Why do older men become bi-curious?

[saintcero]

Some days I just don't feel the urge and wonder where the bi thoughts are coming from. Other days I'm so horny for it and would do almost anything for another cock. My thoughts are consistently inconsistent.

Do you find that sites like Lit and SilverDaddies tend to increase your interest substantially?

 

[bi_musings]

Do you find that sites like Lit and SilverDaddies tend to increase your interest substantially?

Without a doubt. I've never checked out SD, but Lit and Tumblr certainly do. The availability of gay and trans porn on X-hamster have become go-to's. I think more than anything it is the real people on Lit discussing what they do that has made me realize that it's acceptable and possible.

 

[n8Romantic]

I don't think we "became" bi curious. It's more like we shed skin, un-needed baggage we've carried since childhood. Totally buying into the heterosexual construct of what's right and what's wrong. It takes awhile and no small amount of courage to recognize these once forbidden desires. Should we succeed in escaping the past's moral death grip, we realize our bisexuality not a sickness.

 

[TallOne]

I don't think we "became" bi curious. It's more like we shed skin, un-needed baggage we've carried since childhood. Totally buying into the heterosexual construct of what's right and what's wrong. It takes awhile and no small amount of courage to recognize these once forbidden desires. Should we succeed in escaping the past's moral death grip, we realize our bisexuality not a sickness.

Yeah, look at the Americans' Self-Identified Sexual Orientation, by Generation figure here.
https://news.gallup.com/poll/329708/lgbt-identification-rises-latest-estimate.aspx

Gone from 0.3% self identifying as bisexual to 11.5% among Gen Z. I'd say that's directly due to more acceptance.

 

[supercollider00]

I don't think we "became" bi curious. It's more like we shed skin, un-needed baggage we've carried since childhood. Totally buying into the heterosexual construct of what's right and what's wrong. It takes awhile and no small amount of courage to recognize these once forbidden desires. Should we succeed in escaping the past's moral death grip, we realize our bisexuality not a sickness.

I think you hit it right on the head. Older people of both genders often start dropping their boundaries and barriers around taboo subjects in older age, but not always. And it just makes just us younger people that love older very very very happy

 

[GsyMaster]

I am, and not sure I need to know the cause

It’s an interesting though, and the responses are good; but actually it’s far more fun developing the curiosity.

 

[cuck72]

A faggot wannabe 68yo / MWM. I get off so much thinking of a guy half my age making me his old daddy bitch. I see these guys like in their mid 30's, maybe 40ish and want to drop to my old daddy knees.

 

[Buscando]

Well to the point

I don't think we "became" bi curious. It's more like we shed skin, un-needed baggage we've carried since childhood. Totally buying into the heterosexual construct of what's right and what's wrong. It takes awhile and no small amount of courage to recognize these once forbidden desires. Should we succeed in escaping the past's moral death grip, we realize our bisexuality not a sickness.

Well stated, n8. After all, when you sit, as so many of us apparently have at this point, and thoroughly think it through, there's no logical reason why we shouldn't enjoy playing with either sex.

I know I repeat myself here, but the cock simply doesn't know or care where its pleasure comes from, does it? Nope, it's all up there in the big head, isn't it? You just need to do some housecleaning. I know it's often a hard thing to begin, but then you feel so good about the results.

The saddest part of all is seeing mile after mile of the endless posts from guys who profess so much longing and desire ... but then do nothing about it, and often proceed to throw up any number of self-imposed barriers to any real action toward the satisfaction of their curiosity or outright desire. We are so often our own worst enemies.

You need not announce it to the world; just declare to yourself that you're going to try it, and then do whatever you need to do to actually make it happen. You know that nobody is going to kick down your front door, charge in and pull your pants down while you're still sitting inert on the couch with a head full of unfulfilled fantasies. You have to get out there and actually do what (or who) you say you want to do.

When you read the many, many accounts of guys who are so thoroughly into the joys and pleasures of their bisexuality, you just need to remember that they were once where you are now. Then they reached out for the prize. We wish you the best. Hell, maybe one of us will be the one you reach out to.

 

[69plus1]

Well stated, n8. After all, when you sit, as so many of us apparently have at this point, and thoroughly think it through, there's no logical reason why we shouldn't enjoy playing with either sex.

I know I repeat myself here, but the cock simply doesn't know or care where its pleasure comes from, does it? Nope, it's all up there in the big head, isn't it? You just need to do some housecleaning. I know it's often a hard thing to begin, but then you feel so good about the results.

The saddest part of all is seeing mile after mile of the endless posts from guys who profess so much longing and desire ... but then do nothing about it, and often proceed to throw up any number of self-imposed barriers to any real action toward the satisfaction of their curiosity or outright desire. We are so often our own worst enemies.

You need not announce it to the world; just declare to yourself that you're going to try it, and then do whatever you need to do to actually make it happen. You know that nobody is going to kick down your front door, charge in and pull your pants down while you're still sitting inert on the couch with a head full of unfulfilled fantasies. You have to get out there and actually do what (or who) you say you want to do.

When you read the many, many accounts of guys who are so thoroughly into the joys and pleasures of their bisexuality, you just need to remember that they were once where you are now. Then they reached out for the prize. We wish you the best. Hell, maybe one of us will be the one you reach out to.

I agree with these guys. I fantasized for most of my adult life and was to afraid to act on it. Finally I stopped worrying about what friends and family would say and just acted on my desires.
I am not out by any means, I just keep it to myself and whoever I interact with.
It is fun on many levels and and I will continue to enjoy the sexual company of men and women.
Be safe but let yourself have some honest fun.

 

[fitfidelityfifty64]

Past experience

For me it's a combination of it being in the back of my head all my life and an experience as a youth. In a truth or dare I had to suck my friends cock for a few minutes. Been searching for that since. I love sex with women and wonder about sex with a cock.

 

[Wageslave]

As we get older, we become more receptive to new ideas and experiences and also care or worry less about what others think

 

[Jaime1493]

More married guys, it happens when the wife loses interest in sex, usually because of the change. Men still need sex and other men understand. I have been bi since I was 15, but have been married a long time, too. I want to stay married, but I need sex, so I am looking for another married guy in my area that wants a fwb with just one guy, as I do.

 

[PFWilly]

More married guys, it happens when the wife loses interest in sex, usually because of the change. Men still need sex and other men understand. I have been bi since I was 15, but have been married a long time, too. I want to stay married, but I need sex, so I am looking for another married guy in my area that wants a fwb with just one guy, as I do.

Ditto.

Married a long time, and my wife’s interest in sex has ebbed and flowed substantially over the years. I had some adventures in my teens and twenties with guys, and enjoyed them very much. Then the family years occurred, as did career building, which led to some dry years. After (early) retirement, I found a few discreet play partners. Then my wife retired, and I literally have no free time to play.

I have some awesome memories, and long to make some more. Just a little frustrating.

 

[bhurry]

Do you find that sites like Lit and SilverDaddies tend to increase your interest substantially?

for sure. Since I came across sillverdaddies. Be accident by the way. interest increased quite a lot. Have meet and talked and also became clos friends with a few on the site. I think you will find there are a whole lot of us (older) guys that have become bi-curious. All I wiil add is if that if the feeling are there and strong. Well follow your needs.

 

[peter49parker]

More married guys, it happens when the wife loses interest in sex, usually because of the change. Men still need sex and other men understand. I have been bi since I was 15, but have been married a long time, too. I want to stay married, but I need sex, so I am looking for another married guy in my area that wants a fwb with just one guy, as I do.

Ditto.

Married a long time, and my wife’s interest in sex has ebbed and flowed substantially over the years. I had some adventures in my teens and twenties with guys, and enjoyed them very much. Then the family years occurred, as did career building, which led to some dry years. After (early) retirement, I found a few discreet play partners. Then my wife retired, and I literally have no free time to play.

I have some awesome memories, and long to make some more. Just a little frustrating.

for sure. Since I came across sillverdaddies. Be accident by the way. interest increased quite a lot. Have meet and talked and also became clos friends with a few on the site. I think you will find there are a whole lot of us (older) guys that have become bi-curious. All I wiil add is if that if the feeling are there and strong. Well follow your needs.

These comments describe a lot of the guys that I have chatted with and met over the last several years. Many of us have wives that have become disinterested in sex, but we still need it. The availability of m2m sex has proliferated, as have chat sites where we can express ourselves about having the desire to try it. When I first realized that my desire to suck a cock was not going to just 'go away', I found there were more men in my same position than I could have ever imagined. Sites like Literotica, Silverdaddies, Squirt, Xhamster, and so on, fueled my curiosity, until I could no longer contain it. Once I met with my first 'buddy' from Silverdaddies, I had only one regret. Why did I wait so long to try sucking a cock? It is a most natural thing to do.

 

[Professor360]

Why?

Aside from some early experimenting with guys during my youth, I did not act on any bi-tendencies, until later in life. I used to fantasize how it would feel to be on my back, legs up, waiting for a cock to be slide up my ass. I would wonder if I should have reciprocated and sucked off the first guy that made me cum.
Over the years I had plenty of chances to be with another guy, but my inner shame did not allow for it. Over time, thanks to a narcissistic wife, I begin to doubt my own ability to please a woman. My ability to get an erection was diminished with her, but was able to get hard masturbating about my teenage experiences.
I slowly started to explore other means of self pleasure and found that a vibrating dildo up my ass would cause me to explode in copious amounts of cum. This lead me to continue to explore other masturbatory means.
I decided if jacking off and anal pleasured me, I might as well explore it with another person. Not wanting to be "gay" I chose to seek out transgendered women. I found that I really enjoyed the dichotomy of breast and cocks. I also discovered that I enjoy giving pleasure to their cocks as much as them pleasing me. I have been been told that I am an expert cock sucker and have even made one gurl come in spite of her hormone treatment!

I have experienced a perfect 7 inch girl cock up my ass and while it was my first, I took it like a champ even though it seemed like we were 17 year old kids trying to lose our virginity quickly in the back of an Oldsmobile 88. Next time I want if missionary style so I can watch her face and play with her breasts.

Will I ever be with a guy? I don't think so, but right know I think I have experienced the best of both worlds...Too bad I didn't act sooner and coopted my wife into this lifestyle....

 

[bimori]

Ditto.

Married a long time, and my wife’s interest in sex has ebbed and flowed substantially over the years. I had some adventures in my teens and twenties with guys, and enjoyed them very much. Then the family years occurred, as did career building, which led to some dry years. After (early) retirement, I found a few discreet play partners. Then my wife retired, and I literally have no free time to play.

I have some awesome memories, and long to make some more. Just a little frustrating.

I’m with you. I have been extremely horny all of my life. I had bi sexual experiences in my youth. But I have always had that nasty side including my day of being able to selfsuck. Plus I alway loved the tase of cum. Where from my cock a creampie or after a blowjob with cum swapping. So I guess after my wife’s desire went down and my desire for nasty sex continued it only made sense that we would find release anyway we can. That’s my feeling anyway.

 

[Marty Fisher]

It simply opens up more opportunity for us. I always love receiving a BJ and now I find it is fun to give one as well. Even starting to wonder what it would be like to have a cock in my ass.

YES!!! And why not?!? And why did so many of us wait this long?!? I got my first taste of cock VERY early on and no regrets!!!

 

[4nick8er]

I have fantasized about it for years and am finding it very hard to find anyone wanting to play. I love anal play. It feels fantastic.

 

[bi_musings]

These comments describe a lot of the guys that I have chatted with and met over the last several years. Many of us have wives that have become disinterested in sex, but we still need it. The availability of m2m sex has proliferated, as have chat sites where we can express ourselves about having the desire to try it. When I first realized that my desire to suck a cock was not going to just 'go away', I found there were more men in my same position than I could have ever imagined. Sites like Literotica, Silverdaddies, Squirt, Xhamster, and so on, fueled my curiosity, until I could no longer contain it. Once I met with my first 'buddy' from Silverdaddies, I had only one regret. Why did I wait so long to try sucking a cock? It is a most natural thing to do.

Have you ever recognized people you know on those sites? I live in a pretty small town and people know each other. Being a married guy, I'm more than a little nervous about being discovered there.

 

[peter49parker]

Have you ever recognized people you know on those sites? I live in a pretty small town and people know each other. Being a married guy, I'm more than a little nervous about being discovered there.

As a matter of fact, I did meet with a former co-worker of mine, quite by accident. We had met online and arranged for me to visit him for a cup of coffee. When I walked in his door, he recognized me right away, but I wasn't able to recognize him. We hit it off amazingly and ended up in his bed sucking each other off. The following week, I made a return visit and was in the process of gobbling his cock, when he told me who he was. Surprise !!! He is divorced, lives on his own and has a really nice cock. I have visited him several times since that first time.

 

[phreedom]

For me, I'd tried a little in college, but was scared of my desires. As I got older, nearing my 50s, I knew I didn't want to die without experiencing sex with a man. Started off just sucking (as I had in college), not swallowing, but later I really took the plunge, started bottoming and swallowing. I learned how much I really love it. I think the desires were there all along for me, but as I got older there was more urgency to explore that side of me. Now I wish I'd been more adventurous all along.

 

[Jerseyshore]

For me, I'd tried a little in college, but was scared of my desires. As I got older, nearing my 50s, I knew I didn't want to die without experiencing sex with a man. Started off just sucking (as I had in college), not swallowing, but later I really took the plunge, started bottoming and swallowing. I learned how much I really love it. I think the desires were there all along for me, but as I got older there was more urgency to explore that side of me. Now I wish I'd been more adventurous all along.

Don't feel bad. We all come out differently, and each queer man has his own journey.. I am happy to see that you are enjoying your desires and hope you continue to enjoy them. You seem quite comfortable with yourself and look like you have accepted your sexuality, which is the most important acceptance we all make.

 

[Sliplover2]

For me a wife who has virtually no sex drive has been a big factor. I have always enjoyed wearing lingerie. My wife knows about this and is supportive. We even go lingerie shopping together sometimes. I get the odd handjob but we haven’t made love for 2 years now. I started looking at pictures of men in lingerie about 6 years ago on tumblr and then started watching videos of men in panties masturbating on xhamster. I now find I get more aroused watching satin and lace clad cocks than a pussy but still haven’t made the plunge. I do fantasise about sucking a cock but it would have to be with lingerie. Definitely not wanting any kissing or cuddling, just mutual masturbation or oral

 

[SBM045]

Since my divorce I've secretly been dressing in panties, stockings and sometimes garters to the mall and watch for bulges, It makes for an incredible self pleasure later