Rambling Rosie's Retreat

[RosewoodTulip]

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[RosewoodTulip]

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[RosewoodTulip]

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[Wriggle]

Afternoon!
Sorry, I meant good afternoon...

I've just had a lovely and expensive couple of hours at a local village hall - music, crafts, cake stalls

The man has finally come over to do my garden too - still not a euphemism unfortunately.

Everything is coming up Rosie

This is amazing news.
(But would you tip him?)

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Surely these are deliberately done

 

[Wriggle]

And also

 

[joclfc]

I waited till our trip was done before planting out seeds in trays and blow-me-down if they ain't popped up already. I'm trying out sugar snaps this year too and have already set up the pigeon minefield.

On a mundane note, I'm expecting a meeting with HR at work to tell me where I can pee.

In a toilet i hope

 

[stickygirl]

In a toilet i hope

That remains to be seen... maybe they'll offer catheters?

 

[joclfc]

That remains to be seen... maybe they'll offer catheters?

Portaloo maybe

 

[RosewoodTulip]

In a funny kind of frame of mind lately. It's the same on and offline but because we're here I'm just gonna talk about Lit.

I currently and equally feel desperate to jump in the middle of things, be more active, talk to more people and also hide, lurk, stay away.

Whichever way I go it always feels like I should be doing the opposite. Like I'll have a day where I post loads but then I miss being a friendly shadow. Then if I spend too much time reading instead of posting I get sad that I'm not involved more.

I've opened the app so many times today and gone to post but then changed my mind so I've come here to try and work out my thoughts around it. Sometimes it just helps getting them out of my head and in front of my eyes.

Is this a common thing? I know I'm an overthinker and my own worst enemy but surely equally craving company and quiet is weird.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

In a funny kind of frame of mind lately. It's the same on and offline but because we're here I'm just gonna talk about Lit.

I currently and equally feel desperate to jump in the middle of things, be more active, talk to more people and also hide, lurk, stay away.

Whichever way I go it always feels like I should be doing the opposite. Like I'll have a day where I post loads but then I miss being a friendly shadow. Then if I spend too much time reading instead of posting I get sad that I'm not involved more.

I've opened the app so many times today and gone to post but then changed my mind so I've come here to try and work out my thoughts around it. Sometimes it just helps getting them out of my head and in front of my eyes.

Is this a common thing? I know I'm an overthinker and my own worst enemy but surely equally craving company and quiet is weird.

I don't know if you want other's thoughts but... this is incredibly common. The best Lit advice I was ever given by the ever missed @Miles Long was "Be here when it's fun. When it's not, go be somewhere else." I have the most fun when I can engage with people and get posty. But when I'm feeling like I want to be here but maybe.... my personality is a little tired? I just like other people's posts and contribute by (hopefully) making other people feel seen.

I've long given up on the idea of the "right way" to Lit but as long as you are true to yourself, what you find fun and what you don't want to engage in, you'll be happier. I think everyone struggles with feeling left out from time to time but... I think that's the thing.... we all feel that way. You are excellent fun, delightfully sexy, kind and thoughtful. You make Lit better but you owe it nothing. Be here when it's fun, make it fun if you have the bandwidth.... if not? Go be somewhere else.

Hope any of that made sense.
xx

 

[RosewoodTulip]

I don't know if you want other's thoughts but...

Absolutely and thank you for sharing yours

But when I'm feeling like I want to be here but maybe.... my personality is a little tired? I just like other people's posts and contribute by (hopefully) making other people feel seen.

That's a lovely way of thinking about how to still be a part of things when your social battery is drained.

You are excellent fun, delightfully sexy, kind and thoughtful. You make Lit better but you owe it nothing.

Aw

Its interesting you say "owe" because sometimes I struggle with that. Like not keeping up with pm's or not visiting my favourite threads. I feel guilty for not showing up for people but it's never out of malice or willful neglect - I just don't have the energy - and then I fall behind and then it's hard to jump back in... so I don't.

Hope any of that made sense.
xx

It did. Thank you so much!

 

[AngelicaS1780]

I currently and equally feel desperate to jump in the middle of things, be more active, talk to more people and also hide, lurk, stay away.

Whichever way I go it always feels like I should be doing the opposite. Like I'll have a day where I post loads but then I miss being a friendly shadow. Then if I spend too much time reading instead of posting I get sad that I'm not involved more.

It sounds like a lot of posting, while enjoyable, can leave you needing some quiet. I think that’s perfectly normal, especially for introverts. And it sounds like you take care of yourself by stepping back for a while. And then, when you start to miss posting, you go back to being more actively involved. That seems like a healthy approach to me.

What do you mean when you say it always feels like you should be doing the opposite? For example, do you feel overwhelmed by a lot of posting? Guilty or missing out if you’re not? I think you might be doing what is right for you at the time, but maybe second guessing yourself as to why you’re doing it. Don’t know if this makes any sense.

Is this a common thing? I know I'm an overthinker and my own worst enemy but surely equally craving company and quiet is weird.

I’m also an overthinker and far from my own best cheerleader. I often find myself in a similar situation, where I am craving both active interaction and quiet observation. But I think my feelings stem more from the pull between taking chances and interacting and the safety of staying in my comfort zone and being more of an observer who mainly leaves reactions.

 

[Wand3rlust]

@PrettyLilPussy19 is correct. You owe Lit nothing.

Likewise the people and PM's here. Message when you can, and feel like it. Anyone worth your while will just be happy hear from you. If anyone makes you feel anything else, then fuck em.

I hope all my friends know that they can reach out to me whenever. And I will with them, when I feel like I can. And in the meantime.

Like, heart, and wow away...

 

[RosewoodTulip]

It sounds like a lot of posting, while enjoyable, can leave you needing some quiet. I think that’s perfectly normal, especially for introverts. And it sounds like you take care of yourself by stepping back for a while. And then, when you start to miss posting, you go back to being more actively involved. That seems like a healthy approach to me.

What do you mean when you say it always feels like you should be doing the opposite? For example, do you feel overwhelmed by a lot of posting? Guilty or missing out if you’re not? I think you might be doing what is right for you at the time, but maybe second guessing yourself as to why you’re doing it. Don’t know if this makes any sense.


I’m also an overthinker and far from my own best cheerleader. I often find myself in a similar situation, where I am craving both active interaction and quiet observation. But I think my feelings stem more from the pull between taking chances and interacting and the safety of staying in my comfort zone and being more of an observer who mainly leaves reactions.

@PrettyLilPussy19 is correct. You owe Lit nothing.

Likewise the people and PM's here. Message when you can, and feel like it. Anyone worth your while will just be happy hear from you. If anyone makes you feel anything else, then fuck em.

I hope all my friends know that they can reach out to me whenever. And I will with them, when I feel like I can. And in the meantime.

Like, heart, and wow away...

I will reply to both of you tomorrow (when I'm sober) but I just want to say thank you for sharing your thoughts

 

[Wand3rlust]

I will reply to both of you tomorrow (when I'm sober) but I just want to say thank you for sharing your thoughts

Fuck it's weird being a different timezone - I'm just about to get started!!

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Fuck it's weird being a different timezone - I'm just about to get started!!

What's the Canadian drink of choice then?

I've just been on the wine. Got stupid emotional at Encanto and cried even though I've seen it before

 

[Wand3rlust]

I'm having different ones everytime I go out!

Much to my sister's annoyance, who just wants to drink tea 24/7.

I'm not sure we're actually related...

 

[RosewoodTulip]

I'm having different ones everytime I go out!

Much to my sister's annoyance, who just wants to drink tea 24/7.

I'm not sure we're actually related...

I have a friend who - whenever we go out to a restaurant, especially to an Indian for some reason - always asks for a cup of tea! Like why?

 

[Wand3rlust]

I have a friend who - whenever we go out to a restaurant, especially to an Indian for some reason - always asks for a cup of tea! Like why?

No!!! Why, indeed!?!

People are weird.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

No!!! Why, indeed!?!

People are weird.

Tis true
Good job I like weird really

 

[Wand3rlust]

Tis true
Good job I like weird really

I mean, it's good for me!

 

[RosewoodTulip]

I mean, it's good for me!

All my favourite people are at least a little weird.

 

[stickygirl]

One of my walks goes past a cricket pitch and today there was a women's game underway - mostly teenagers AND two left-handed bowlers. Stereotypes smashed It made me very happy

 

[RosewoodTulip]

It sounds like a lot of posting, while enjoyable, can leave you needing some quiet. I think that’s perfectly normal, especially for introverts.

Sorry Ang, it was a bonus day off for the schools yesterday and I didn't have a chance to come back to this.

Oh I'm definitely an introvert. It just sucks that I get social anxiety even online! Very annoying.

What do you mean when you say it always feels like you should be doing the opposite? For example, do you feel overwhelmed by a lot of posting? Guilty or missing out if you’re not?

Yeah overwhelmed. But also I worry that I'm saying or doing the wrong thing. Like I'm being serious when it's a silly topic or vice versa. I do feel guilty too because I enjoy this weird, pervy corner of the net very much but I just can't be as present as I'd like to be. But I'm working on finding a balance.

I’m also an overthinker and far from my own best cheerleader. I often find myself in a similar situation, where I am craving both active interaction and quiet observation. But I think my feelings stem more from the pull between taking chances and interacting and the safety of staying in my comfort zone and being more of an observer who mainly leaves reactions.

Staying in your comfort zone is a good way to describe things. I started joining in more to get myself out of mine and over time I've slowly retreated.
Wish I could just adjust the settings in my brain you know so I wouldn't focus on stuff like this that probably doesn't even matter.

 

[Wriggle]

Believe it or not I'm actually an introvert who has just learned to pretend to be (mask as) an extrovert.