Rambling Rosie's Retreat

[RosewoodTulip]

Oh, breaking systems is fun for sure

Exactly this. Plus, different ways of appearing sociable work differently. It's easy to hop on Lit for a minute and post a few quick and perky comments here and there. But that isn't actually being sociable.


It can look as if I'm here lots and have all the time in the world. But actually, it's been four minutes. Which is enough to post here, but not enough for a proper conversation. It can be deceptive.

Oh I get that absolutely. I pop here for 5-10 mins, write a couple of replies, then tootle off again. Enough to say hi but not for anything more in depth.
I have let quite a few conversations go neglected which I'm very sorry for but right now I'm lacking in the bandwidth so I just have to hope quick catch ups here are enough for now.

 

[Anastasia1999]

Good morning and happy May Day!

Absolutely scorching here today. Got someone coming round shortly to give me a quote to do my garden. My hands just can't hack the mower anymore and my friends kid, who has been doing it for the last few years, is busy with GCSEs.
Then once it's looking nice again I have another friend - who's been going crazy with potting - that has lots of spare plants and she's gonna come help me get some things in the ground

I love the sound of your garden plans Rosie. There is so much joy to be had from gardening. I know @lingus60 will agree. I often daydream of tending my own vegetable garden when I am no longer working long hours and can put all my energy and focus into being self-sufficient during the warmer months.

Enjoy your day!

 

[Saltfountain]

Got someone coming round shortly to give me a quote to do my garden.

So this isn't a euphemism?

 

[RosewoodTulip]

I love the sound of your garden plans Rosie. There is so much joy to be had from gardening. I know @lingus60 will agree. I often daydream of tending my own vegetable garden when I am no longer working long hours and can put all my energy and focus into being self-sufficient during the warmer months.

Enjoy your day!

That's a lovely daydream

 

[RosewoodTulip]

So this isn't a euphemism?

I wish!

 

[joclfc]

Good morning and happy May Day!

Absolutely scorching here today. Got someone coming round shortly to give me a quote to do my garden. My hands just can't hack the mower anymore and my friends kid, who has been doing it for the last few years, is busy with GCSEs.
Then once it's looking nice again I have another friend - who's been going crazy with potting - that has lots of spare plants and she's gonna come help me get some things in the ground

I love the sound of your garden plans Rosie. There is so much joy to be had from gardening. I know @lingus60 will agree. I often daydream of tending my own vegetable garden when I am no longer working long hours and can put all my energy and focus into being self-sufficient during the warmer months.

Enjoy your day!

Can't wait to have time to cut the lawn this year, maybe I can sit outside with the Granddaughter then

 

[stickygirl]

I waited till our trip was done before planting out seeds in trays and blow-me-down if they ain't popped up already. I'm trying out sugar snaps this year too and have already set up the pigeon minefield.

On a mundane note, I'm expecting a meeting with HR at work to tell me where I can pee.

 

[joclfc]

Thunder here now, and not the band

 

[RosewoodTulip]

I waited till our trip was done before planting out seeds in trays and blow-me-down if they ain't popped up already. I'm trying out sugar snaps this year too and have already set up the pigeon minefield.

On a mundane note, I'm expecting a meeting with HR at work to tell me where I can pee.

Oh no
God I'm sorry. Its all just so utterly stupid and purposefully cruel and ignorant. I'm furious for you

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Thunder here now, and not the band

I'm jealous. I love the thunder

 

[Anastasia1999]

I waited till our trip was done before planting out seeds in trays and blow-me-down if they ain't popped up already. I'm trying out sugar snaps this year too and have already set up the pigeon minefield.

On a mundane note, I'm expecting a meeting with HR at work to tell me where I can pee.

On account of you being transgender? That is no ones business but your own.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Afternoon!
Sorry, I meant good afternoon...

I've just had a lovely and expensive couple of hours at a local village hall - music, crafts, cake stalls

The man has finally come over to do my garden too - still not a euphemism unfortunately.

Everything is coming up Rosie

 

[RosewoodTulip]

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[RosewoodTulip]

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[RosewoodTulip]

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[RosewoodTulip]

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[Wriggle]

Afternoon!
Sorry, I meant good afternoon...

I've just had a lovely and expensive couple of hours at a local village hall - music, crafts, cake stalls

The man has finally come over to do my garden too - still not a euphemism unfortunately.

Everything is coming up Rosie

This is amazing news.
(But would you tip him?)

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Surely these are deliberately done

 

[Wriggle]

And also

 

[joclfc]

I waited till our trip was done before planting out seeds in trays and blow-me-down if they ain't popped up already. I'm trying out sugar snaps this year too and have already set up the pigeon minefield.

On a mundane note, I'm expecting a meeting with HR at work to tell me where I can pee.

In a toilet i hope

 

[stickygirl]

In a toilet i hope

That remains to be seen... maybe they'll offer catheters?

 

[joclfc]

That remains to be seen... maybe they'll offer catheters?

Portaloo maybe

 

[RosewoodTulip]

In a funny kind of frame of mind lately. It's the same on and offline but because we're here I'm just gonna talk about Lit.

I currently and equally feel desperate to jump in the middle of things, be more active, talk to more people and also hide, lurk, stay away.

Whichever way I go it always feels like I should be doing the opposite. Like I'll have a day where I post loads but then I miss being a friendly shadow. Then if I spend too much time reading instead of posting I get sad that I'm not involved more.

I've opened the app so many times today and gone to post but then changed my mind so I've come here to try and work out my thoughts around it. Sometimes it just helps getting them out of my head and in front of my eyes.

Is this a common thing? I know I'm an overthinker and my own worst enemy but surely equally craving company and quiet is weird.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

In a funny kind of frame of mind lately. It's the same on and offline but because we're here I'm just gonna talk about Lit.

I currently and equally feel desperate to jump in the middle of things, be more active, talk to more people and also hide, lurk, stay away.

Whichever way I go it always feels like I should be doing the opposite. Like I'll have a day where I post loads but then I miss being a friendly shadow. Then if I spend too much time reading instead of posting I get sad that I'm not involved more.

I've opened the app so many times today and gone to post but then changed my mind so I've come here to try and work out my thoughts around it. Sometimes it just helps getting them out of my head and in front of my eyes.

Is this a common thing? I know I'm an overthinker and my own worst enemy but surely equally craving company and quiet is weird.

I don't know if you want other's thoughts but... this is incredibly common. The best Lit advice I was ever given by the ever missed @Miles Long was "Be here when it's fun. When it's not, go be somewhere else." I have the most fun when I can engage with people and get posty. But when I'm feeling like I want to be here but maybe.... my personality is a little tired? I just like other people's posts and contribute by (hopefully) making other people feel seen.

I've long given up on the idea of the "right way" to Lit but as long as you are true to yourself, what you find fun and what you don't want to engage in, you'll be happier. I think everyone struggles with feeling left out from time to time but... I think that's the thing.... we all feel that way. You are excellent fun, delightfully sexy, kind and thoughtful. You make Lit better but you owe it nothing. Be here when it's fun, make it fun if you have the bandwidth.... if not? Go be somewhere else.

Hope any of that made sense.
xx

 

[RosewoodTulip]

I don't know if you want other's thoughts but...

Absolutely and thank you for sharing yours

But when I'm feeling like I want to be here but maybe.... my personality is a little tired? I just like other people's posts and contribute by (hopefully) making other people feel seen.

That's a lovely way of thinking about how to still be a part of things when your social battery is drained.

You are excellent fun, delightfully sexy, kind and thoughtful. You make Lit better but you owe it nothing.

Aw

Its interesting you say "owe" because sometimes I struggle with that. Like not keeping up with pm's or not visiting my favourite threads. I feel guilty for not showing up for people but it's never out of malice or willful neglect - I just don't have the energy - and then I fall behind and then it's hard to jump back in... so I don't.

Hope any of that made sense.
xx

It did. Thank you so much!

 

[AngelicaS1780]

I currently and equally feel desperate to jump in the middle of things, be more active, talk to more people and also hide, lurk, stay away.

Whichever way I go it always feels like I should be doing the opposite. Like I'll have a day where I post loads but then I miss being a friendly shadow. Then if I spend too much time reading instead of posting I get sad that I'm not involved more.

It sounds like a lot of posting, while enjoyable, can leave you needing some quiet. I think that’s perfectly normal, especially for introverts. And it sounds like you take care of yourself by stepping back for a while. And then, when you start to miss posting, you go back to being more actively involved. That seems like a healthy approach to me.

What do you mean when you say it always feels like you should be doing the opposite? For example, do you feel overwhelmed by a lot of posting? Guilty or missing out if you’re not? I think you might be doing what is right for you at the time, but maybe second guessing yourself as to why you’re doing it. Don’t know if this makes any sense.

Is this a common thing? I know I'm an overthinker and my own worst enemy but surely equally craving company and quiet is weird.

I’m also an overthinker and far from my own best cheerleader. I often find myself in a similar situation, where I am craving both active interaction and quiet observation. But I think my feelings stem more from the pull between taking chances and interacting and the safety of staying in my comfort zone and being more of an observer who mainly leaves reactions.