makes me uncomfortable, which makes me enjoy it less. To orgasm, a girl needs to let herself go. In order to let herself go, she needs to be comfortable. You can't be comfortable if you don't trust the situation or if you're put under pressure. For me, an orgasm is hardly purely physical, and I'm sure that for most women this is at least similar.
Now I know that there is also 'cum on command' type of scenes and people do this in real life, but there are also certain women who have learned to control their own orgasms (or at least the timing of them) given enough stimulation (and I would assume comfort), so there is a plausibility in that and that's not what this is about. These stories are a separate thing (unless in all of your stories you magically find one of these girls : P).
There are several myths about the female orgasm that we may or may not end up discussing here but I'd like to focus on this part first.
So my question is first to the girls (because I know that not all women are the same and we all have different turn-ons and such) how much does this resonate with you? I know that some of us climax or cum much easier than others. How much is physical and how much is mental/emotional and is there anything that you require from a guy to get there?
And to the guys, is it really all physical for you? How much of it is emotional? And further for the guys a hypothetical scenario: (assuming you are straight) if you were strapped down and a man began fellating you and you were really turned off, would you still cum? Would you be able to get hard even? Or would the pleasure arise regardless?
I know that for me personally, I cannot enjoy sex unless I'm in a state of comfort. I think that most girls are this way. In fact I think that all women are, just depending to what degree. I know that no matter how attractive a man may be, if he does or says something kinda creepy, it's a turn off. It's the discomfort that turns me off. Intimacy requires some level of trust. This doesn't mean that I need to know you super well, but I at least need to feel some sense of comfort or trust.
I mean, I do understand the 'rape fantasy' even if I don't really share it. It's the idea that no matter how much you say no, they guy still has to have you. It's like the ultimate objectification. Yes, there may be those of you who say "if you're into that, you're sick" but then how many are into fucking their own Mom? I could go around telling the incest crowd how sick they are but I don't. I'm not here to judge kinks. No, personally I don't have a rape fantasy, but you might be surprised at a bit of darkness in the roots of some of my hottest turn-ons, but that's another matter. My point is that I'm not judging people for their kinks.
Where is this leading? Well there are a couple of things, but let's start with pseudo-rape. "I told him no but he forced himself on me. However, then he was such a good lay that I liked it anyway!" As far as I'm concerned it's a fucking lie. It doesn't matter how good the guy is, how attractive, how skilled. If I'm not comfortable with him there is no bloody way in hell that I'm going to enjoy it. It's like being on an Alaskan cruise and being seasick through it all. It doesn't matter how beautiful the glacier scenery is, there's just no way that you can enjoy it. No matter what pleasurable sensations he may be giving my parts, intimacy and pleasure (and orgasms) require an emotional involvement and I just can't have that without some level of comfort and trust. If I say no and then he forces himself on me, there is zero trust. Therefore there is no way that I could enjoy this let alone climax. These stories are just fucking stupid to me. I'm not saying that people who write them or like them are wrong. I just can't possibly believe any of it.
So is this really just a fantasy dream that you want or do you actually think that women's pleasure works this way?
Even more than rape and pseudo-rape stories, there are tons of stories where a guy does his thing and the woman just magically cums at some point. I guess he's just that good. (shrug) The worst is "I'm not cumming until you do!" As if she can just flick the switch for him. Or sometimes you hear "Cum for me, it's okay." As if she needs permission and no one has ever given her that before. (puh-lease!) Do guys really believe that that's how it works? For me, if a guy urges or encourages me to climax, that's a guarantee that I won't climax. Why? Because you're putting me under pressure, which makes me uncomfortable, which makes me enjoy it less. To orgasm, a girl needs to let herself go. In order to let herself go, she needs to be comfortable. You can't be comfortable if you don't trust the situation or if you're put under pressure. For me, an orgasm is hardly purely physical, and I'm sure that for most women this is at least similar.
Now I know that there is also 'cum on command' type of scenes and people do this in real life, but there are also certain women who have learned to control their own orgasms (or at least the timing of them) given enough stimulation (and I would assume comfort), so there is a plausibility in that and that's not what this is about. These stories are a separate thing (unless in all of your stories you magically find one of these girls : P).
There are several myths about the female orgasm that we may or may not end up discussing here but I'd like to focus on this part first.
So my question is first to the girls (because I know that not all women are the same and we all have different turn-ons and such) how much does this resonate with you? I know that some of us climax or cum much easier than others. How much is physical and how much is mental/emotional and is there anything that you require from a guy to get there?
And to the guys, is it really all physical for you? How much of it is emotional? And further for the guys a hypothetical scenario: (assuming you are straight) if you were strapped down and a man began fellating you and you were really turned off, would you still cum? Would you be able to get hard even? Or would the pleasure arise regardless?