Do men really care if their partner cums?

[Sundayschild]

If you're not interested in whether your partner comes you might as well have a wank. Insane.

 

[9to5]

The sexual partners I have had haven't made much effort to make me cum...in fact after small amounts of foreplay which mainly included breast play, oral and or clit stimulation the main event has always been his orgasm.

that's no fun. I love to see her orgasm whether it be oral or with vibe. love to use the vibe as she goes over and over. that's my fun after I orgasm

 

[Eva_Star]

This thread is fascinating. Only ONE partner ever cared if I came. No one else. Ever.

And even he only cares occasionally. *shrugs*

 

[BiAsianGirl]

that's no fun. I love to see her orgasm whether it be oral or with vibe. love to use the vibe as she goes over and over. that's my fun after I orgasm

She is very lucky!

 

[KentuckyDom1971]

Yes. She must. Once she has released herself in pleasure there is nothing she will do for me.

 

[KentuckyDom1971]

This thread is fascinating. Only ONE partner ever cared if I came. No one else. Ever.

And even he only cares occasionally. *shrugs*

That makes no sense to me. As a man I would be left feeling unfulfilled if I didn't make you cum.

 

[13Fantasies]

I'd be fascinated to know whether men honestly care if the woman they're having sex with cums or not. My experience, and perhaps I'm a little jaded by several partners in the last couple of weeks, is that as long as the man with whom I'm fucking climaxes it's of little concern to him whether I am satisfied or not.

I should clarify that I certainly don't expect my lover to take responsibility for my orgasm, ultimately that's up to me but I do expect him to know at least in general terms what women enjoy. A rudimentary understanding of foreplay and clitoral stimulation is not too much to expect surely?

100%.

I've always been highly disappointed when it doesn't happen at least once.

 

[srgreene]

The sexual partners I have had haven't made much effort to make me cum...in fact after small amounts of foreplay which mainly included breast play, oral and or clit stimulation the main event has always been his orgasm.

My experience with men is more in line with yours. And since men, in my experience, tend to come more quickly than we do, it can be very frustrating. I mean, when your partner from whom you seek pleasure falls asleep on top of you ... well I dunno, I just don't think he cares that much about your experience, lol.

 

[RedSilk69]

This thread is fascinating. Only ONE partner ever cared if I came. No one else. Ever.

And even he only cares occasionally. *shrugs*

Oof - so many women here share that experience! I have only rarely been with a man like that - and none of them got a second chance.

Keep hope alive; there are many guys out there who want to see your O face - and will work hard for the privilege!

 

[xhxhxh]

This thread is fascinating. Only ONE partner ever cared if I came. No one else. Ever.

And even he only cares occasionally. *shrugs*

I find your statement shocking. I cant imagine that being anyone's mentality. Might sound cliche but ive always put my partners needs and desires above mine. Hell, ive cum just from watching them cum lol

 

[coachdb18]

Oof - so many women here share that experience! I have only rarely been with a man like that - and none of them got a second chance.

Keep hope alive; there are many guys out there who want to see your O face - and will work hard for the privilege!

Can't speak for all men, and evidently I may be speaking only for myself, but the sheer enjoyment of experiencing the sounds and moves of a woman in the throes of passion being evoked by me... PRICELESS. It's not only memorable, but why would any guy not want to hear and see his woman and experience that erotic side of her? I just don't get why ANY guy would ever want to do anything short of driving his lover absolutely mad and over the edge with orgasms...

 

[erinbrew]

In a word, YES.

 

[Letmepleaseu01]

For myself

I make her cum as many times as I can
Even if it takes hours
When I know she is almost drained and exhausted
The big one is left to the end
So we both cum big time

 

[bicuriohub]

Ive dated a few women that basically only cared about making me cum fast and as often as possible which was amazing but I like to make sure they're taken care of before me as many times as possible. With my wife now though I take pride in lasting as long as possible making she cums as much as possible before I even consider cumming myself. Basically until she's begging me to cum I like to hold off, makes for a great cumshot in the end

 

[KimGordon67]

I think with my current BF the ratio is probably 15:1 in my favour. And I'm not exaggerating - that may even be an under-estimation.

 

[LeinadVirgo]

Probably terrible to say, on occasion, I care if she cums, up until about the time i cum. Then I'm done and ready to do something else.

 

[Olderthanthat]

And none of them got a second chance.

Nor should they.

 

[Larkfield61]

I'm not good looking and l don't have a big cock but the reason l've had plenty of sex in my life is because l was taught at a young age that it is important to make it good for the woman, to take your time and aim for multiple orgasms.

I love giving oral sex, not only the taste but to feel the tremors through her body as her orgasm approaches, the feel the muscles in her vagina relax as the orgasm bursts and the taste of her juices. Even better if she's a squirter.

I am proud that there have been very few occasions in my life where l have failed to bring my woman to orgasm.

 

[MrEd63]

I'm not good looking and l don't have a big cock but the reason l've had plenty of sex in my life is because l was taught at a young age that it is important to make it good for the woman, to take your time and aim for multiple orgasms.

I love giving oral sex, not only the taste but to feel the tremors through her body as her orgasm approaches, the feel the muscles in her vagina relax as the orgasm bursts and the taste of her juices. Even better if she's a squirter.

I am proud that there have been very few occasions in my life where l have failed to bring my woman to orgasm.

I thoroughly agree with every word of this post.

Remember - the more you give, the more you get

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Never had a partner who prioritized my pleasure during sex, or felt any responsibility for my orgasms.

One partner never saw me reach climax at all, two partners didn't see it for close to a year in each case. The only reason any of them ever saw it is because I got sick of going without and decided to handle things myself.

To a large degree, I think they were ignorant. Two of them commented to me 'It didn't take my last girlfriend this long.' But I think they were selfish, too.

I hear men here talk about the importance they place on pleasing their partner and making sure she reaches her climax, often before any intercourse has taken place, and I am just amazed. And multiple climaxes? Can this be true?? It is so far from my experience that it's difficult to believe this attitude actually exists.

 

[NOBGE]

Yes!

Absolutely I care. First, I enjoy giving my lover pleasure. I don't take it as a "challenge" but I make every effort I can to help her cum and cum first most of the time. I know she enjoys giving me the same pleasure so it's the least I can do.

 

[MrEd63]

Never had a partner who prioritized my pleasure during sex, or felt any responsibility for my orgasms.

One partner never saw me reach climax at all, two partners didn't see it for close to a year in each case. The only reason any of them ever saw it is because I got sick of going without and decided to handle things myself.

To a large degree, I think they were ignorant. Two of them commented to me 'It didn't take my last girlfriend this long.' But I think they were selfish, too.

I hear men here talk about the importance they place on pleasing their partner and making sure she reaches her climax, often before any intercourse has taken place, and I am just amazed. And multiple climaxes? Can this be true?? It is so far from my experience that it's difficult to believe this attitude actually exists.

Could it be that guys like us are not obviously or considered conventionally attractive to women?

 

[Larkfield61]

Could it be that guys like us are not obviously or considered conventionally attractive to women?

I agree, unfortunately too many women equate looks with sexual performance. My girlfriend insists the worse fuck she ever had was probably her biggest cock.

I must add to my previous post that l seldom get the chance to make the woman cum when we're dogging, on those occasions the woman is invariably there to be used.

 

[Hornblende]

Never had a partner who prioritized my pleasure during sex, or felt any responsibility for my orgasms.

One partner never saw me reach climax at all, two partners didn't see it for close to a year in each case. The only reason any of them ever saw it is because I got sick of going without and decided to handle things myself.

To a large degree, I think they were ignorant. Two of them commented to me 'It didn't take my last girlfriend this long.' But I think they were selfish, too.

I hear men here talk about the importance they place on pleasing their partner and making sure she reaches her climax, often before any intercourse has taken place, and I am just amazed. And multiple climaxes? Can this be true?? It is so far from my experience that it's difficult to believe this attitude actually exists.

It is true, Honey kiss, although from reading about your experience I can understand why you would suspect otherwise. Let me try to frame this from my perspective and experience. I would find one-sided sex shallow and unfulfilling. Yet this too is partly selfish, because I know that, while I can reach a level of arousal which would allow intercourse to take place perfectly easily, that level can be heightened immeasurably by any contribution I can make to my woman's arousal.

A selfish fuck, to me, would feel transactional, a shared one can frequently be sublime. So yes, multiple orgasms for her before (or during) penetration is a frequent occurrence, although often she will choose to limit the number so that her arousal cycle will allow us to do it all over again a couple of days later.

My erection, too, will grow harder and higher while listening to her. While I stroke, or lick, I listen, feel, smell, taste. All of these things are arousing. Best of all, perhaps, are the times when I can penetrate her moments after her orgasm. Not for entirely selfish reasons, but because I know I can watch her reaction, feel her tightness, feel the need she has to be filled, watch her pupils dilate and enjoy the gasp which often escapes her lips at this point.

I'm not sure I've expressed this well. It's a bit early in the morning. Put simply, a fuck can be just a fuck. Sometimes, even both partners want just that after a long day at work. On other occasions, though, when time and energy allow for languid exploration, a deliciously slow build, and both partners want fervently to please each other, it can be so much more.

 

[Nezhul]

To a large degree, I think they were ignorant. Two of them commented to me 'It didn't take my last girlfriend this long.' But I think they were selfish, too.

Some women take longer to reach orgasm, that's a fact. Some girls can have it in as low as 30 seconds, and others take up to 7-8 minutes of continuous stimulation to reach it.

However this doesn't really justify not giving your woman an orgasm. If you can't last that long as a man - fine. Use your tongue, fingers, toys, ANYTHING. But get the job done.

Also all men are perfectly capable to train to last 20-30 minutes in bed during active penetration. That's not a porn myth, that's a fact - but it's a skill that very few posses innately. It needs to be trained and improved, and all it really takes is a man willing to concentrate on it and do it.
As well as some patience because you basically agree to postpone your own orgasm by half an hour. That, however, is a reward in itself for me - I would much rather enjoy sex mentally for a long time and then enjoy my orgasm all the same - than to have a minute of sex and then roll over.

I hear men here talk about the importance they place on pleasing their partner and making sure she reaches her climax, often before any intercourse has taken place, and I am just amazed. And multiple climaxes? Can this be true?? It is so far from my experience that it's difficult to believe this attitude actually exists.

I apologize to ask, but how old are you? I have the feeling that the cult of women's orgasm has spread with porn and internet. Too many men are aware how good women's orgasm looks, feels and sounds like. Porn is concentrated on female pleasure, and it teaches people certain attitude.

Before that, sex was largely a gray area that no one really knew about that much. I even heard on men who did not believe that such thing as female orgasm exists at all - thought it was a fake thing invented by women to catch-up to the Superior Man who can cum during sex.

I have the feeling, that 20-30 years ago men didn't really care about women's orgasms at all. Now they do, because we are taught that it's the next best thing during sex.