Would you go back and marry/commit to the same person?

[Stoic_dreamer]

After I divorced my first husband, I said I would never marry again. Then I met the one, but fought it, even though I was not 'in love' right away. He told me he loved me, and I told him I was 'in like' with him. He was so disappointed, and it did not take much for me to fall in love with him. We still like each other and have a heartstopping love. Times have been challenging due to his health issues. I would never leave him, and I would marry him again. He is truly my soulmate.

Great story!

 

[Justplainjeff]

My wife and I were having a conversation about some common friends. Slowly the conversation turned to our marriage and we asked each other if, turning back time, we would pick each other again knowing what we know about each other now.
My answer was a yes (not just because I didn't want to end up in the doghouse...lol). Overall:

1. Things have happened that I did not expect: sexless marriage, a toning down of her social side and some other minor things
2. Some things have remained the same: shared values on life in general, mutual love and respect , her love for animals rubbing off on me

I have never believed in the "one, true soulmate" concept and even if there is one, I don't have the patience. I found a girl I liked, we vibes on many things and put a ring on her.

What about you? Knowing everything you know now about your partner would you change your decision if time was turned back?

Heading towards 55 years, and the answer is yes, without a doubt!

 

[ChicagoR85]

After I divorced my first husband, I said I would never marry again. Then I met the one, but fought it, even though I was not 'in love' right away. He told me he loved me, and I told him I was 'in like' with him. He was so disappointed, and it did not take much for me to fall in love with him. We still like each other and have a heartstopping love. Times have been challenging due to his health issues. I would never leave him, and I would marry him again. He is truly my soulmate.

@GraiceeGirl Thanks for sharing. Such is life, not matter what we want… life will turn us and bring us to crossroads.

 

[Chilllax]

After I divorced my first husband, I said I would never marry again. Then I met the one, but fought it, even though I was not 'in love' right away. He told me he loved me, and I told him I was 'in like' with him. He was so disappointed, and it did not take much for me to fall in love with him. We still like each other and have a heartstopping love. Times have been challenging due to his health issues. I would never leave him, and I would marry him again. He is truly my soulmate.

Hold onto him @GraiceeGirl , with both hands! Love like that doesn't happen that often. Hope he gets better soon!

 

[numb3rsss]

I completely would. I think I would change the dynamic a bit though if I were to start again

 

[Chilllax]

I completely would. I think I would change the dynamic a bit though if I were to start again

How so? Would you be ok sharing?

 

[numb3rsss]

How so? Would you be ok sharing?

There are many reasons why I wouldn't share in person, but online stuff would be okay with me. I don't think she is the kind of person that would explore online, but I would have at least given her the option. She is okay with me talking to someone online, but I think bringing up online sex would be too much.

 

[Wonderer67]

Without a doubt, I would do everything with my wife over again.

I was married previouslyand swore I would never remarry. My wife and I were together for six or seven years before she asked me.

I said yes. There was nothing that we hadn’t shared by then.

She is gorgeous, smart and great in the sack! No fuckin regrets.

 

[Chilllax]

There are many reasons why I wouldn't share in person, but online stuff would be okay with me. I don't think she is the kind of person that would explore online, but I would have at least given her the option. She is okay with me talking to someone online, but I think bringing up online sex would be too much.

Oh, I meant sharing your thoughts on around "what dynamics would change"..lol. Didn't mean to say "sharing her"

 

[Chilllax]

Without a doubt, I would do everything with my wife over again.

I was married previouslyand swore I would never remarry. My wife and I were together for six or seven years before she asked me.

I said yes. There was nothing that we hadn’t shared by then.

She is gorgeous, smart and great in the sack! No fuckin regrets.

Sounds like a keeper!

 

[Doughboy48]

This is tough question because we have amazing friends and that wouldn’t be if we didn’t get married. We have 2 kids and although one is now gone off the rails doing drugs and stuff I am still glad they are in my life. The thing that sucks is the lack of sex in our marriage because of her lack of desire and willingness to change to improve that aspect. I’m at the point where I see why in the older days guys had mistresses to fulfill that need where the wife wasn’t. I guess the long answer is if the sex was better no doubt but current circumstances I would have to say I wouldn’t.

 

[Melodi24]

I can't say that I would

 

[Mittering]

I am so totally in love and lust with my wife still after 22 years of marriage though it is unrequited.

If I had it all over to do again I would have spoke up more at certain times when it came to the kids especially.

I would still pick her over and over till I got it right.

 

[TomnDiane]

32 years married, she's a stage 4 cancer patient. TBH, with full knowledge of how it all played out, I'd stay single. Marriage for me was far more give than receive.

 

[Dreamer110]

I definitely would. 45 years last week. Ups and downs but yes.

 

[oconnor1111]

hell yes but would try to get her to play around when we were younger

 

[draco519]

I'm just another guy who got cheated on. It's actually really encouraging to see how many guys on here have good, healthy marriages though. Lets me know they still exist somewhere in the world.

 

[LexiSmiles92]

a gazillion percent YES! Hopefully he says something similar. Although he's much too practical to use silly numbers like "a gazillion"

 

[Chilllax]

I definitely would. 45 years last week. Ups and downs but yes.

Congratulations!!!

 

[Chilllax]

hell yes but would try to get her to play around when we were younger

Wouldn't we all, or at least most of us? I think it just speaks to the maturity of the relationship.

 

[Dreamer110]

Congratulations!!!

Thank you. Got lucky I guess.

 

[PrettyReckless_ILM]

Absolutely Yes !! I chose her, I choose her! She's pretty and funny, among other things!