the struggle to be just yourself....

[sufisaint]

I have been thinking, as always, about what I really want to do with with my life... Its a daunting question, there is so much to think about and so many contradictions. When ever I think about it, a war begins to rage in my head. In my heart, I want a simple life with simple pleasures. I want to be able to love someone, live close to nature, be with my dogs and do some creative and constructive work. But then there is another part of me...it feels like a worry... will I have enough money to survive...to travel...to give my daughter things she needs, what will my parents think, what about all the education I have wasted, what about when I m much older?? Is there a woman who will love me without money and success and can I overcome the scorn of others who see me as unsuccessful? All these worries I know have basis in reality but i should not give into them. Yet still they never disappear and continue to attack me. Why is it so damn hard to just be yourself??? Does anyone else feel this way? Struggle everyday over this?

 

[Guest]

All the time my friend, all the time.

 

[gotdatmony]

I went throught the same type deal...and I have found this bit of "wisdom" if you call it that....

Find something you love to do...and do it!!


there is nothing worse than going to work everyday and hating what you do,,,,you spend 80% of your life working...why not have that 80% be something you can't wait to get up to do everyday....then base everything else around this....odds are...if you find what you love you can be creative enough to figure out how to make money at it too

 

[lost]

Oh yeah,
I have to choose between working and making money and spending time w/ my son. (He basically is fatherless.) The more I work the more money I have to spend and buy him things, but I think it's better if we have less money and I spend more time with him. It is a very difficult situation. In the process I gave given up my career and I know that my friends and family don't understand. I've always wanted to move back to the Shenandoah, or maybe I'll head to the Ozarks and find a tiny little place and stay.

 

[Guest]

 

[sufisaint]

I went throught the same type deal...and I have found this bit of "wisdom" if you call it that....

Find something you love to do...and do it!!


there is nothing worse than going to work everyday and hating what you do,,,,you spend 80% of your life working...why not have that 80% be something you can't wait to get up to do everyday....then base everything else around this....odds are...if you find what you love you can be creative enough to figure out how to make money at it too

Thats what what i am trying to figure out now...

 

[The Squid King]

I know exactly what you mean...

Sufi you and I are the opposite sides of the same coin.

The only difference is right now I have the capital to figure that question out.

If I can come to terms with myself, I know the rest of the things I want will all fall into place.

Keep fighting the good fight, and you will reap what you sow.

 

[gotdatmony]

Follow your passion...you will figure it out......without passion for something...it is hard to get out of bed

 

[someplace]

You know the answers already. You just have to live the adventure you were meant to. You cannot live for others' expectations. That's a deadend road. Peaceful blessings to you today.

 

[dragonhearted]

I have been thinking, as always, about what I really want to do with with my life... Why is it so damn hard to just be yourself??? Does anyone else feel this way? Struggle everyday over this?

Yes!

 

[peachykeen]

Yes, of course. And at times like those, I have found the best thing one can do is,



















play Right Said Fred's "I'm Too Sexy" a loud as fucking possible and dance around the house in one's undies.

Trust me, it just puts everythng else right into perspective. I don't know why it works, but it does.

 

[curious2c]

LOL so true. I ahve done that, and got caught at it by my wife. Was a bit difficult explaining what I was doing there.

 

[lil_mama_wanna]

When one concentraits on life, the ups and downs of it, seems like we always put so much pressure on ourselves over it. We seem to draw out all the negative of it. All the 'what if's" comes out. Why that is, I have no clue. I deal with the same problem, as many of you do, and have no real answer as to why. All I can do is my best. Balance out my check book. Cook dinner for my girls. Live the best I can. One day, maybe one day I will get married again. Remember the positive of life. Be yourself and all will fall into place when it is supposed to.

 

[Ishmael]

I have been thinking, as always, about what I really want to do with with my life... Its a daunting question, there is so much to think about and so many contradictions. When ever I think about it, a war begins to rage in my head. In my heart, I want a simple life with simple pleasures. I want to be able to love someone, live close to nature, be with my dogs and do some creative and constructive work. But then there is another part of me...it feels like a worry... will I have enough money to survive...to travel...to give my daughter things she needs, what will my parents think, what about all the education I have wasted, what about when I m much older?? Is there a woman who will love me without money and success and can I overcome the scorn of others who see me as unsuccessful? All these worries I know have basis in reality but i should not give into them. Yet still they never disappear and continue to attack me. Why is it so damn hard to just be yourself??? Does anyone else feel this way? Struggle everyday over this?

You can't live your life through the eyes of others. Everyone will have a different expectation of you and trying to fulfill all of those expectations will drive you nuts, or cause you to loose yourself even further.

Seperate what you want to do from what you can reasonably expect to do. If you've done your best you can't fault yourself, even if others do. Just remember that everytime you look in the mirror, you are looking at the only person that you actually have to live with. So that better be the person that you can be friends with and respect.

Try different things. Don't think, DO. You will find something and in the meantime you'll learn a lot about other things.

Forget about finding a woman. If you can get together with yourself, she'll find you.

Ishmael

 

[juicylips]

Re: Re: the struggle to be just yourself....

You can't live your life through the eyes of others. Everyone will have a different expectation of you and trying to fulfill all of those expectations will drive you nuts, or cause you to loose yourself even further.

Seperate what you want to do from what you can reasonably expect to do. If you've done your best you can't fault yourself, even if others do. Just remember that everytime you look in the mirror, you are looking at the only person that you actually have to live with. So that better be the person that you can be friends with and respect.

Try different things. Don't think, DO. You will find something and in the meantime you'll learn a lot about other things.

Forget about finding a woman. If you can get together with yourself, she'll find you.

Ishmael

Beautifully said.

 

[LordOfDarkness]

I have been thinking, as always, about what I really want to do with with my life... Its a daunting question, there is so much to think about and so many contradictions. When ever I think about it, a war begins to rage in my head. In my heart, I want a simple life with simple pleasures. I want to be able to love someone, live close to nature, be with my dogs and do some creative and constructive work. But then there is another part of me...it feels like a worry... will I have enough money to survive...to travel...to give my daughter things she needs, what will my parents think, what about all the education I have wasted, what about when I m much older?? Is there a woman who will love me without money and success and can I overcome the scorn of others who see me as unsuccessful? All these worries I know have basis in reality but i should not give into them. Yet still they never disappear and continue to attack me. Why is it so damn hard to just be yourself??? Does anyone else feel this way? Struggle everyday over this?

I know what you mean.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Darlin as long as you can put food on the table and power in the socket then go for it. No child ever lost out having a parent with no money, as long as that parent has morals and shows them love it is cool.

Parents and friends may never want to lead the life you do and that is cool. Variety is what makes the world go round.

The woman will fall in love with you, not the money you may have or not have. If she is after the money and gold then she is not worthy of you...

No matter what path we follow there will always be some doubt for some reason...

Follow your dreams if they feed and water you...

 

[Lost Cause]

Struggle is good sometimes...

Struggle to get up,
Struggle to get your leathers on,
Struggle to get the Harley outside,
Struggle to start it,
Struggle down the street,
Struggle in the heavy traffic,
Struggle not to kill the other morons in traffic,
Struggle to get on a open piece of road,
Struggle between crackin' the throttle and a speeding ticket,
Struggle to keep it under a hundred mph,
Struggle to decide where to stop for a beer and a sandwich,
Struggle to get home in one piece,
Struggle to clean up the bike,
Struggle out of your leathers,
Struggle to remember what the "struggle thing" was that bothered you before you got on the Harley!

 

[LordOfDarkness]

Re: Struggle is good sometimes...

Struggle to get up,
Struggle to get your leathers on,
Struggle to get the Harley outside,
Struggle to start it,
Struggle down the street,
Struggle in the heavy traffic,
Struggle not to kill the other morons in traffic,
Struggle to get on a open piece of road,
Struggle between crackin' the throttle and a speeding ticket,
Struggle to keep it under a hundred mph,
Struggle to decide where to stop for a beer and a sandwich,
Struggle to get home in one piece,
Struggle to clean up the bike,
Struggle out of your leathers,
Struggle to remember what the "struggle thing" was that bothered you before you got on the Harley!

Life is a struggle?

 

[Guest]

I hear ya man...

sometimes you feel as if you are trapped, hopefully things all work out at the end.