HampshireBoy
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I know exactly how you feel. My wife and I are very much in love, lots of kisses and cuddles, but I know that it is never going to lead to sex.
Sexless Marriages
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Loyalish1245
Hey friends
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The worst part is she knows but is unable to change it. We have tried medical and therapy but nothing seems to change.
nellaj1990
Virgin
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Right there with y'all. Been at least 5 years now. Started with an illness, extended hospital stay and never really returned.
Loyalish1245
Hey friends
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Sorry to you as well.
Mezoolandet
Virgin
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Well, nine months now. Absolutely no intimacy at all. So frustrating. Does anyone else feel just tremendous frustration?
13Fantasies
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Wand3rlust
Chaos gremlin
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It was 6 for me.
TomTeacher19
Needs experience pls
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It's not a contest.
I'm in double figures for years.
But I'm only saying that to strongly agree how awful it is for anyone and everyone.
Wishing best for all dealing with this
I'm in double figures for years.
But I'm only saying that to strongly agree how awful it is for anyone and everyone.
Wishing best for all dealing with this
Live4themoments
Life Enjoyer
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Unfortunately double digits for me
NorthernCardinal
Keyboard Tough Guy
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Been about 3 years for me
Live4themoments
Life Enjoyer
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Torture for me, just torture. So close yet so far awaySo I’m 30 and I’m constantly wet and hornyat the begging he fucked me constantly. Here lately the past year or so it went way down to maybe once or twice a month. Is it bad that I’m 30 and still so wet and horny allll the time?
13Fantasies
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Ill be there in no timeUnfortunately double digits for me
bizbitraveler
Bimarried
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San Francisco 65yo MWM in sexless marriage for over 10 years. I miss the intimacy most, but hard going so long without sex of any kind. Love to chat with others.
Sexless marriage since around 1998. I think that means I got the boobie prize (because I have a sub with full access to her boobies. 
First, my wife started to refuse anal. I could live with that. Then she refused BJ. I didn't like it but ok... Then she came to bed sweaty, smelly and gritty, got on all 4s and said that if I wanted to I could fuck her. I was NOT ok with that. She was also hording and piling stuff around the bed, so I moved to a spare bedroom. She said she would not have sex with someone that was not sleeping with her. I said I was OK with that.
Then the marriage trap started. I said I wanted a friendly divorce and she said she would fight divorce with every penny we had. Then my father died. I was emotionally not ready for a bloody fight. I wanted to be involved with our kid so I figured I would stay until our kid was older and understand things better. I went to see a lawyer to get divorce information and my mother in law, whom I really liked, got very sick. So I waited while trying to give support. The pattern took hold. Every few years I would start exploring divorce and someone in the family (that I like) would get deathly sick or outright die. It's gotten that I am superstitious about talking to lawyers or researching divorce. LOL, the last person was my wife, 2.5 years ago. She spent 8 days in the hospital, but she is doing great now.
A few years after the turn of the century I found a sub. I started the affair with her just to get my rocks off but her personality was great and we are still seeing each other after 22 years, though only about once a week since she became a grandma. Having a supportive sub/sex-toy/pet that I see whenever we can get away really helps.
At this point I am too superstitious about the illness/death pattern and I don't want to lose all my retirement savings to lawyers in what is certain to be a nasty divorce. I kind of settled into the rut of living with my wife despite the emotional and physical alienation. However, I do get physical and emotional support from my sub.
First, my wife started to refuse anal. I could live with that. Then she refused BJ. I didn't like it but ok... Then she came to bed sweaty, smelly and gritty, got on all 4s and said that if I wanted to I could fuck her. I was NOT ok with that. She was also hording and piling stuff around the bed, so I moved to a spare bedroom. She said she would not have sex with someone that was not sleeping with her. I said I was OK with that.
Then the marriage trap started. I said I wanted a friendly divorce and she said she would fight divorce with every penny we had. Then my father died. I was emotionally not ready for a bloody fight. I wanted to be involved with our kid so I figured I would stay until our kid was older and understand things better. I went to see a lawyer to get divorce information and my mother in law, whom I really liked, got very sick. So I waited while trying to give support. The pattern took hold. Every few years I would start exploring divorce and someone in the family (that I like) would get deathly sick or outright die. It's gotten that I am superstitious about talking to lawyers or researching divorce. LOL, the last person was my wife, 2.5 years ago. She spent 8 days in the hospital, but she is doing great now.
A few years after the turn of the century I found a sub. I started the affair with her just to get my rocks off but her personality was great and we are still seeing each other after 22 years, though only about once a week since she became a grandma. Having a supportive sub/sex-toy/pet that I see whenever we can get away really helps.
At this point I am too superstitious about the illness/death pattern and I don't want to lose all my retirement savings to lawyers in what is certain to be a nasty divorce. I kind of settled into the rut of living with my wife despite the emotional and physical alienation. However, I do get physical and emotional support from my sub.
ChloeOfCascadia
Really Experienced
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Married for 10 years.
Last year, wife informs me she is fully aro-ace, and that's why we haven't had sex in about eight years.
I love her and wish her well, I am now separated and trying to find someone who will be my forever woman.
She will always be an important person to me, but, it's akin to her coming out as gay, our marriage is over.
We are friends who shared 10 nice years together.
I need a lover I can share 40+ years together, where there's cuddles, kisses, hugs, and.... hopefully some sex too.
Last year, wife informs me she is fully aro-ace, and that's why we haven't had sex in about eight years.
I love her and wish her well, I am now separated and trying to find someone who will be my forever woman.
She will always be an important person to me, but, it's akin to her coming out as gay, our marriage is over.
We are friends who shared 10 nice years together.
I need a lover I can share 40+ years together, where there's cuddles, kisses, hugs, and.... hopefully some sex too.
Mildkink74
Some kink
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Yes! No intimacy since 2018..has become a house share..
