Rambling Rosie's Retreat
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joclfc
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You know that was a joke right?
joclfc
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Im not reading people too good
Mei5ter
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It may or may not make you feel better, but a number of years ago I was asked to take a test which assessed things like sociability and how you interact with people. The possible score range was between 3 and 21. Somehow, I got 2.5.I just aced a test!
Granted it wasn't really a test but a questionnaire from the therapy team to assess potential Ptsd.
(to make sure I'm definitely going to receive the correct treatment)
A score over 38 would suggest trauma.
I got 59...
Yay me
And yet I'm basically employed nowadays because I'm meant to have interpersonal skills, rather than because I'm meant to know stuff. This is one of many reasons why I now prefer interviewers who ask me my star sign to those who try to read the tea leaves in a Myers Briggs alphabet soup.
Being serious briefly, this is a way to get you support if you want it, rather than a way to limit or define who you are. And be proud of yourself for having the strength to find it.
RosewoodTulip
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Thank you.
And tbh I'd be weirdly impressed with myself if I got an apparently impossible score. But that just might be me!
How do you assess sociability anyway? Surely it's not a "one size fits all" thing. I have different levels of sociability in one day depending on mood, energy levels and who I'm talking to. When my depression flares up I barely talk to anyone.
For what it's worth you definitely don't strike me as being unsociable. Rather you've learned what works for you in terms of when you give your time and who to and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.
joclfc
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Mei5ter
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Oh, breaking systems is fun for sure
Exactly this. Plus, different ways of appearing sociable work differently. It's easy to hop on Lit for a minute and post a few quick and perky comments here and there. But that isn't actually being sociable.
It can look as if I'm here lots and have all the time in the world. But actually, it's been four minutes. Which is enough to post here, but not enough for a proper conversation. It can be deceptive.
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You're still doing better than me.Oh, breaking systems is fun for sure
Exactly this. Plus, different ways of appearing sociable work differently. It's easy to hop on Lit for a minute and post a few quick and perky comments here and there. But that isn't actually being sociable.
It can look as if I'm here lots and have all the time in the world. But actually, it's been four minutes. Which is enough to post here, but not enough for a proper conversation. It can be deceptive.
I'm still an antisocial cunt
Stfu @joclfc
Anastasia1999
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Happy 1st of May Rosie and friends!!!!
lingus60
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And to you too Ana... and everyone ! Feels more like July than May at the moment. Beautiful weather....Happy 1st of May Rosie and friends!!!!
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Happy 1st of May Rosie and friends!!!!
Good morning and happy May Day!
Absolutely scorching here today. Got someone coming round shortly to give me a quote to do my garden. My hands just can't hack the mower anymore and my friends kid, who has been doing it for the last few years, is busy with GCSEs.
Then once it's looking nice again I have another friend - who's been going crazy with potting - that has lots of spare plants and she's gonna come help me get some things in the ground
RosewoodTulip
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Oh I get that absolutely. I pop here for 5-10 mins, write a couple of replies, then tootle off again. Enough to say hi but not for anything more in depth.Oh, breaking systems is fun for sure
Exactly this. Plus, different ways of appearing sociable work differently. It's easy to hop on Lit for a minute and post a few quick and perky comments here and there. But that isn't actually being sociable.
It can look as if I'm here lots and have all the time in the world. But actually, it's been four minutes. Which is enough to post here, but not enough for a proper conversation. It can be deceptive.
I have let quite a few conversations go neglected which I'm very sorry for but right now I'm lacking in the bandwidth so I just have to hope quick catch ups here are enough for now.
Anastasia1999
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I love the sound of your garden plans Rosie. There is so much joy to be had from gardening. I know @lingus60 will agree. I often daydream of tending my own vegetable garden when I am no longer working long hours and can put all my energy and focus into being self-sufficient during the warmer months.
Enjoy your day!
Saltfountain
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So this isn't a euphemism?
RosewoodTulip
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That's a lovely daydream
RosewoodTulip
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I wish!So this isn't a euphemism?
joclfc
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Can't wait to have time to cut the lawn this year, maybe I can sit outside with the Granddaughter then
stickygirl
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I waited till our trip was done before planting out seeds in trays and blow-me-down if they ain't popped up already. I'm trying out sugar snaps this year too and have already set up the pigeon minefield.
On a mundane note, I'm expecting a meeting with HR at work to tell me where I can pee.
On a mundane note, I'm expecting a meeting with HR at work to tell me where I can pee.
RosewoodTulip
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Oh no
God I'm sorry. Its all just so utterly stupid and purposefully cruel and ignorant. I'm furious for you
RosewoodTulip
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I'm jealous. I love the thunder
Anastasia1999
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On account of you being transgender? That is no ones business but your own.
RosewoodTulip
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Afternoon!
Sorry, I meant good afternoon...
I've just had a lovely and expensive couple of hours at a local village hall - music, crafts, cake stalls
The man has finally come over to do my garden too - still not a euphemism unfortunately.
Everything is coming up Rosie
Sorry, I meant good afternoon...
I've just had a lovely and expensive couple of hours at a local village hall - music, crafts, cake stalls
The man has finally come over to do my garden too - still not a euphemism unfortunately.
Everything is coming up Rosie
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