Should I ask?

[MADDOG]

This is mainly aimed at the ladies, but I guess the guys can answer too.

First up, I am a virgin. (Mostly choice, partly shyness. But it's soon to be rectified I hope. ) But I would tend to want girls I'm with to think that I am the best sex of their life. THAT is what would work for me. Seeing her cum over and over and over at my hand. I think I can BE the best sex they've ever had, provided I know what they want.

My question is, should I be asking them what they want? Or if something feels good? Or if I could be doing it better and how? Or does that just get annoying? Should I just do what I think would work for her and guage her reaction to it and take it from there?

Is communication the key? Or should I just go with the flow? (Or communicate after and learn from that?)

MADDOG

 

[Guest]

talk it over......

 

[canadian_lady]

Communication is the key
And can also be an incredible turn-on
How honest are the two of you being with each other
when you cannot discuss what turns you or them on
It maybe actual verbal words or just sounds or gestures
But anyway you can you must communicate!!!!

 

[Merelan]

Gack!!!! You are a virgin! Holy crow. You sure don't umm.. never mind. I am all confused. Here I am lusting over a poor innoccent one. I better go hide in the corner.

 

[Cheri]

As with most things in life, a balance is best. Asking a woman how to please her is very erotic, and an approach that most men don't take (they must think they know everything). Then as you follow her directions, gaging your skill by her response. Please don't take it so far that you constantly asking directions, though.
Then again, ingenuity in sex is a wonderful thing. If you want to really rock her world, you have to be creative in that you show her new things or new ways her body can respond. If both of you discover a mutually pleasurable act that was previously unknown, im my mind that is the epitome of sex.
You'll notice I was vague in my responses. Unfortunatly for you men, women are as individual in their pleasure as they are in everything else. Now perhaps we could give you ideas on what women like, but we can't tell you to do X with certain success. Then again, the stories on this site are full of creative ideas.
Good luck.

 

[MADDOG]

Gack!!!! You are a virgin! Holy crow. You sure don't umm.. never mind. I am all confused. Here I am lusting over a poor innoccent one. I better go hide in the corner.

Whoa! Just a bit of clarification there! I have never had sex, no. But I'm 20. I'm quite attractive, or so I hear. (Want a pic? Just ask). It's not like I can't get sex. As a matter of fact I could have lost it at 17. That was the first time I REALLY kissed a girl, and I also "slept" with her. No sex or oral, (though she wanted both), but we spent the night kissing and doing some serious touching. Nudity was involved, so I'm not exactly "innocent".

I'm a virgin by choice. I am determined for my first time to be with someone I love, or at the very least care about deeply. Otherwise, I could have had it on numerous occasions. I can't WAIT to lose it, but I'm in no hurry.

Now, what's this about you lusting over me Merelan? Or is that not on the cards any more? And what don't I sure...?

MADDOG

 

[CreamyLady]

LISTEN. Do talk it over, and be very open about your experience, or lack thereof. Don't go in with unreal ideas, and realize that it takes time, communication, and cooperation to achieve really great sex.

Since my brain goes to complete mush when my lover is doing everything right, he has learned to "read" my face and body language to gauge my reactions to what he is doing. It has taken time, but it was time well spent; every bit of the learning process was a lot of fun.

If you are considerate, listen, and are willing to learn from mistakes, your lady will have the time of her life, and so will you.

 

[Merelan]

I still lust after you, whew. Just would never have guessed you were a virgin, kinda exciting too. Your lucky lady is in for one hell of a time though. You are, or seem, to me, to be an ideal. Kind, thoughtful, yet, man enough.
Still all wiggly and excited... No, no pictures. I have to go to work and that would distract me!!!! But... well, no... no...
behave. He is young, innoccent, well, kind of. Do not corrupt him.
The evil naughty part of me says find the man and help him. The sweet gentle side, and she usually wins, says to lay off and allow him to find his sweet someone.
Balance, yes balance is necessary in all. Moderation.

 

[Naked Hunny]

MADDOG IS A VIRGIE NO WAY!!! GOD and you are so damn cute and adorable id do ya!!!