How does your erotic sensibility relate to your real world sexuality?

[AG31]

By "erotic sensibility" I mean "that which causes physical arousal, either by the written word or by fantasy." In other words, I don't mean genres that you may be involved with either from curiosity, or the pleasure one gets from a good story, or from exercising your authorial talents. And I don't mean physical activity. I mean stories that work for you, erotically.

There was as similar thread recently entitled something like "If I read all your stories how well would I know you?" I reviewed it and found that I was still curious about this much more narrow focus.

I'll go first.

For me there is virtually no connection. In my whole life I've only had masochistic fantasies with one exception, which I recorded in Stairway to Heaven.
I'm the classic strong woman who gets involved in BDSM scenes. Except I've never gotten into such a scene in my life except in fantasy. I've no desire to either.

There is one way my RW sexuality connects to my erotic sensibility. Since I shifted to a male POV in my fantasies a few years ago, I have a much more vivid appreciation for the naked male form. Muscles. Stiff cocks. More lively surroundings, when I can undress men in my mind on the subway or in church. Thank God for Cialis!

 

[TheRedChamber]

I think the simple answer to the question is...

There's a lot of things in my stories I haven't done. There's not a lot of things in my stories that I wouldn't do.

(I did write an incest story, but I'm going to claim that since the FMC isn't my sister I'm in the clear. Even so, writing it was definitely outside my comfort zone)

 

[Altissimus]

How does your erotic sensibility relate to your real world sexuality?​

If I'm writing hetero sex, pretty much the same. If I'm writing lesbian, some similarities.

 

[TheseLegs]

Erotic fantasy and erotic reality are totally disconnected for me. These Legs are open to almost anything, but my boring torso and stupid timid brain won't go beyond typing it out.

Except that posting stories here is like a lazy sort of exhibitionism, so there's that.

 

[SimonDoom]

There's no easy answer to this, and it depends on what you mean.

Generally speaking, the scope of things I find erotically stimulating is a lot broader than what I've actually done, or probably ever will do, or want to do, in my life.

And, generally speaking, the scope of things I can enjoy in an erotic story is a lot broader than what I find erotic in real life.

For example, things I find genuinely arousing and erotic in real life include certain fetishes, Dominance-submission play, some bondage and sadomasochism, voyeurism and exhibitionism, erotic photography, the female body, some cosplay and role play, and hot wives. The extent of my erotic interest is far greater than my actual life experience. I have no personal experience with "the Lifestyle" but I find it erotically interesting. I also enjoy reading stories about these subjects. I have some experience with erotic photography, E&V, and BDSM, but my stories are projections of fantasies rather then recollections of real things I've done.

Then there are things that I can find erotic in a story, if done right, even though I have neither experience nor any actual erotic interest in them. I love incest stories but have no actual incestuous desires or experiences. I can enjoy gay male, lesbian sex, and transgender stories even though I have no personal erotic interest in the subjects. I think non-con and mind-control stories can be very erotic even though the subject matter generally is creepy and morally objectionable.

 

[madelinemasoch]

This is super hard to explain...

I'm really not interested in anything sexual in real life that involves my own body. Aside from maybe a few things ancillary to the penetrative act.

So, there's a lot of things I've written about that I wouldn't actually do. However, I think my erotic sensibility lines up anyways, because there doesn't have to be any obscenity in order for something to be erotic... The connection is there without anything having to happen physically. That doesn't mean I don't use obscenity in my stories, though. The characters involved in it since CC usually aren't "me."

 

[AchtungNight]

My stories are the product of my imagination. So on some level, I find them all sexy. Or I would not have written them. Do I have morality? Yes, but it’s been modified by crazy experiences like being dragged around the world in my youth and living on three continents, going to eight different grade schools and two colleges, and having lovers and friends of myriad sexualities. Including relatives and hookers whom I won’t further identify. I and the majority of my relatives have been divorced at least once. I consider myself a spiritually agnostic libertine. I believe in God but not in any particular religion. I’ll find out if there’s an afterlife when I die. And I’ve always believed that if you need the promise of a good afterlife to be a decent person, you really aren’t such a person. We can also build a wonderful life in this world if we just put some effort into it. You know the film “It’s a Wonderful Life”? That film has implied nudity, violence, swearing, and other vices- all encouraged by the hero. And the angel still saves his life! If it were remade today, he’d surely have non- heterosexual friends too.

My stories reflect my morality. I’m proud of being an erotic entertainment creator. I have to be. It may be the thing I’ve done that has touched the most hearts and minds. No, I’m not into everything I’ve written but my characters are on a case by case basis. Give me time, I may change my sexuality a bit too.

Don’t like it? Tough.

 

[Codoc24]

I write about a lot of sexual things I have never done but would love to do. Things in my life just didn't turn out right to make some of my fantasies come true. I.E. In hindsight, I made some wrong decisions, and so I missed the opportunity. I didn't meet the right woman or I met the right woman, but we broke up before I got to do some things that I think she would have been down to doing. I grew up in a very conservative, small town in TX. One where you were lucky to even get a good night kiss after a date. So it was after I graduated from high school and moved to a larger city that my sex life picked up. Of course, I was way behind everyone else by that time. No such thing as sex ed in HS. There was no internet or VHS video porn when I was growing up. I had friends, and we would trade pictures from Playboy or Hustler like baseball trading cards. That's how desperate we were. It's sort of funny, but at the same time, it really pisses me off. It was a real sexual desert wasteland, and that's how the conservative, religious people wanted it. It really is sad to learn about sex that way. To learn about sex on the street corner. From guys as ignorant and clueless as I was, but they acted like they knew. (ok, off the soapbox)

I rarely write about something sexual that I don't at least find a little intriguing to try if I had the chance.

 

[ElectricBlue]

I think anyone reading my stories is going to get a pretty good idea of my taste in women, my sexual ethos, and my fantasy life, scattered in with bits of reality (if you can tell them apart, which some people can't).

Disclaimer: I have not been to Titan, nor have I travelled through time, turned into a mermaid, or met talking animals. Most everything else is deniable.

 

[Wonderer67]

I’ve only published a few stories here. They are mostly autobiographical or based on situations I’ve partially experienced, either in role play or real life. My wife is a former x ray and ultrasound tech. They represent a lot of things I like. Medical fetish, submission, humiliation. Sexual power exchange, etc.

The poems I’ve written here and on other forums are 100% based on my life and reality.

 

[Devinter]

The sad reality is that a lot of the things that I've written about is sexier and more arousing in their story form compared to their real-life counterparts.

 

[mirafrida]

The writing reflects pieces of my fantasy life that don't really have any place in real life, and therefore don't find an outlet.

 

[Razzyricho]

There’s fantasy and reality.
You gotta find like minded people, communicate respectfully and be on the same page to make any fantasies (you may desire and share with someone) a reality.

 

[mpeters]

In my case I have to say they’re one and the same. My stories are largely based on my own fantasies to the point where the main character is essentially me. Oh, he’s in better shape and appeals to more women than I do, but it’s essentially me, which is why I write first person. It was a conscious choice when I started writing erotica.

 

[AG31]

In my case I have to say they’re one and the same. My stories are largely based on my own fantasies to the point where the main character is essentially me. Oh, he’s in better shape and appeals to more women than I do, but it’s essentially me, which is why I write first person. It was a conscious choice when I started writing erotica.

But are your fantasies the same sort of thing as your real life sexuality? Or are the fantasies, say, S & M, and real life completely (and happily) vanilla?

 

[mpeters]

The stories are the fantasies. Real life right now isn’t even vanilla, it’s an empty ice cream bowl that hasn’t been used in years.

 

[firmbutgentle]

There is no difference at all. I’m writing my own desires, idealizing things of course and taking them further, but if you read my stories you know my tastes. I can’t write anything I wouldn’t enjoy.

 

[komesh]

I enjoy fantasizing more than reality. When I fantasize about somebody I create whatever I thought which is not scope in reality. For example, I enjoy visualizing a lady's feet in high heels the way I like, but I am sure it is not possible to see it in reality the way I like, or even if I see her in real life maybe I don't enjoy her as when I imagine her.

 

[AchtungNight]

I enjoy fantasizing more than reality. When I fantasize about somebody I create whatever I thought which is not scope in reality. For example, I enjoy visualizing a lady's feet in high heels the way I like, but I am sure it is not possible to see it in reality the way I like, or even if I see her in real life maybe I don't enjoy her as when I imagine her.

I’m the same. I enjoy imagining women pursuing me with interest or responding positively to my flirtation… you can guess how often this happens in real life for me. Famous or random women- it doesn’t matter long as they’re sex positive and beautiful. Consent is chief among my kinks. I back off if it is evidently not there. I also enjoy fantasizing about sex displayed for my pleasure as an erotic film director… and not the sort who would make that bad in any way. That’s where the scenes I write or read involving lesbians and women with men who don’t look remotely like me come in. On incest, I go for sibling or cousin- all else is reimagined as role playing. On weird fetishes, make it sexy and enjoyable for all parties involved please. Unsanitary stuff and violence probably never will be either. Oh, and I’m only attracted to women, but I can still give a handsome guy intellectual appreciation.

 

[MyBareTorso]

I write CFNM, and I enjoy CFNM in real life. Some of my stories jump off from my naughty real life experiences, but things have never gotten quite as hot for me as they have for my recurring MC... perhaps because he's much better looking than me with a much better body and a much bigger penis! My stories are very much a fantasy of how I would like things to be for me sexually...

 

[samhasstories]

I write CFNM, and I enjoy CFNM in real life. Some of my stories jump off from my naughty real life experiences, but things have never gotten quite as hot for me as they have for my recurring MC... perhaps because he's much better looking than me with a much better body and a much bigger penis! My stories are very much a fantasy of how I would like things to be for me sexually...

Pretty much this exactly, down to the CFNM business. Some of my past life exploits have informed my stories, though mine were never quite so porny. And these fantasies are still active in my imagination, though in my current life situation I don't actually get to act on them. That's why I write about them.

 

[Paul_Chance]

By "erotic sensibility" I mean "that which causes physical arousal, either by the written word or by fantasy." In other words, I don't mean genres that you may be involved with either from curiosity, or the pleasure one gets from a good story, or from exercising your authorial talents. And I don't mean physical activity. I mean stories that work for you, erotically.

There was as similar thread recently entitled something like "If I read all your stories how well would I know you?" I reviewed it and found that I was still curious about this much more narrow focus.

I'll go first.

For me there is virtually no connection. In my whole life I've only had masochistic fantasies with one exception, which I recorded in Stairway to Heaven.
I'm the classic strong woman who gets involved in BDSM scenes. Except I've never gotten into such a scene in my life except in fantasy. I've no desire to either.

There is one way my RW sexuality connects to my erotic sensibility. Since I shifted to a male POV in my fantasies a few years ago, I have a much more vivid appreciation for the naked male form. Muscles. Stiff cocks. More lively surroundings, when I can undress men in my mind on the subway or in church. Thank God for Cialis!

I took a look through my published stories and I'd say there's about an 80% correlation with my sexuality/sensuality in the real world. I describe acts I've experienced and I use the language that arouses me. About 60% of my stories are fictionalized accounts of real-world encounters and I'm writing from memory. My sensuality/sexuality form the core of the sexual encounters I've depicted fictionally. The details around the sex and sensuality are changed, often significantly.

Even in the stories that are pure fiction, the depiction of the sex and sensuality are drawn from experience. My two Incest/Taboo stories are fictionalized versions of real encounters - one of the significant changes is simply making the female character related to me, where no such relationship existed in the inspirational events.

 

[AchtungNight]

I took a look through my published stories and I'd say there's about an 80% correlation with my sexuality/sensuality in the real world. I describe acts I've experienced and I use the language that arouses me. About 60% of my stories are fictionalized accounts of real-world encounters and I'm writing from memory. My sensuality/sexuality form the core of the sexual encounters I've depicted fictionally. The details around the sex and sensuality are changed, often significantly.

I’m this way as well. Except my stories are always more fiction than fact. Some might have happened in the real world but definitely not the same way as depicted in my stories. Especially those stories involving celebrities where I was in no position to document their actual activity in this universe. I have never met any celebrity I’ve depicted and never plan on it. If it happens, I plan to avoid mentioning my fanfic unless they bring it up first. Then I will react based on their attitude and see what happens. The stories I have written are legal per the U.S. Supreme Court ruling on Hustler Magazine vs. Jerry Falwell et al and all related laws. They’re also explicitly marked as fictitious. Hope that’s enough to deter lawsuits. [fingers crossed] My vivid imagination and elaborate online research do not change that my stories are made up and happen in an alternate reality to this world- if they happen at all.

 

[Kelliezgirl]

My stories are sort of my interests turned up to 11, with a few extra kinks thrown in, and a few exceptions.
I've done a few incest stories, but it's always been a relationship that doesn't exist in my actual life. For instance one of my first stories was a girl and her older cousin, I don't have any older cousins so the story is in impossibility for me.

I've considered changing that, but there is enough stuff inside my RL comfort zone I don't feel any need to go too far outside it right now.

 

[RachelPost]

In most cases, my fantasies and writings have a lot more sex in them than in real life. Some women in their late thirties may be just hitting their stride; I am on a plateau. Sex is still fantastic, but it's not an everyday thing. Acting out my fantasies could be career-ending if caught. Now, there have been times I did risk it, but it was a quickie.